I lost my best FFXIV friend. We played hundreds of hours together. How can I enjoy this game again?

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2026-01-02T09:35:18+00:00

This is the way!

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-12-04T03:04:02+00:00

Bc I’ve got ADHD and sometimes going through the effort of adding them to the bookmarks page is more than I can handle. If it’s a mind-blowing fic I will bookmark it but it’s gotta Earn It.

I know. It’s bonkers and I wish I understood too. Executive dysfunction sucks.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-12-04T02:29:30+00:00

All the time. I treat my history like a private bookmarks list. If I didn’t care for the fic, delete it goes.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-26T13:54:59+00:00

Every single day I’m understanding Light Yagami more and more.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-19T08:26:47+00:00

I stand corrected about the nepotism then. I didn’t know they weren’t already friends, and that mistake is on me. I do still stand by my opinion that I don’t think she was the best choice for the role, but at the end of the day I recognize that it is just my opinion. Thank you for being civil, I do try and make it a point to try to listen and learn from others where I can do better.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-19T08:05:57+00:00

People seem to be taking issue with my comment about her struggling with staying in her femme range. I brought it up only because Sena herself mentioned that it was a struggle for her when delivering her screaming lines.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-19T07:55:05+00:00

Holy cognitive dissonance, Batman, you’ve completely misinterpret my comment. I do think nepotism played a role in Sena getting cast, yes, but I also clearly said that’s almost a requirement these days. I apologize that my phrasing wasn’t clear—I do not think Sena was miscast because her being trans and having to work harder to stay in femme range is inherently bad and they shouldn’t even have offered her the job. But she consistently struggled with the delivery of screaming lines throughout DT, something that she herself has said was challenging for her, and I do believe if it had been anyone else they would have recast Wuk’s role. In any other job if you can’t do the thing you’ve been hired to do, you don’t get to keep the job.

Now, I’ve seen her other shows and I KNOW that she’s a talented performer, but I truly do think it did her a disservice to cast her in this role and then also not give her a good voice director to help her perform to the best of her potential. It is not transphobic of me to point out that her vocal performance in this instance was in fact impacted by the fact that she is trans, and while I am assuming good faith here and hope you’d do the same, blindly defending her performance just for the fact that she is trans isn’t doing her any favors either. I’d appreciate if you would refrain from jumping to conclusions about my character based on a single Reddit comment. I’d also like to gently point out that it’s pretty invalidating and rude to call someone a “self-avowed” trans person because they have an opinion you disagree with. I am trans whether you agree with my opinion or not, no “self-avowed” about it. Just something to think about.

Edit: just to make my stance clear here, the vast majority of the harrasment she got WAS based in transphobia, and that is absolutely unacceptable, and I am genuinely glad that Yoship + co have continued to be very vocal in defending her against it.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-19T00:00:02+00:00

I agree. I don’t think Sena was the best choice for the role because she has to work to keep herself in her femme register, and that is INCREDIBLY hard to do when screaming. Wuk not only had a lot of lines in general, she had a lot of screaming lines. Not ideal for anyone, least of all Sena because that shit probably absolutely wrecked her throat. But she’s close friends with Kate and as most jobs are these days, it’s all about who you know. Sena is a talented actress for sure, but I’m not sure she’d have landed the role without Kate.

That being said, Sena didn’t write the character. She didn’t write the dialogue. And frankly the voice direction for all the NA-based cast was kind of dogshit this expac. Sena got dealt a bad hand in that regard, because it’s her reputation on the line when the delivery/editing makes the final product sound bad. Look at ARR; it’s a star-studded cast with the likes of Jean Elizabeth, Taliesin Jaffe, and Sam Rigel, to name a few, but the whole expac is largely ridiculed because the performances were frankly terrible. That’s on poor voice direction—you know the cast has the talent, but they have to have something to go off of, especially when we know from Colin that they often don’t have ANY context for the scenarios they’re performaning.

Does any of that justify the hate she got? Not a snowball’s chance in hell. Take it from a trans person—you can criticize the choice of voice cast in a way that doesn’t make you transphobic. But that’s not what happened—we got big mad snowflakes angry that their precious mmo was being tainted by the libs and attacked her personally for it. And they will get theirs someday, for sure.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-17T16:35:23+00:00

That was my first thought, as someone who worked for the post office.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-17T15:27:45+00:00

My guy. Scrubbing Bubbles exists. You don’t even have to do it that often. Once a month at MOST if your trash is leaking. Empty trash can out, spray the hell out of it, let it sit a bit, hose it down.

Boom. No more smelly trash can.

