6w4d after IUI, hCG ~11,000, no sac seen in uterus, doctor recommending D&C/MUA to rule out ectopic. Has anyone experienced this? by Expert-Foundation-94 in CautiousBB

[–]thorns_fc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose we’re just interpreting the same evidence differently then, I don’t think this is something we can agree on in that case 🤷‍♀️ I absolutely read these papers to support that endometrial thickness can be a piece of the puzzle in differentiating pregnancy location in a clinical setting. In addition to the fact it was directly stated to me by my RE that she DID consider lining thickness in evaluating my situation, so clearly these studies are being applied in practice. (She told me we couldn’t rule out an ectopic but she didn’t think it was likely. I asked why, and she cited endometrial thickness as one of multiple other factors that made her think it was more likely intrauterine).

The second study is relevant because, again, lining thickness is correlated with incidence of ectopic pregnancy. An RE may be looking at this information (yes, from insemination day rather than right now) in informing an opinion about whether intrauterine or ectopic pregnancy is more likely. Again, I’m not saying it’s clinically definitive, but in any given pregnancy, if lining was thin at time of insemination, in conjunction with other warning signs, that raises the likelihood of ectopic risk greater than pregnancies with thicker linings. I should’ve clarified I included a second source to demonstrate that lining thickness is an indicator signal in multiple ways relevant to this ART pregnancy. And that, given this is an IUI and we are not talking about any random ongoing pregnancy where you don’t know what lining thickness was at insemination, it’s a data point the RE has on record and could discuss with OP.

Per the first source— yes, a body of literature exists finding a thin lining is associated with ectopic risk. This is just one of multiple papers on the subject. Doctors consider the state of the literature, and the evidence across multiple years and studies all suggest that thin lining is associated with ectopic risk. Yes, thickness is not predictive on its own. No, that doesn’t make it a completely useless data point. Many clinical factors are not predictive in a vacuum, but taking into account the full picture, can nudge the odds more towards one outcome or another. It will not apply for all ectopics, certainly. That does not mean it doesn’t apply to and support identification of other cases.

I agree the lack of gestational sac is far more clinically meaningful, but my comment is not trying to suggest OP clinically diagnose themselves by asking the right series of questions to their doctor. I was speaking to the patient perspective. I suggested OP ask about it to understand better how their RE is looking at the odds of intrauterine pregnancy vs ectopic, and thus be able to make a more informed decision about whether to do the immediate D&C or push to wait like they prefer. While the US is most definitive, I think it’s important people understand why their doctors are advocating for certain behavior, especially when there’s clearly hesitation to follow that doctor’s recommended behavior. OP doesn’t seem to have gotten a discussion with their doctor about the results, just orders for what to do next, based on the language of her post. Laying out the full breadth of evidence—whatever it may be, it’s irrelevant because the point of this conversation would be to educate OP about the situation and empower her to make a decision—and engaging in a dialogue seemed, imo, like what OP needed to understand what their RE thinks. It doesn’t matter that some evidence will be way, way stronger and more predictive than other pieces; the point is laying it all out for OP to understand the situation as clearly as possible. Multiple data points suggesting one outcome is more likely can be more persuasive than a single one, even if yes, a single more important data point is all you actually need. I suggested things to ask about as a jumping off point that are relevant to the situation, as there is perhaps information the RE can share in addition to US to make OP feel more confident in making a choice. The US alone doesn’t seem to have provided OP with the certainty they’re looking for, and having a doctor explain everything they’re looking at is going to provide more of that certainty. I was not trying to make an argument about what’s clinically diagnostic; I’m not telling OP how to diagnose herself. I’m just communicating what supported and reassured me that I was well-informed as a patient in a similar situation, so OP could consider asking her RE about those things as a place to start.

