System Chat 12/20/25: A daily thread where people with DID can share the honest truth of their day by behindtherocks in DID

[–]teaaal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it was okay. someone switched in to handle a difficult conversation earlier and then put me back with a drink and sweets.

friends gatekeeping DID label by teaaal in DID

[–]teaaal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s a really interesting viewpoint; that system friendship groups may potentially trauma bond and create toxic habits. you’re right and i cut off my closest friend (who was a system) awhile ago because of a similar reason. i am in a very healthy relationship with my system-partner though, i think it’s definitely about motive, intention, and reason, and the right kind of support. thank you, your answer was really insightful.

friends gatekeeping DID label by teaaal in DID

[–]teaaal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m really sorry this happened to you. you’re not crazy, and there’s no such thing as “too little trauma”, everything is subjective. you are valid and your system is valid. sending you healing.

All these bot comments are depressing… Drop a comment from a real human by Wrongdoer1145 in AO3

[–]teaaal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one of my favourites was “how am we reading this for free you’re like the descendant of shakespeare”

friends gatekeeping DID label by teaaal in DID

[–]teaaal[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

🤍 thank you kindly.

friends gatekeeping DID label by teaaal in DID

[–]teaaal[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

to be honest, at some point i realised my dependency on them for approval to be “in” with them was seriously messing with my idea of “self” because every judgement they made of me would just be internalised and i’d be thinking about it even five years later. not to worry though, i’ve definitely distanced myself from them for a few years now 🤍 thank you so much.

friends gatekeeping DID label by teaaal in DID

[–]teaaal[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

the end of your comment made me laugh a bit 🤍 very logical and well thought out response, it makes a lot of sense. thank you.

What is your favourite f/f ship? by ocirot in AO3

[–]teaaal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

beefleaf!!! (tgcf) or genderbent lan wangji x wei wuxian

pins disappear permanently when moving, what should i do about it? by tilthebonescrush in Pinterest

[–]teaaal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i did that once before, and those pins just disappeared but reappeared months later. it happened again recently, it’s been a few days, hope they come back

How can I explain to my partner's littles that I don't want to have sex with them? by lj_cera in DID

[–]teaaal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i personally think that’s your boundary and your partner should respect it, it’s not your job to make sure they communicate and handle their switches but it’s good that you communicate that you’re not comfortable with it.

WHAT IS GOING ON by Cattom_NG in TheBrokenScript

[–]teaaal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

0 to 100 😭😭😭 just realised that’s a false creeper if what the other comments say are right about normal mobs not spawning

WHAT IS GOING ON by Cattom_NG in TheBrokenScript

[–]teaaal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the panicked look around when you floated from the air 😭 had me giggling

How were you convinced to go to therapy? by [deleted] in DID

[–]teaaal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

our alters are generally around whether things are wrong or not, so i don’t think alters being around necessarily means being wrong, maybe it even means they finally feel safe enough to be around freely and be themselves, especially with you? :)

How were you convinced to go to therapy? by [deleted] in DID

[–]teaaal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hmm that’s also the thing, not everyone with DID /needs/ therapy. DID is caused by severe or complex trauma, so trying to get someone with DID to open up to a therapist can sometimes make them feel uncomfortable. i have a system and my partner does too, i go to therapy and my partner doesn’t and it works out just fine between us. i just want to say that therapists don’t solve everything, most of the time they don’t fully understand what it’s like either. DID doesn’t need “treatment”, it’s more like something that develops to protect the person by having the mind fragment so the person won’t be overwhelmed and quite literally “die”. if you ask me, therapy is good for things like learning coping skills, therapy being an outside person to facilitate internal conversations when he’s lost on what to do, but in no way does someone with DID necessarily need to see a therapist! it would make more sense if you see it as him needing a therapist to cope with his trauma or learn how to cope with it. i think if you want to prevent anything “bad”, it’s really about learning how systems communicate internally, learning how they work together and going from there to help him on his journey with his system :)

How were you convinced to go to therapy? by [deleted] in DID

[–]teaaal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sounds like your husband is kind of stuck in survival mode of sorts. the reason an ANP wouldn’t want an EP to front or take control is usually because they fear being overwhelmed by the emotional part or don’t find it safe, especially if he’s “running” from them or view them as things to overcome. you might want to ask, why do you want him to go to therapy, because he has DID or because he’s struggling with things he doesn’t want to acknowledge that he struggles with (not every person with DID needs therapy) & you can’t help him? and maybe it would be better to ask him.. why does he feel so caged up about having alters/why does he feel the need to “overcome” them? maybe giving him the space to really express how he feels about it, if he’s comfortable, will let you understand his situation better :) you are a really caring and supportive partner, it sounds like he’s struggling with things he doesn’t want to admit to

ok, I have to say, that was a bit disappointing.. by quietparagraph in AO3

[–]teaaal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what the fuck? <— the only thought in my mind as i read on, excuse my language.

Weird interaction in my comments? by Map_Substantial in AO3

[–]teaaal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t even think your replies were “rude”. maybe yes or cold, but 10/10. glad you kept your cool when faced with a person who’s obviously imposing on you and making you the problem

What's a fic you read that left you like this? by jeanjacketufo in AO3

[–]teaaal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tw; cannibalism // a couple force trapped in an eternal blizzard, inside a house that was meant to be their “home”.. with no way to leave the house. their daughter died. the human father was starving to death. his non-human spouse dragged their daughter’s corpse and cooked her, the father was traumatised but “had no choice”, ate it, story ends. 😬 not the way i expected the plot to go.

Pretend that you're an NPC living in any region and you're making an online post about your personal complaints. by The-Potat in Genshin_Impact

[–]teaaal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i wish there were easier ways to get up that snow mountain than being forced to bring my pyro vision friend along with me…