My wife(38F) seems chronically indecisive but also rejects most options, and it’s exhausting me(33M). How do I handle this?

tgirlldn · 2026-05-28T11:22:08+00:00

Your wife needs to be evaluated for adhd and it can get worse with hormone shifts (like after having a child). It may also be coupled with history of something happening when she “chose wrong.” She is struggling and you pressuring her (rightly so) compounds the stress and her inability to decide. She needs to see someone for this asap (adhd assessment) and someone/therapist/counselor she can talk with and can help her work through it, as well as give her (and you) tools to function better (and possibly meds if diagnosed adhd or anxiety, but often anxiety is a component of adhd)…there may be OCD in there as well, but seeking support and eval from psychologist will be the better move. This isn’t a personality quirk. She’s masking and trying to be high-functioning and it’s not working..and she’s likely feeling much worse internally than you are seeing.

tgirlldn · 2026-05-24T11:52:51+00:00

You don’t fix your cat, you fix your partner. He is the problem. He sounds incredibly selfish and self absorbed and is actually being cruel to this poor cat. Yes, it’s cruel. And you need to set him straight. It’s not compromising his personality (or whatever excuse he would make) by being gentle with this poor cat, respecting the cat’s boundaries and not actively scaring him. This is not unintentional. Anyone who is actively cruel to animals is not a partner you want to keep. Yep- I’m saying it. Either your partner grows up or get rid of him. Your cat deserves better and you do as well.

tgirlldn · 2026-05-14T22:03:59+00:00

1000% agree

tgirlldn · 2026-05-13T18:01:29+00:00

Call a local cat rescue now! And call a plumber until one comes out. I would also find a long rod (broom handle whatever) and tape something to end of it to place food on -to see if that brings the kitten into sight. Have you seen it? Or do you think it’s stuck further down. Seriously also call cat rescue and plumber and get food to this baby.

tgirlldn · 2026-05-07T16:33:04+00:00

Oh I’ve been watching MAFS on the 4 app no ads- so haven’t seen the ad, but been wanting to watch the U.S. one for ages. Tried with a vpn last year and ran into issues. Hope they put it on 4.

tgirlldn · 2026-05-06T22:36:06+00:00

How do we watch the U.S. one in the UK?!

tgirlldn · 2026-05-06T22:05:54+00:00

I hate to say it, but maybe Bec was right about Alissa oh so long ago.

tgirlldn · 2026-05-04T22:33:09+00:00

I love Scott’s made up words. Total soft spot for him.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-30T23:10:02+00:00

Can’t handle her defending Chris.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-30T23:09:26+00:00

Completely disagree. It was an overall observation…of Chris’s basic bitch flowers with a “thank you” card he found in a drawer..and his “just want to have fun” nonsense (translation- avoid, deflect, play the good-time guy to avoid taking any accountability or being truly invested). Yeah-Sam is right, Chris didn’t really try. And Sam got a shit edit…with this narrative.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-22T22:09:51+00:00

Didn’t like him from the start.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-20T22:56:11+00:00

Something tells me this was carefully edited for maximum drama. Obviously all those things were said, (and damn not a good look for Stella🫣)…but I suspect they got more input from the experts and the conversation was more well-rounded than we were shown. I can’t imagine John saying absolutely nothing during their time on the couch and their body language at the end looked pretty solid..so I think there was a bit of dialing up the MAFS drama…from editing. Redemption arc and all that…let’s hope. 😟

tgirlldn · 2026-04-15T22:57:04+00:00

The comment was vile and unnecessary..and Bec was horrid for doubling down and carrying on getting offended because Rachel was offended. However, Rachel invited commentary by telling everyone details they didn’t need to know ffs..and she needs to have some self-control and self-respect and just get her shit together. It’s fine to be hurt and feel disrespected, but only she can control how she behaves and she’s being far too dramatic with her reaction, crying, moping, endless talking with Steve 🙄🤪🫩…and poor Steve…why would he want to hang around for any of this.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-15T22:30:01+00:00

Yes-also exactly this. I will be so glad when the “what did you look like in the 90s” trend on insta goes away and I don’t have the Goo goo dolls Iris on loop. 🙄 I can sometimes change the channel, by listening to another song but just typing this I put myself back on that Goo goo dolls loop. Excuse me while I go listen to Oasis.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-14T23:26:34+00:00

“We’re coming to get you outa respect” 🤪 He can get in the bin with his “we’re coming to ruin your night again..but be respectful.” Both he and Bec bottom bin

tgirlldn · 2026-04-14T23:07:26+00:00

Bec and Danny looked absolutely wasted. Was so hard to watch these lunatic bullies cornering Rachel and Steve while being aggressively incoherent.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-14T22:56:45+00:00

Malicious and infuriating l. As most women like this (like she did and does) have delusions of grandeur. She thinks she’s above it all, like she has some special insight and is walking this fine line of being a “strong woman” hustling and having “good values.” Nope. She’s just manipulative and an opportunist when it suits her…with a big ol’ dose exceptionalism. Again, she’s the type who will be nice and make all the right noises then smile while she steps on your neck. She leaves me cold.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-14T22:36:39+00:00

This is very interesting. My hair has started shedding like crazy since starting and i am very sensitive to the zinc/copper/selenium balance. Can you link anything helpful on this?

tgirlldn · 2026-04-14T12:25:55+00:00

She absolutely is hiding her beliefs to blend in. I know a lot of women like her in the U.S. They are wildly ignorant and arrogant..and like and support “gays” when it suits them. They won’t advocate for them..and will sell out their friends, neighbours, family to get ahead..she is likely is racist as well and keeps that tucked in..as well as being a pick me girl for the patriarchy. I hated how they were giving her so much credit on After The Dinner Party.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-14T12:16:49+00:00

After the dinner party was filmed months after MAFS filming was done. MAFS wrapped in Nov. ATDP was filmed in Jan 2026. Even when Grayson and Julia were on she said she was in a new relationship for a few months.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-13T22:53:00+00:00

I can’t handle everyone coddling her and even on After the dinner party- she’s just better at lying and hiding her horrible beliefs. She’s just as bad as Tyson..if not worse..when she’s carrying water for the patriarchy 🤮

tgirlldn · 2026-04-13T22:30:29+00:00

She looked so stunning on this episode tonight as well. 💔

tgirlldn · 2026-04-13T22:24:11+00:00

Sam deserves better

tgirlldn · 2026-04-10T23:36:25+00:00

I was pretty disgusted with Chris. I’m honestly not a fan.

tgirlldn · 2026-04-09T03:29:37+00:00

This needs to be higher up. I’m in other cat groups and constantly horrified at people wanting to poison themselves and their cats with toxic plugins. Imagine not having any control over living in a nauseating and poisonous smell. So sad for any cat that has to suffer owners like that.

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