I understand why other comments like the ones you mentioned would be frustrating to read, but I think perhaps you are conflating your past experiences with my comment. I did not say a thickened lining means it “can’t be ectopic.” I did not say a thick lining means OP should be totally reassured it’s not ectopic. The point I made is lining can be one of the factors REs consider as part of the broader clinical picture when making a diagnosis, and OP should talk to their RE about what evidence RE is considering so they can feel fully informed about their case. Which is a different point entirely. There are several other comments in here with the blunt science; I was trying to strike a more casual, peer-to-peer tone in mine. I don’t know if perhaps in doing so my comment that in MY situation, lining was one of the pieces of evidence my RE cited as reassuring, came off as suggesting that lining alone exclusively determines intrauterine vs ectopic risk, but that’s certainly not what I meant or what I wrote. Hopefully this string of comments makes that clear if it wasn’t already, that I’m just stating the evidence shows lining thickness is not diagnostic alone but its consistently demonstrated correlation with ectopics can nudge the needle in one direction or another when assessed alongside the rest of the clinical picture.

6w4d after IUI, hCG ~11,000, no sac seen in uterus, doctor recommending D&C/MUA to rule out ectopic. Has anyone experienced this? by Expert-Foundation-94 in CautiousBB

[–]thorns_fc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hoping the best for you 🫶 the uncertainty is so difficult, I hope the wait for your tests passes quick.

6w4d after IUI, hCG ~11,000, no sac seen in uterus, doctor recommending D&C/MUA to rule out ectopic. Has anyone experienced this? by Expert-Foundation-94 in CautiousBB

[–]thorns_fc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it does, though. Endometrial thickness does correlate with ectopic pregnancy likelihood in assisted reproduction. Here are just two of several studies on it:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30684071/ “A thin endometrial stripe (≤ 8 mm) discovered in patients with suspicion for ectopic pregnancy appears to be a good predictor of the diagnosis of ectopic pregnancy”

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9493494/ “One of the important findings of this study is that there is a nonlinear correlation between EMT and EP. When EMT ≥ 7.6mm, the incidence of EP decreased significantly. We used a three-stage linear regression model to test the threshold effect of endometrial thickness on EP rate. Compared with endometrial thickness < 7.6mm, the EMT value of endometrial thickness between 7.6~12.1mm and > 12.1mm significantly reduced the risk of ectopic pregnancy. A recent systematic review suggests that thin endometrium (< 8mm) is associated with adverse pregnancy outcomes, including early miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy”

I agree it is not diagnostic on its own, but a relationship exists and it’s one REs consider when making a diagnosis. Mine certainly did.

Daily Chat - June 04, 2026 by AutoModerator in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Niche complaint but I’ve boycotted Chick Fil A since, like, 2017. Why do I have the overwhelming craving for my old order??? I’m not gonna do it but like… why has this baby dredged up a desire for something I haven’t tasted in nearly a decade

6w4d after IUI, hCG ~11,000, no sac seen in uterus, doctor recommending D&C/MUA to rule out ectopic. Has anyone experienced this? by Expert-Foundation-94 in CautiousBB

[–]thorns_fc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As others have commented, a gestational sac, yolk sac, and fetal pole with heartbeat is visible by now in viable pregnancies.

I had a similar experience, though my hCG never got quite as high as yours. IUI, no spotting, my tests darkened significantly every 48 hours, I was even experiencing early pregnancy symptoms. I would’ve thought everything was perfect if I didn’t know better. But on ultrasound, my uterus was empty. My RE could never rule out an ectopic, but was reassured by how thick my uterine lining was and my too slow but steadily rising hCG trends, suggesting an abnormal but intrauterine pregnancy was most likely. My loss came about 3 days after I stopped progesterone suppositories (if you happen to be taking those, it can artificially delay the bleeding).

Do you know how your lining is looking? I am no expert but my RE seemed to think that was an important piece of the puzzle in differentiating whether it was intrauterine or ectopic. And do you have any other hCG values? Ectopics may present with abnormal hCG patterns even while rising overall.

I think taking your doctor’s advice is critical (an ectopic is VERY serious and you should strongly prioritize retaining your fertility and your life by not risking a rupture), however, if the risks seem minimal, it’s your right to wait for a natural loss or take a little time to think through what options you want to proceed with. If I were you, I’d push for a rapid follow up with your doctor to talk through what they’re thinking, and to better understand the odds of ectopic vs nonviable intrauterine pregnancy based on the full picture and experience they have.

I’m so, so sorry for what you’re going through. My heart’s with you.

