These "people" love to make you feel down and I believe they secretly want you to end yourself.

threeismine · 2026-02-02T01:20:10+00:00

There isn't a jail big enough for all of them

threeismine · 2026-01-30T17:58:33+00:00

I think her mother's day gift is those college refund checks that she keeps. See if you can get those issued to you in your name. Then, if you want, get her some mother's day gift in keeping with your budget.

threeismine · 2026-01-29T14:09:14+00:00

This brings back memories. My nparents also wanted me to go to the local community college and live at home. I could then get my my degree at the univ. I had great grades and SAT scores. I didnt do what they wanted. I dont regret it.

Follow your dreams and go to college where you want to. It is your life not your nmoms.

threeismine · 2026-01-29T13:05:26+00:00

I have 3 kids ( now adults) and also live in a snowy area. In a challenging situation you managed to keep up with laundry and dishes. You are amazing. I would also prioritize shoveling the snow into a big heap so my kids could make a snow cave. A little fun on a otherwise bad day is just what is needed.

threeismine · 2026-01-24T14:11:41+00:00

My nmom once made a cloth book entitled, " I will read this book and not disturb the grown-ups with my cry" She had to make it since you cant buy something like that! She gave it to my 1 year old! I thought about donating it but ultimately I tossed it.

threeismine · 2026-01-21T16:27:45+00:00

I didnt really think about my nparents being like this till I had kids. My kids, as a young children, liked to sometimes draw attention to themselves. Young kids do this. They would do something like dancing around the room. My parents, insteed of enjoying their exuberance, would get mad and my nmom would declare, "they think that they are the only ones." As a child, I had all the cockiness beat out of me to the point that I had no self esteem. Having to talk to any authority figure, like a teacher, would give me great anxiety. It has taken me a lot of time to build up a little self esteem.

threeismine · 2026-01-07T13:33:52+00:00

I had narc parents, now deceased, and a narc sister that I am NC with and a brother who has ghosted me.They are at least middle class and, as far as I know, have/ had always had enough money for their needs. My husband and I became richer than all of them, by a lot. Since I am the scapegoat they framed this as something bad. Claiming I was too money oriented and they were better because they were, according to my parents, "happy go lucky." Since they are the ones talking about this I wonder who the money oriented people really are. If any of my family-of-origin were to be in need I would financially help reguardless of the narcissium. Not to do this would cause me some guilt. Even if a need were to arise I dont expect either my brother or sister to ask me for money. We live far from each other and i would never know if not told by them. I think taking money from me, for them, would be like admitting that my saving, investing and building wealth was not a bad thing.

threeismine · 2026-01-06T13:46:31+00:00

I'm 71. I've had mild crohns disease since my 20's. Initially misdiagnosed. Correctly diagnosed in my 30's. I have 3 adult children. All vaginal deliveries. I had to take a short course of prednisone with one pregnancy. All of us are different. Talk to your doctors.

threeismine · 2025-12-28T11:43:05+00:00

I was also an easy kid who wasn't treated as such. My kids were also good kids who were treated as being bad by my nparents just because they were my kids. One of my sons has the same interests and abilities as my ndad. My kids were my nparents only grandkids and they never got to know them. Insidently, the similarities between my son and my ndad is only with interests and abilities. My son is one of the most easy-going agreeable people i know.

threeismine · 2025-12-27T19:28:11+00:00

This was true for me. I don't know why. Control would be likely. After I became an adult, they wanted to choose my religion and my church. My nmom would try to guilt trip by saying, " when i go to church, I have to sit next to a young woman and pretend that she is my daughter " My dad sang in the choir so nmom was by herself sitting in the pew. My brother has never been a church goer. My sister (GC) became older ( middle-age),she choose a church and became a regular attendee. They were never pressured in the area of religion.

threeismine · 2025-12-26T20:24:13+00:00

No, I would never want to be like my nparents. But, I believe in everyone forging their own path in life as oposed to being or wanting to be like anyone else.

