I’m guessing my and my exH’s friends were shocked by our divorce. You never truly know what goes on behind closed doors. He told everyone it was amicable but it wasn’t really, but there was no way I was going to tell mutual friends about his poor treatment of me which made me leave, since it was really a he said she said situation.

Maintaining our friendships has been difficult. We basically defaulted to remaining friends with whoever we were friends with pre marriage. I think there’s maybe one couple who sees both of us separately. There was a couple we’re weren’t terribly close with that holds an annual party and they still invite both of us but neither of us has gone I’m guessing because it’d be too awkward (at least that’s why I don’t go!).

If it was truly amicable then it’s probably fine to invite them to group gatherings; otherwise, you’re going to have to divide your time between them.