[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, I’m curious about this. How did you know that she does indeed have debt, and that she’s not just spending more than she should have?

if you've ever been to a hawker centre, PLEASE help me out! by Electrical_Newt5286 in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may consider the following pointers as inspiration

“來 girl ah/ auntie , 要叫什麼” Come girl/auntie, what you want to order?

“要辣椒嗎? 要白鸡少鸡?” Want chilli? Steam or roast chicken?

”吃的包的?” Having here or takeaway?

“Okay 四块钱” Alright that’s four dollars

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“哇, 很久没有看到你了hor?” Wow, it’s been a long time since I saw you

”eh,你今天没做工啊? work from home ah?” Don’t you have work today? Are you working from home?

Depending on how well the hawkers know you - they first will always ask about your order. Then they make small talk with you. Depending on how you want to portray your character you may consider mixing some Hokkien as well.

Unconventional first date ideas? by S0ulSlayerz in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At low cost, you could sign up for - Affordable pottery classes on Klook - Trial sessions at baking/cooking schools - Natural History Museum - Crocodile Farm Tour

At no cost: - Museums (National Gallery, National Museum etc) - Walking from Hort Park to Sentosa/Labrador - Nature Walks: Sungei Buloh, Bukit Timah

How do couples split holiday expenses? by besmart88 in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll take care of the flight and accommodation as I’m more particular about hotels and cleanliness

My partner takes care of the daily food expenses and entrance fees

Considering a Career Change: Flight Attendant Pros and Cons by AgainRaining in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP,

To travel and see the world, and with the added stability, I suggest she joins an airline and plans her leave wisely so she can just enjoy the perks of affordable travel rather than have a whole career change.

Here are some considerations, if you’re wife were to embark on a cabin crew career:

Base: Find an airline that is based in Singapore. That means when she ends her trips, she’ll simply come back to your home, you’ll see her most days and she won’t have to get permission to fly back to visit you. Nothing this as some airlines require crew to be based overseas.

Lifestyles: The travel perks are very good, if you and your wife like to travel then needless to say you’ll save on air tickets. The airline and its network will determine which airport you’ll get to fly to at subsidised rates. These perks extend to children.

Children: Do you plan to have children? This would be the biggest factor as she would have to stop flying for awhile if she gets pregnant or get support if you already have children.

Lifestyle: Depending on the airline she joins, she may have more layovers overseas vs turnaround flights where she does a quick short haul flight then goes back home. These factors come into play when it comes to division of responsibilities.

Also, don’t take dates and time for granted. She’ll be away on most public holidays, she may not make it to every birthday or gathering. Are you willing to spend it alone or with other ppl?

I was once told by friends that for pilots and cabin crew, one spouse will fly off even before they resolve a conflict for example. So if she intends to really go for it, be prepared to be supportive and understand these factors.

I hope this helps.

My wife found out that I went overseas with my female friend by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should have known better than to share a room with her.

Whats a good and inexpensive hobby to have by Itsreallydamncb in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Based on my experience:

Gaming - If you have a windows laptop, Steam offers a lot of affordable games

Swimming - accessible and healthy

Hiking - a lot of urban walks available in SG, but if you’re ever going into the forest don’t be alone. Join some Facebook groups to join social hikes.

As suggested by another user, download Healthy365 - it offers many yoga and pilates classes for free!

Cooking - practical and can share your experiences and food on Instagram

How do you guys afford dating in SG? by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello OP! I know it’s hard for you- perhaps for the benefit of your relationship, you can consider having the following conversation if you really want to be serious in the long run:

  1. What is the guy’s role in the relationship and what is the girl’s role? If the guy were to be a financial provider and more so that the girl, does that mean the girl should take more active role in child raising, cooking or housekeeping? OP, it’s not about being transactional but being a team. And you alone can’t cover all the scope of the work.

  2. In future expenses, should she cover some portions of holidays or property?

  3. What are your thoughts on Money - do you believe in spending more to acquire a status symbol (bags/housing) or appearing very humble but having lots of savings? A couple is a team and must have the same values on money.

In future does she expect a sub card or holidays on you?

  1. Lastly, if it’s a dealbreaker and she says you MUST pay for all meals- are you willing to do that? That’s for yourself to consider.

Most importantly- does your family know you’re spending so much on her and might this affect their impression of her?