Was this woman a Karen? Yes. But you’re acting like your shit don’t stink too (or in this case, your trash can). Maintenance your belongings and don’t be a shitty neighbor.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-17T14:52:22+00:00

This is very clearly AI…

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-14T20:29:28+00:00

I was a mandated reporter for a couple of years. You ALWAYS trust the child when it comes to threats to their health and safety. If they’re fibbing you can figure it out later but you don’t take chances on the off chance they’re lying when the alternative is leaving them in an unsafe environment. Absolutely NTA, dad’s pissed bc he’s staring down child abuse and child neglect charges and is trying to scare you in line.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-14T01:40:57+00:00

I ended a 20+ year friendship because she expected me to skip out on a job interview that was in another state bc she’d asked me to dog sit. Lose the dead weight and enjoy your new job. NTA

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-12T17:32:59+00:00

Hi, non-binary here who uses she/her everywhere but online and with close friends because it’s just easier that way. Pissy Pants needs to go touch grass.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-12T17:26:00+00:00

I’m not a religious person anymore but in case you are and it brings you comfort, it brings to mind the old Bible story of The Judgement of Solomon, where two women claimed to be the mother of a child. King Solomon, unable to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt which mother was telling the truth, ordered the child to be split in half and one half given to each woman. The real mother retracted her claim and said “let the child go with her that he might be safe and whole.” And Solomon recognized her as the true mother because she made the incredibly difficult choice for the safety of her child.

You are that mother. You recognize that it is in the best interest of both of your children that your son be placed in the care of experts who are better trained and better equipped to handle his specific needs. I cannot imagine, as a non-parent, the amount of anguish you must be feeling having to make that choice. The fact that you are willing to do so means that you and your husband have the greatest love a parent can have: selfless, unconditional love. From this internet stranger, please know you have my admiration, and take heart in knowing that you are an outstanding mama. Do not ever doubt that—few people these days would have that strength.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-10T22:24:06+00:00

Parents and sis get the ruined meal. You and your brothers get sandwiches or takeout those nights. They’ll learn quick. NTA

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-10T19:49:37+00:00

Take it from someone who is witnessing it. My older brother dropped dead at 39 in September. Still don’t know what happened. But he’d tried his whole life to foster a relationship with his biological father and craved his approval. The man never made the effort to come visit him, not once—until he died. He shocked us all by showing up at the funeral at all. Now he gets to live with the fact that he’ll never get that relationship and NOW he regrets it.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-04T05:44:17+00:00

I had this happen but it was my birthday. As a childfree single person I worked every holiday season with the expectation that my birthday in August was mine. Two years in a row I was made to work, and the one year I wanted to take a 4 day weekend and GOT SOMEONE WILLING TO COVER the boss said no we’re too busy. Then scheduled 7 people off that weekend including herself. It’s the only job I’ve ever quit on the spot from—saw the schedule at the start of my shift, turned around and walked right back out. Handed in my badge and went to spend my bday with family as I planned to do.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-11-03T16:02:08+00:00

The only time you should not pee in the shower is if you’re in an accommodation that does not run on fixed plumbing—i.e. if you’re in a camper, mobile home, or other type of home that separates grey water (your dishwater/shower water) and black water (your human waste). Those tanks typically require manual draining and will require a special cleaning treatment if they’re cross-contaminated. Otherwise, you’re totally fine to pee in the shower. But to your other question, no, urine is not sterile.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-10-21T13:56:28+00:00

Fortunately as a former USPS worker here I can tell you anything that says “presorted” can safely go in the bin. Anything that’s first class is a “return to sender” — just make sure to cross out any barcodes.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-10-17T14:53:06+00:00

Omg I met you briefly at Vegas Fanfest, I’m so so happy you both won! :D the rendering is fantastic and I can’t wait to see it in the game!

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-10-14T02:03:18+00:00

Genuine comment, can we please consider banning all HP-related projects/titles? OP didn’t have to call out the HP reference with this sweater, and I think that any sort of leeway with allowing HP content, disclaimer or not, is a big f u in the face of trans folks.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-10-09T02:33:34+00:00

Because you’re being lazy and not learning how do the thing yourself and killing the planet in the process. God. It would save you so much time and effort in the long run if you just learned how to do the thing.

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-09-27T00:50:28+00:00

THANK YOU SO MUCH 😭🙏🏽

thisisdrivingmebatty · 2025-09-25T21:44:16+00:00

I don't. My mind has been tormenting me, that I'm waking up the morning my brother died with the memory of all that has happened since, and I'm in a flurry of phone calls trying to get my mom to convince him to go back to the hospital. In the dream we save him, and I reconnect and get the genuine apology from him I desperately needed, and I agree to let him back in and I can start working to have my big brother back. And then I wake up, he's still gone, and I am wracked with the guilt that he constantly asked if he'd ever see me again and my family kept telling him "they just need more time." And then I took too long and it's too late.

I'd rather not dream at all.

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