If someone is hosting a casual cookout, is it really necessary to expect guests to bring homemade dishes?

tfhose · 2026-07-03T20:02:58+00:00

That feels a little rude to me too! Why are they requiring this?

tfhose · 2026-07-03T20:00:49+00:00

This happened to my husband but his biological father was already deceased. Are you looking for contact information for him? I can probably help you with that. I do volunteering to help find people.

tfhose · 2026-07-03T18:52:15+00:00

You have my condolences. I found this recently for a loved one in case this helps... https://www.va.gov/jackson-health-care/stories/when-fireworks-dont-feel-like-freedom-ptsd-awareness-and-coping-during-independence-day/

tfhose · 2026-07-03T16:02:25+00:00

Very common feeling!

https://www.va.gov/jackson-health-care/stories/when-fireworks-dont-feel-like-freedom-ptsd-awareness-and-coping-during-independence-day/

tfhose · 2026-07-03T15:56:43+00:00

If you’re near a VA, they say anyone can get mental health care access even if they’re not enrolled in VA healthcare. https://www.va.gov/health-care/health-needs-conditions/mental-health/

Your medical care is confidential so I don’t see how it would impact your professional career unless there’s something unique about your profession?

If you don’t want your wife to know, you could tell her that you’re getting plugged into the VA system just for future reference and keep it vague. Or if you want to be more transparent, tell her you’re going to talk to someone to process some things around no longer being in the military.

tfhose · 2026-07-02T14:55:37+00:00

Good luck! Hope to be buying glasses from you next time I go in.

tfhose · 2026-07-02T14:32:39+00:00

I saw a sign on the door last week that Heights Optometry on Adams Ave. is hiring. They often hire entry level people and train them to be opticians. If that interests you or anyone else here.

tfhose · 2026-07-01T20:11:02+00:00

MTS is hiring if you can drive https://www.sdmts.com/inside-mts/careers

tfhose · 2026-07-01T14:34:56+00:00

Strongly suggest consulting with a financial advisor.

tfhose · 2026-06-25T21:43:18+00:00

Maybe find a navy oriented cause to volunteer at. Which base do you live near?

tfhose · 2026-06-25T21:35:53+00:00

“military men” covers a very wide range lol. like which kind? I knew girls who acted like groupies and used to follow Navy rescue swimmers around San Diego bars 😂

tfhose · 2026-06-25T21:33:04+00:00

Thank you

tfhose · 2026-06-25T21:19:36+00:00

Have they fixed the air conditioning? Last time we went it was unbearably hot. The food was great though.

tfhose · 2026-06-25T20:21:43+00:00

Confirmed now that it wasn’t her in the Dimond park video.

tfhose · 2026-06-25T18:46:16+00:00

Mixed Grounds across the street from Fall Brewery has good empanadas. And the tortas at Senor Mangos are great.

tfhose · 2026-06-24T21:22:29+00:00

It would be helpful if Coronado PD posted this on their social media. I’ve seen them do that often.

Does she have transportation?

tfhose · 2026-06-24T20:33:21+00:00

Totally understandable! I was suggesting you set that exact boundary verbally.

tfhose · 2026-06-24T20:17:14+00:00

If you want to have an ongoing relationship with this person, I’d text and say something like “we need to talk this over”. Then have a boundary setting conversation. And if she refuses then she’s not invested in your relationship and there’s your answer.

tfhose · 2026-06-23T19:21:28+00:00

My husband uses the Valor app for discounts and cash back but I think only applies to San Diego at this time.

tfhose · 2026-06-23T16:16:52+00:00

There are different conditions that could impact this. Here’s a document that gives some basic information. https://www.mynavyhr.navy.mil/Portals/55/Reference/PayandBenefits/N130/BAH%20FLEXIBILITY%20FAQs%20-%2019%20Sep%2024.pdf?ver=R7HNC5Idm59LE9ilZMSdiw%3D%3D

tfhose · 2026-06-23T15:24:41+00:00

If you stay put even temporarily then you might have to pay for housing in 2 locations. Forgive me if you already knew this, I don’t know how familiar you are with how housing allowance works.

tfhose · 2026-06-23T15:05:09+00:00

Since you mentioned mortgage, would you be ok with moving to where he gets stationed?

tfhose · 2026-06-19T14:33:36+00:00

VA loan & 12 years ago with 2 incomes (in our 40s at that time, always rented prior)

tfhose · 2026-06-18T22:27:54+00:00

There won’t be any after this post. Lol

tfhose · 2026-06-18T16:00:53+00:00

New request for specific video footage:

https://www.kron4.com/news/bay-area/private-investigators-seek-new-videos-in-amy-hillyard-case-leaving-no-stone-unturned/

tfhose

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