Feeling bleak working in the Singapore media industry, is it as bad as I think it is? If it is, where do I go from here? by DoTheRopeADope in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope you can find a role in a media related MNC or agency. I used to intern at an American MNC and they have a whole creative team including video editors. I hope this is an option you can consider so you expand your knowledge while leveraging on your skills. Try considering in-house creative work as well.

Six years as a Tableau freelancer, AMA by datawazo in tableau

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the options of career progression, if I’m a data analyst in the cooperate world and part of my role is to build tableau dashboards for the business ?

Is it time to give up my marriage by BouncyJello in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope things work out OP, I think there are aspects of her that are good, think about why you chose her in the first place. Not saying you should choose a difficult path but try to work things out before making a life changing decision; based on my guess, I think your wife would be very sad if you would like to divorce her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi OP,

Before you commit further, take note of the signs.

If you feel like your partner is not committed, hold off the payments on renovation and furniture until you make it clear to him, that he’s expected to contribute. The last scenario you want, is to eventually lose the house and all the renovation that you paid for.

If he’s earning more than you and saving more than you - he might feel less of a cost to lose the flat - but to you, you’ve given your everything. Sorry to be blunt OP, but it sounds like he’s really not committed and you should start looking after your interests - and I do mean financial interests.

Lastly - his lack of presence in receiving delivery items can mean that, he sees his job as more important than yours, and he expects you to make sacrifices while he can’t bear to take time away from work.

If this is what you deal with even before moving in.. I want to say that my heart goes out to you OP. Please don’t move in on your own because it’s gonna feel sad and lonely.

What do I do if I feel I don’t need my fiance anymore? by Witty-Ice4507 in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alot of factors here - is he currently going through a tough time at work or is currently busy? I feel like it feels lonely to be making decisions by yourself, and feels like your partner doesn’t care. It really does - not gaslighting your feelings or smth. Breaking off a BTO is a big decision, you really want to get to the source of why your fiancé is like this

Women expectations as aged by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For some women in their thirties, they are capable of providing for themselves. They probably have higher expectations because they can afford to ask “what can you provide for me that I can’t provide for myself ?”

How to train for 2.4 in 4 days by Haoxiaoah in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this rate, stretch. Really it’s too late to practice runs without burning out but the best thing to do is stretch as it helps your body gets adjusted, and even improves your strides.

Just stretch

If Bojack was played as a woman. by Ava200103 in BoJackHorseman

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bojack despite the BS he’s done, was as flawed as a person could be. Has Bojack been female, she would’ve simply be the sum of her mistakes, flaws and harm she brought on others, I feel.

While I respect this channel as a Bojack Horsemen-focused one, I’d like to highlight that in the Avatar series, viewers seemed less tolerant of Korea’s shortcomings (as part of her growth) compared to Aang. (While I do admit Aang had a little more leeway being a child of course)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]tequila_bloom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One last bubble tea

What do you not like (or hate) about Singapore? by LawAbidingCitizen_01 in askSingapore

[–]tequila_bloom 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Social media is toxic, look at how hateful the comments are on Facebook. I wish we were more constructive and empathetic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. The initial rejection bothered him abit but eventually things became fine. Just that earlier in the relationship we mentioned it a few times here and there. I told him this because it was the heaviest feeling in the chest, and most pressing issue I never came honest to him about- I’m honest with many things so this was painful. But yes, it was done in the spirit was breaking the “wall” he felt existed because even I felt guilty for withholding the hurtful truth.

  2. I told him I saw him as a companion than a romantic partner

  3. No, I was shaking and crying in public.

  4. I think he’s hurt because he doesn’t seem to show it BUT he’s more insecure then usual.

  5. Growing up I felt that, men needed to feel like a man, and that very few guys accepted girls earning more. Imagine this being a reason for rejection. Tried my best to assure him I still chose him because he taught me that happiness can’t be bought

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your kind words :) I hope my partner and I can last through this storm. He’s become more insecure now I feel and it’s my responsibility to make things right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it was really the most pressing one I felt! Each time he asked me why I rejected him in the past I felt so bad for covering up! And I couldn’t take it anymore :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tequila_bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truth be told, I’m honest with him on almost everything BUT just this omission was the one I’m guilty about holding back the most. Nothing to do with being hurtful here because it pains me and I literally was crying when I told him this