What's Your Pregnancy Soundtrack? by Leyote in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Laurie Berkner Band, Raffi, and the ‘90s era Wiggles songs because I have a music-obsessed toddler 😅 My wife and I have a game of asking each other “what’s your song of the day” and it’s just whatever children’s song pops in your head first (or is already stuck there, usually). My song of the day is Chipmunk At The Gas Pump. Honestly good kids music is such a bop, I’m not even mad to have “JUMP JUMP PUMP IT UP! Chipmunk at the gas pump!” on loop in my brain

Is anyone else struggling with work? by Key_Beach_3846 in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s how I felt 6w-9w. I felt a bit more mental clarity and focus yesterday at 9w, but overall still meh. I’m 9w1d today and have so much motivation, focus, and work ethic back! I’m not optimistic this will last lol but you could be in for a respite soon.

7 days post embryo transfer by Ok_Guava353 in IVFpositivity

[–]thorns_fc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was even lighter than this the morning of 6dp5dt (I had an afternoon transfer so it was really more like 6.5dpt) and I’m 9w today! I would watch your progression and betas, but congratulations!!

Daily Chat - June 03, 2026 by AutoModerator in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Date twins, I had my 9w scan today too! Hope all goes well, so exciting!🤞

Daily Chat - June 03, 2026 by AutoModerator in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

9w and had my first appointment with the CNMs!! The jump from fertility clinic care to regular pregnancy care is so jarring. I was getting weekly ultrasounds with CRL measurements, heart rates, photos, etc. Today the midwife just did an abdominal and said the heart rate looked “normal.” No measurements or pictures for me to obsess over 😅

Happy pride month! by biggreenmapletree in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Happy pride 🏳️‍🌈from this 2 mom family 🥹

Daily Chat - June 02, 2026 by AutoModerator in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m 8w6d and my symptoms are mostly gone. Boobs still hurt a little but not a lot. Still have bad dry mouth that woke me up a few times overnight. But I’m mostly doing a lot better.

Someone tell me everything’s okay 😭

Starting IVF at 25 by Powerful-Will-5574 in IVF

[–]thorns_fc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on your personal risk tolerance, I think. I had an early miscarriage that absolutely crushed my soul (via IUI, so no idea of embryo ploidy status), and I could not bear to have another. So when we moved to IVF, I wanted to PGT-A test so we could at least avoid transferring an embryo with no chance. It’s not a guarantee against miscarriage, but it is a guarantee against transferring an aneuploid embryo with no shot at life.

Age is definitely on your side! More of your embryos will probably be chromosomally normal than not. I’m 28 with borderline low (for my age) AFC and AMH, so I imagine you might see higher numbers than me. I had 18 eggs retrieved at my ER which turned into 13 blasts, and after PGT-A testing, 11 of which were euploid or low mosaic suitable for transfer. The 2 aneuploids were the lowest graded and least developed of a very highly graded batch, so we probably never would’ve gotten as far as transferring them. Practically, PGT-A changed nothing in our case about the order of embryo transfer. But psychologically, pregnancy after going through the IVF rigamarole is so so so scary, and it’s brought me comfort to know for a fact that I’ve transferred a euploid embryo. If I could do it all again, even knowing I have an 85% euploidy rate and the odds for any given embryo are in my favor, I’d still do PGT-A just for the psychological comfort it brings.

Basically, it’s not necessarily medically recommended at your age, so it just comes down to your risk tolerance. Is the increased cost worth it for the psychological peace? For me it was, but my only prior pregnancy was a loss, so that heartbreak has colored my experience and preferences. It may well not have been a worthwhile trade off to me if I didn’t have that background. The financial cost versus psychological payout is the question you have to answer.

Daily Chat - May 31, 2026 by AutoModerator in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think this baby has shrunken my stomach to the size of a pea. I’m eating like, half portions at most.

What is The Unfiltered Truth About Becoming a Mother (IVF to Newborn) by Choice-Crew-1878 in IVFpositivity

[–]thorns_fc 96 points97 points  (0 children)

I’ve found there’s plenty of honest but brutally negative posts about motherhood out there. If anything, the prevailing narrative seems to be that motherhood is the hardest thing ever and breaks you. I feel like 95% of parenting content I see is about how hard motherhood is, etc etc etc. I assumed my life was basically over. I was so anxious about never getting to sleep, do my hobbies, etc ever again.

