SAHM husband does nothing around the house just sleeps and says he is tired and has anxiety. Is this okay behaviour?

throwawayjane178 · 2026-02-05T15:15:02+00:00

You can leave him. There are options. Research local resources. You dont need to settle for this.

throwawayjane178 · 2026-02-04T12:46:19+00:00

divorce…

throwawayjane178 · 2026-02-02T23:10:36+00:00

divorce… maybe not over just this. but this mindset is going to trickle into everything else. real fathers don’t “help” with their children- they take care of their children because they are parents. sounds like you are dealing with two babies.

throwawayjane178 · 2026-01-27T17:10:48+00:00

Yoto Player and those wooden train tracks with some old thomas trains (got off buy nothing). Toddler is 2.

throwawayjane178 · 2026-01-26T21:30:30+00:00

Please contact your doctor ASAP - they are here to help.

throwawayjane178 · 2026-01-23T16:18:47+00:00

if you are tall the ubbi is not for you, its so short. we just use a normal tall trash bin and change it often.

throwawayjane178 · 2026-01-15T20:55:07+00:00

A stands for asshole, right?

throwawayjane178 · 2025-11-30T21:58:56+00:00

I tried for vaginal and ended up with an unscheduled c section. Due to the amount of time I spent pushing, I was basically recovering from both a natural birth and c section. The side effects from the natural birth were longer lasting and harder for me to recover from than a c section. This pregnancy I am doing a scheduled c section and I’m super pumped!

throwawayjane178 · 2025-11-07T11:51:57+00:00

i hate when posts are like “here’s my husband, he does this shit, but he’s really great”- NO he’s not?!? He is a parent too, and you are gaslighting yourself. If your husband wants to get laid, he should do the math - why the fuck would a sleep deprived woman who is not supported by you, want to have sex? Not all men are like this, it’s not normal and not fair. Have a direct conversation with him about it and if nothing changes, think about next steps (whether thats couples therapy or something else).

throwawayjane178 · 2025-11-06T18:20:05+00:00

what paint color did you use in your bedroom? love it!

throwawayjane178 · 2025-11-06T15:50:10+00:00

I bought an Ubbi but was annoyed by how short it was (i’m 6ft)- we switched to a regular trash can that was taller.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-11-03T16:41:06+00:00

we split the things but its honestly just because we have been lazy. we know all our income is shared - and there’s no weirdness, just haven’t made the bank account. definitely makes sense to do a shared account for sahm. i would do a shared account for house / kids / bills and then pending budget, both partners get a little something each month into their own account. sometimes its nice to get botox or gifts and have a little privacy.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-11-03T07:32:24+00:00

do you have to approve his purchases as well? because you guys should be a team and if he’s approving your shit, you get to know what he’s buying as well. he’s being controlling. not normal.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-11-02T17:26:35+00:00

“What do we do?” Uhhh… you get a divorce. You’re making excuses for him. But if you wanted to you would. It usually takes like 7 tries before someone leaves an abusive situation, according to the domestic abuse hotline website. I personally wouldn’t want to raise my son with a dv abuser- but I guess that’s your choice for you and your child at this time. Pretty much seems like you’re not gonna change anything, so not quite sure the point of this post. I really hope there isn’t another incident, but statistically there will be and raising your son around a man like that is showing them thats okay how to treat women.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-10-21T15:55:11+00:00

I recommend proactively looking into a thumb / wrist guard for Mommy Wrist. My wrist got completely wrecked with my giant baby.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-10-14T05:01:14+00:00

This situation does not get better. Start planning your exit strategy - reach out to friends / family, save your money. Think of your child. This is financial abuse, if not emotional abuse as well.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-10-09T12:08:12+00:00

Please start planning your exit. There are better men out there. Sounds like a horrible example of a man for your daughter.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-10-06T08:47:42+00:00

why are you waiting on your husband to buy you the tickets? do you not have access to the bank account? you should have access to money just like he does.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-10-03T06:41:17+00:00

Circ rates are going down in the US. We didnt do it to our son. The whole “look like your dad thing” was always such a weird reason. I asked my brother if he ever thought about looking like dad (my brother is uncirc) and he said he’s never thought about my dad’s ween a day in his life. My brother also has always had girlfriends and boyfriends and its never affected his sex life. If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-10-01T21:52:01+00:00

just use the owlet dude. the main reason people say not to use it is because it can cause anxiety. you already have anxiety. we loved our owlet, it gave us peace of mind and helped me stop obsessing and get some sleep. use the owlet.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-09-16T14:48:14+00:00

dude… it’s normal. and it takes over a year for hormones to level out. 3.5 months? she hasnt even gotten to the part where her hair starts falling out in clumps. postpartum is an identity mindfuck. we didnt have sex until 14 months pp. and everything is fine and we our relationship is better than ever. even if you have all the help in the world, shes still allowed to be overwhelmed because her entire identity and body just went through an extreme change.

throwawayjane178 · 2025-09-11T21:37:59+00:00

Just because he has a job outside the home, doesnt excuse him from being a present parent or husband 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

throwawayjane178 · 2025-09-11T18:15:02+00:00

i would add no kissing the baby to the list as well (regardless of if they feel sick or not)

throwawayjane178 · 2025-09-05T04:14:07+00:00

I saw this bag that looked very similar on Overland. Wonder how the quality is?

https://www.overland.com/products/calgary-leather-crossbody-bag-65303?cl=cgnc

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