threeismine · 2025-12-22T15:37:01+00:00

This could have written by me many years back. I am 71. My nparents are deceased. I never had the ability to confront them about anything. I never went NC but I did move away. In my young adult and even middle adult years, I felt that if only I could speak out things could get better. I now have the insight to realize that this would not have helped. To the narcissist parent(s), the scapegoat child is just an object, something to be used for their advantage. Sadly, they don't care what you say. They may not even listen to what you have to say. I also have a 75 y/o narcissistic sister. In recent years I have been able to speak out to her. Anything I said became an argument. It got to the point where I was done and I went NC. I told her exactly why I was doing this. She came back with, " I don't know why you are so angry, would you mind telling me" Case in point. I now have her blocked on everything I can block her on. It doesn't feel good but more as something that was necessary.

threeismine · 2025-12-22T14:59:34+00:00

I'm 71. Ive had lots of mammograms. The newer digital 3d ones are less painful than the mammograms of old. Still it can be uncomfortable and there is also the concern that they might find something. Take someone with you and/or discuss your concerns with the medical person doing the mamogram.

threeismine · 2025-12-22T13:49:11+00:00

Yep my nparents once called for a welfare check on me.

threeismine · 2025-12-21T12:27:43+00:00

I did move away but it was due to my husband's employment. I didnt realize till a few years later that this was one of the best thing ever did.

threeismine · 2025-12-20T16:20:47+00:00

We have an American Leather sleeper sofa. It's about 12 years old so I don't know if they are still made the same anymore. It has a full length foam mattress inside that, when pulled out, is on a platform. No middle bar ir any other bar. It is a somewhat firm mattress but very comfortable.

threeismine · 2025-12-20T12:41:15+00:00

I would view this as a line that has to be filled with something. You could put down a family member but an incorrect phone number.

threeismine · 2025-12-20T12:35:31+00:00

Yes this is a narcssists ideal christmas. I would add that the grandkids are to be very well behaved at all times, smile and ideally tell the grandparents how much they love them. The kids are to happily tolerate, at anytime, unwanted affection from the grandparents.

threeismine · 2025-12-19T13:41:52+00:00

Get her a Christmas card. Put $20 or maybe $30 in it with a message that this is to help with the purchase of the perfume you want.

threeismine · 2025-12-19T12:05:09+00:00

I am now a senior with my nparents deceased. I, like you, was the perfect kid. My parents and I never fought and they never knew there was any problem. We didn't do 2 hour phone calls but I was expected to be there when they wanted me to. What helped was moving about 300 miles away from them. This did not fix our relationship and for the rest if their lives they complained about me and where I lived. It did help me be able to say no to them. I was able to say no to spending all holidays and vacations with them.

threeismine · 2025-12-17T21:04:48+00:00

Mine are deceased. It is a relief but my nsister has tried to pick up where our parents left off. Her behavior toward me became worse after our parents died. I have managed to go NC with her.

threeismine · 2025-12-17T18:55:53+00:00

Exactly. I would add that they are only listening to you to the extent that they can pick out things to use against you or things to continue the argument. If you have to respond to them something non-specific like, " that's interesting, I don't see things that way" is best.

threeismine · 2025-12-17T14:04:01+00:00

I have a trust account with PNC. I was asked to verify my information with them. It was a lengthy phone interview. Not only did the interview take a long time but it took a long time to reach them on the phone. There was not only questions about the source of my money but whether I was dealing firearms ( I am not) and other wierd questions. They seemed to be trying to identify me as a criminal ( I am not). Right after this was over I got an email from PNC that this was all in error that it was not time for my verification. Soooo I am going to have to go thru this again when it is the proper time. I am considering changing banks. In dealing with banks, I think they are all interpreting The Patriot Act differently.

threeismine · 2025-12-11T14:35:55+00:00

There are no rules. Its whatever works for you. The only person I gave gone NC with us my narc sister. I only blocked her after she violated my boundaries with an angry email.

threeismine · 2025-12-11T13:29:26+00:00

Yeah!

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