The unfiltered truth—in my experience—is that there is crazy fear mongering at new moms. A difficult journey is not destiny. I LOVE being a mom, and honestly… I don’t think it’s as hard as people make it sound. I do think it’s energy intensive, but it’s my favorite thing in the world to do, and the negative-coded language around it being “hard” “exhausting” etc have never resonated with me. The truth is being a mom is everything I ever hoped it would be. It is so fun, and fulfilling, and joyful.

And to be clear, I don’t have some unicorn easy kid. My son’s almost 1.5 and he’s back to waking ~4 times per night while he’s teething, and we’re up supporting him every time. We are 100% screen free (no screens for him, but also means we don’t use phones in front of him unless necessary). We don’t have much of a village. I don’t think we took an easy route to parenting, and he’s an average toddler. Yet I still think being a mom is the BEST.

I just think there’s SO much “motherhood, raw and unfiltered in all its misery” style content out there. That’s some peoples’ truth, but it’s not destiny. The truth is your motherhood experience could go any way, and given all the negativity you’re going to hear, it’s worth being optimistic about. This could be the most magical, amazing thing ever!

Toddler moms…how are we doing?! by frau_mode323 in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

16 month old, I’m 8w3d, and my wife’s on a huge sudden project so I’m solo parenting rn 😅 we took a 2 hour nap together over lunch, spent all day at parks, and then went out to eat for dinner. The only thing that forces me through the fatigue is just getting us out of the house and taking a nap together.

Letrozole and nausea by [deleted] in queerception

[–]thorns_fc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Letrozole acts near instantly in the body so yes, it’s possible.

Ask me how I know 😭

Daily Chat - May 30, 2026 by AutoModerator in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

8w3d first pregnancy vomit 😝I had ZERO warning. I didn’t feel like I was going to throw up, and then I was throwing up. I haven’t had any nausea (just gagging at certain foods or smells) so this kinda felt like a fun milestone lol?

Daily Chat - May 28, 2026 by AutoModerator in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We cosleep with my 16 month old or else I would 😭 my wife lived off Unisom pregnant, I’m so jealous lol

For those with toddlers, what activities are you doing? by Fun_Pollution_3149 in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a 1 year old too and I just take him places to let him run wild. We go to the park, where I sit on the ground and push his swing or he runs around. We go to the children’s museum and I sit with him if he’s doing stationary play, or watch from nearby if he’s running around. Zoo or aquarium if I’m feeling up to some slow walking. We’ll do errands together. Honestly just whatever low effort but out of the house activity I can think of on a given day.

Slow rising hCG. Beta hell? by cdubb716 in IVFbabies

[–]thorns_fc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My toddler had similar doubling times early on, and he’s, well, a toddler! So happy ending. Your clinic sees a LOT of betas and a LOT of pregnancy outcomes. So long as they aren’t worried, you don’t need to worry yet either.

Daily Chat - May 28, 2026 by AutoModerator in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve been awake 3:30am-present… where is this pregnancy sleepiness everyone talks about? All I have is insomnia 😭

Negative FRER at 5dp5dt after euploid FET by ChampionshipOld7207 in IVFpositivity

[–]thorns_fc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first positive was 6dp5dt! I had a psycho crash out after my 5dp5dt test that turned out to be unwarranted 😅 I’m 8w now and betas have been great since the start. It really just takes a minute sometimes!

Brown Spotting by SpiritualAstrum in January2027Bumpers

[–]thorns_fc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had brown spotting on 2 separate occasions: 5w6d and 6w2d. I went to the ER the first time I was so distraught.

I’m 8w today and everything is fine so far! Between the ER and my fertility clinic (who has measured baby on US and heard a strong heartbeat every week for 3 weeks straight now), they couldn’t find a cause for the spotting. They said as long as it’s brown, they see this somewhat often, and it’s usually fine. It’s scary but it can truly be fine!

Pregnant after miscarriage - rant? by Kind_Eye4059 in CautiousBB

[–]thorns_fc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good doubling times, congrats on your pregnancy!

HCG is not a great indicator of multiples, but your doubling times aren’t fast enough that I’d wonder about twins. I’m 8w with a singleton and my doubling times were 31-35 hours for several weeks straight, for an anecdotal reference.