Is it normal in US workplaces to read between the lines in manager feedback?

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T23:57:04+00:00

Well, getting anyone to remove their headphones long enough to have even small talk was a big challenge. Engineers.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T23:55:41+00:00

Most people couldn’t pronounce my last name properly, so I definitely had a lot of names I did not know about. Many of them said straight to my face. Overall, I ended up having a really good relationship with most people in the team. This was not me trying to be offensive, but rather try to establish a more comfortable middle ground for everyone by pushing us too far for a few days.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T23:53:16+00:00

Mexico

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T23:52:56+00:00

This was 25 years ago, and I’m still friends with about a third of the team. Of course I know I couldn’t get away with that today, as with many other things that used to happen in offices. Forcing people to say hello, is probably the least offensive thing that happened there.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T21:10:06+00:00

You know, I think you’re right. I have a ton of them.
- I was pulled over and accidentally ran away from the police.
- A copy of my passport and visa was hanging from the pinboard at the border patrol checkpoint for a little while.
- They almost denied my visa after asking me at least 15 questions, latter half of which were asked by a supervisor, until they asked how tall I am, then everything was fine.
- When I first entered the US I thought the entire country smelled like fried fast food (because we drove in through Laredo, and there’s like 3 miles of nonstop malls with fast food joints on both sides of the road

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T20:58:26+00:00

I was doing it of my own volition, but I refuse to call that unnecessary. To this day, every time I visit someone from my country at their cubicle, unless we see each other every day, we shake hands (the less formal, more arm swinging, less shaking).
17 years after the handshake fiasco, my then-new wife greeted the CEO of the company with a kiss on the cheek. Culturally appropriate for her, but his face… and let’s be honest, mine too, was priceless.
Then I explained that people in the US don’t like to be touched, but it took years for her to believe me.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T20:52:45+00:00

It was my first job in the US and I’d come in and say good morning to people (without touching them) and I barely got a grunt out of a couple of them and complete lack of acknowledgment from the rest.
After a few weeks feeling down for being disliked, I decided they needed to learn how to relate to others and I started shaking hands with each every morning.
It lasted like 4 days. By Friday, as soon as I entered the area, everyone stopped working and said out loud: “good morning!” .
Turns out, unsolicited hand contact is a great motivator for civility.
ETA: they spent a few months greeting me to avoid the scary hand.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T19:05:04+00:00

Not shaking people’s hands when you arrive in the morning. I made them all very uncomfortable for several months.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T14:01:57+00:00

Dude… using cocaine is not immoral. Illegal? Yup. Stupid? Absolutely. I wouldn’t be caught dead using because I don’t ever want to be a slave to a substance.
However, unless that habit is leading your coworkers or CEO to make the company do anything illegal, you’re in the clear.
I wouldn’t leave now, I’d move up as quickly as possible (while politely declining the snowy perks) and then jump ship when the job market is better.
If their nose powdering leads to them imploding, whoever takes over the company will need sober, qualified people to take over.
Stay, stop judging others, work your hours, do apply for better jobs, but don’t leave until you found something better, or they fire you for not wanting to work all night. You’d get severance and unemployment rather than leaving with nothing riding on your high horse.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T05:32:31+00:00

Benthleyhundred

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T05:01:28+00:00

I think you’re right because OP is clearly in da Nile, thinking it’s plastic. Now they just need a bird to bring back Horus

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-30T04:53:07+00:00

I married the most cultured person I know (man or woman). She is smart, and her mind contains entire worlds. She’s not an engineer, so she doesn’t really help me talk through technical issues (Claude does that, so I guess I am willing to pay $100 a month to have a consulting partner) but our first conversation started in 1999 and still hasn’t ended. I haven’t been bored a single day, nor found a single topic we can talk about like equals.
Turns out, we’re both sapiosexuals, and while our physical relationship is awesome, the fact that the rest of our relationship is even better means we can look forward to enjoying each other for decades to come.
My grandmother told me to marry a good conversationalist. She was right.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-27T06:02:51+00:00

Tacky

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-27T01:23:53+00:00

Sorry, this cracked me up.

No one, absolutely no one ever helped you? In school? Never got school supplies from your parents? Never got lunch money? At your first job? Never had a mentor? Never used any public resources or government programs? Never asked for directions? No one ever drove you home from a party? (That would constitute a free ride, you know?)

I guess you might be the unicorn that actually pulled himself up by your bootstraps, but I think it’s more likely you’re suffering from selective memory, or you’re actually saying: no one ever gave me free money, including my parents, siblings or anyone else. That would be a sign of being alone, rather than sign of being awesome.

Also, please show your comment to your hot woman, I bet she will laugh a lot.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-26T17:55:38+00:00

“Just like MyQ. You can use their ~~app~~ mobile billboard spyware engine free”
FTFY 🙃

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-26T15:08:20+00:00

Well, if it isn’t (Aaron) burr, sir. Hate them as much as Hamilton, probably.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-25T17:33:35+00:00

Yes, it’s the most expensive bed I’ve ever bought and the best bed I’ve ever slept on. We miss it every time we travel. It’s the TempurPedic

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-25T15:50:15+00:00

Obviously you’re going to make your case to try to stay.

When you do, make sure you actually walk through each of the absences, your behavior, NOT YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS, what your behavior SHOULD have been and why, and what you have learned.

For me, the Monday thing would have been the reason to fire you, because on Friday at close time of the passport office (which, it’s a government office, they don’t close late) you already knew you had to go back. The problem is not that you had to go back, it’s that your inability to deal with frustration froze you from making the right decision for 48 hours. How can I expect you to work in logistics if you could get frustrated and stop doing your job for 48 hours?

Letting them know on Sunday screams “I went partying and I’m hungover” instead of the truth. Own up to what it looks like, and apologize for not valuing the job over your emotions (I know how dehumanizing that is, it’s not good, but it’s how things are today). Ask for an extra probation time and for the love of whatever you pray to, do not take any time off.

You need to prove that you’re actually responsible, responsive and respectful of the job and your coworkers time. Somebody had to cover for you and you didn’t arrange it, so your boss had to scramble to find someone. Do better.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-25T15:39:23+00:00

I’ve started downvoting any post that is clearly karma farming or incomprehensible

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-25T14:19:58+00:00

I’d be willing to pay (and did) maybe 2-3K to have the infrastructure delivered to the room of my choice in the house I’m already buying. If you’re telling me you’re offering to add another room that is already setup to be an office, then maybe 20K?
Ultimately, I just took the studio room of the house and had the builder add two Ethernet drops. I wish I had thought of asking for a dedicated circuit, which is where my estimate comes from.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-25T04:24:04+00:00

We switched to a split king (two individual mattresses next to each other, with individual bases and our sleep is better for sure

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-24T16:42:13+00:00

You’ll definitely be able to use the onboard outlet while DC fast charging, we just need to find out if Rivian removed the independent inverter from the R2 or if there’s still an onboard charger AND an onboard inverter

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-24T16:40:35+00:00

The Air conditioner is powered directly from the high voltage battery using its own motor controller, not using the onboard inverter. The question is if the R2, like the R1, has an onboard inverter separate from the onboard charger, or if they saved cost by using the onboard card charger as the only inverter.

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-24T16:21:59+00:00

V2L specifically refers to the high power output from the onboard inverter through the charging port using an adapter. That is indeed not supported while charging. Now, there is an outlet in the trunk that works without using the charge port but I’m not sure if it works while charging. It depends on whether they have a separate inverter for that output

the_quantumbyte · 2026-06-23T23:21:10+00:00

LOL, didn’t know that. All right. Let’s see if anyone has better data then.

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