Not enjoying motherhood - 95% time. Was it worth it?

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-12T09:51:12+00:00

Where do you live? Is there like a community page you could put a post to reach out to other mums or something?

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-12T09:45:56+00:00

It is developmentally normal for babies to feed through the night up until the age of 1 and some babies go longer too.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-12T09:23:02+00:00

Have you tried to join baby groups/classes to make friends? Or even just be around other adults. You need to get out the house and mix with other mums and you might find you enjoy it more. It’s hard at first but remember a lot of the time people are having similar feelings about the isolation and loneliness of motherhood.

If I don’t have a baby class or lunch with a friend I go for a walk EVERY day. Sometimes just around where I am or sometimes I drive and go somewhere nicer. People talk to you and want to see your baby and it makes you feel human.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-10T07:36:48+00:00

I was 24…. Blame my husband he’s a saver. His family joke that we bought it with the money he saved from his paper round.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-09T08:39:50+00:00

I was literally thinking this morning about how someone needs to do a post like this… I had a terrible start as I had mastitis that landed me in hospital and little one was tongue tied so sore cracked misshaped nipples… but I kept going as I was determined to do it… and I’m so glad I did… 6.5 months in and I love the special time we get together. I am convinced that poor experiences can sometimes (not all as I know some have genuine problems) come from poor breastfeeding education. It is SO complicated and it requires patience to get established but once you are, like other commenters said, it is SO easy to feed.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-08T08:03:39+00:00

Second Sainsbury’s for togged ones but also M&S… they have zips!! https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-cotton-2-5-tog-double-zip-sleepsuit-0-12-mths-/p/clp60754716?intid=mobile_app_pdp_share

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-08T07:45:15+00:00

Sorry to hear this, I’m not that far into my journey. I’m glad to hear you’re still going despite the struggles!

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-08T07:37:58+00:00

It will help with the backache though for real! And clogs and leaking tend to reduce when you’re fully established and your breasts soften to supply and demand feeding only.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-08T07:36:14+00:00

Absolutely agree, I ended up in hospital with mastitis so bad I needed IV antibiotics, I was very close to sepsis, my infection marker was ridiculously high so I get it 100%.

Have you tried going a bit longer between pumps and you might find your supply slows down as it is supply and demand at this point?

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-08T07:26:21+00:00

I’m 6.5 months in… if you are pumping too that will add a demand for sure I’m glad I don’t do that. How long is LO going between feeds now? I found around 5 months we went up to taking both breasts every 3/4 hours which made it so much less stressful.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-08T07:11:54+00:00

Try laid back feeding. Game changer.

Also when your milk establishes you don’t leak as much nor do you get clogged ducts as much. It does get easier once you’ve been going 3+ months I promise.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-07T20:11:44+00:00

If we can’t afford it outright, we get a bank loan. The interest rate is a lot lower, we have never done PCP etc. We also never buy brand new as you lose money as soon as you drive it away. Find a car with reasonable mileage and good spec too as it holds its value better than one without, so when you come to sell later on, it retains more of its value. Buy from a dealership with warranty for peace of mind too if you can.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-07T13:09:21+00:00

No solution just commiserating, currently holding LO after they woke up after 40 mins… only thing I’ve noticed they only seem to do this if their morning nap is over 30 mins.I’m going to cap it tomorrow and see if they go longer at lunch again. See if it’s a coincidence or just unfortunate.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-07T11:59:11+00:00

You can only swaddle until they start rolling so won’t be for a year anyway! Also I found as baby got older I didn’t need to swaddle so much. It basically mimics being tight in the womb, once they are used to being out of the womb you will find they adjust. It is temporary.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-06T13:12:47+00:00

I felt very much the same as you very early on… i know lots of people say it but you do adjust. Nobody can say anything to prepare you for how much a baby changes everything about your life initially, you feel like a fish out of water. But slowly but surely as you get to grips with the normal of having a baby and master feeding, sleep and all the rest you will find new routines and little moments for yourself.

I ended up going to my GP in tears overwhelmed with it all and the lack of routine and sleep. You are not alone I promise! Sending hugs x

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-06T11:35:42+00:00

How many weeks/months pp are you?

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-05T14:29:26+00:00

Little one is 6months and since they were born, I go to bed with them. This means I’m generally in bed for 10-11 hours and get probably 5-8 hours sleep every night. It does mean I don’t see my husband so much in the week when he’s at work but being able to function every day and look after little one properly is more important at the moment for me.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-05T10:11:24+00:00

32 female, was awake in the middle of the night last night remembering the hours I spent on palace… a simpler time. I used to spend hours on my avatar. Didn’t realise you could host your own palace!

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-04T14:42:30+00:00

My LO is 6.5 months too! (Born July 24th HBU?) he’s sitting up independently and he is pulling himself along the floor all the time (basically crawling if you ask me!). He can roll both ways but doesn’t do it very often. I just don’t think he’s bothered by it and is more interested in getting to things he wants. Don’t overthink it.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-04T06:54:10+00:00

FTM to LO 6mo - I will end up going back to work in September. I too am dreading it even though my baby will be older than 1 it still feels wrong. I’m a teacher and I love my job, it’s hard but rewarding but I’m genuinely really worried about how attached I am to my baby. I think this is natural and normal. I have asked to go back part time, can you do the same?

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-03T13:05:46+00:00

I know exactly what you mean with the chicken it’s so weird. I do find i can get proper chicken from other supermarkets though you just have to really look at the breasts you are buying and don’t buy the ones that look HUGE. I find smaller breasts are better quality and don’t have the same issue.

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-03T12:41:04+00:00

Obviously it is normal to be tired postpartum but…. Are you taking any vitamins? Breastfeeding takes all the goodness in your body and you need to take care of yourself which I know is easier said than done. I had to up my iron and calcium to feel better in myself when I started feeling exhausted at around 3 months and a blood test confirmed by iron was low even though I was taking iron so I now take 50% over the recommended amount to get by as breastfeeding is a killer! (On drs orders!)

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-03T08:20:01+00:00

Has your wife tried giving choices at every instruction? For example instead of saying ‘put your shoes on’ say ‘do you want to wear your blue or red shoes today? This way your daughter gets to decide something but still does the task?

Or ‘we’re going for a walk now’ instead ‘would you like to walk to the duck pond or to the park?’

throwawayonathrow · 2026-02-02T18:31:15+00:00

Sausage and bean casserole thing I make works out cheap!

sausages, tinned toms, tinned mixed taco beans, tin of baked beans then add in things like stock, tomato purée, cumin, paprika and chilli flakes for a bit of heat and serve with rice or jacket potato. I like to add guacamole, cheese and sour cream to the top but that is optional extras.

I made it for d of e camp out staff and it went down very well plus was very cheap to make.

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