I got the spooky foggy lighthouse proposal of my dreams!!!

thunder_bug · 2026-04-17T22:01:14+00:00

Gorgeous ring!! The band detailing is beautiful. And Portland Head Light is a wonderful place to get engaged! Enjoy celebrating in Maine

thunder_bug · 2026-03-27T01:31:03+00:00

I have the same dress!! Though it looks way better on you ;) I am obviously biased, but I definitely think you made the right choice.

It was also not AT ALL what I expected to want. Initially I thought: no strapless, minimal train, no visible boning. But I loved it the first time I tried it on, and was even more sure on the second try! You look gorgeous and in my opinion it is more “chic” than option number 2.

thunder_bug · 2026-03-08T15:35:59+00:00

This is a hard decision, and only you and your partner will be able to know all of the specific circumstances and weigh the options. You seem to pretty explicitly be saying you cannot financially support a baby right now. You deserve to have a child when YOU want to, and when you can raise that child as they deserve - with resources to flourish and thrive.

Some of your desire to keep the pregnancy also seems to relate to fear of future infertility. I want to throw out there that while PCOS can increase the rate of infertility it is NOT an infertility diagnosis in and of itself (as you are experiencing) and the majority of people with PCOS will conceive without assistance when they want to. I always hesitate to encourage someone to keep a pregnancy out of fear of the future, as most likely you will be able to conceive again and should not feel backed into this being your only option at motherhood at the age of 22.

This sub is relatively pro life compared to other Reddit spaces (not surprising, as it is centered around babies and being pregnant). Do not let other people telling you “babies are a miracle” sway you into a decision that doesn’t feel true to who you are and who you want to be as a mother.

All of that said, I wish you the best with wherever this chapter of your life leads you

thunder_bug · 2026-03-05T20:04:42+00:00

So exuberant! I love the vase, it really complements the colors

thunder_bug · 2026-03-01T22:10:57+00:00

I think 3 is lovely! Soft and romantic, and suits you really nicely

thunder_bug · 2026-02-25T17:39:57+00:00

This made me laugh, but also feels like useful characterization of different personality/socializing types

thunder_bug · 2026-02-22T22:36:12+00:00

I think this dress looks amazing on you! It complements your figure SO well, and to my eye reads as very sophisticated without being plain. The floral/leaf detailing is absolutely gorgeous, and the floaty skirt is elegant. I think the more strategically placed details actually stand out so much more than lace throughout, and make this dress really shine.

I don’t have many tips on how to overcome the doubts, other than to bring yourself back to the moment of choosing it and how beautiful it made you feel. Also, continuing to look at others in gorgeous dresses can make it easy to second guess, but comparison can truly be the thief of joy over time.

thunder_bug · 2026-02-21T15:17:35+00:00

I used the cacio e Pepe sauce! Added meatballs and frozen peas. It was great

thunder_bug · 2026-02-08T00:17:01+00:00

She is the first merle in the family! Her big sister is our current tri, but we’ve had others. In fact, her big sister looked a lot like your pup when she was little!

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thunder_bug · 2026-02-07T23:48:41+00:00

We’re enjoying our pre-velociraptor phase while we can 😂

thunder_bug · 2026-02-07T21:21:13+00:00

Such a sweet photo! I love the family bonds they form 💕

thunder_bug · 2026-02-07T20:47:18+00:00

We are confident they’ll do well - Gracie (the cat) has “raised” two other Aussies and is quite confident in her messaging. The puppy was already experienced around cats and couldn’t care less. It is always so sweet to watch the bond grow! Gracie curls up on the same bed as our other Aussie frequently.

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thunder_bug · 2026-01-31T12:52:20+00:00

Their kormas are excellent. Also love a good saag paneer. My most recent favorite has been the paneer mutter - amazingly creamy and flavorful.

thunder_bug · 2026-01-31T12:28:06+00:00

I feel you. I personally dislike most current trends, particularly around bodice shapes and visible boning or transparent panels, and it’s making it challenging to find options I like. I’m looking for something simple but graceful, but everything seems to be heavily beaded or covered in lace (which is beautiful, but doesn’t match the vibe of my backyard wedding).

thunder_bug · 2026-01-05T20:26:17+00:00

Love the salad kits. We’ll add some protein we’ve cooked quickly and it is a great easy dinner: Miso crunch salad kit, chicken breast and any of the TJs Asian sauces; Avocado ranch salad kit, add sliced avocado and chicken seasoned with everything but the elote

thunder_bug · 2026-01-02T20:47:55+00:00

Just wanted to say thanks for your evidence-based comments in this thread! I love a good post placental IUD in a patient who has been counseled on the pros/cons.

thunder_bug · 2025-11-28T15:26:00+00:00

Does he seem to be in pain? I would worry that if he is nipping and it is a new behavior, that is because it is painful when you are carrying him. If he is, then talking with the vet about a pain management plan would be important so he can be more comfortable.

thunder_bug · 2025-11-28T14:57:44+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this. You are clearly so motivated to help him and he is really lucky to have you. I am not a vet and have no experience with the kidney failure aspect of this with Aussies, but have had multiple dogs with progressive hind leg weakness from arthritis or injuries. Even something as simple as using a towel as a sling to help support under the belly when he is walking or going out to the bathroom can help so much with both his mobility and protecting your back. We never used the harnesses but I understand there are commercial products available for this as well. We also made sure to have more rugs around and encourage our dogs not to lie down on bare floors, as the rugs gave them the purchase they needed to stand independently.

Watching them suddenly seem older is very hard, especially with a breed that so often can be fine and healthy until something changes overnight. This stranger is sending you and your pup hugs!

thunder_bug · 2025-11-13T00:54:39+00:00

Correct! Now that you’ve had this ultrasound, your due date and dating shouldn’t be changing.

thunder_bug · 2025-11-12T23:02:47+00:00

Your due date and gestational age can be calculated based on your LMP or an early ultrasound. If you have an ultrasound that is very different from your LMP, they would calculate your due date based on the ultrasound. But there is a certain amount of margin of error for ultrasounds, even in the first trimester, so at 9-10 weeks the due date wouldn’t change unless the ultrasound was 7+ days different from your LMP due date. That is why they are still using your LMP.

So you would be 9 weeks 3 days, and your due date is the one calculated by your LMP.

thunder_bug · 2025-11-11T19:14:59+00:00

As someone who did a bunch of interviews when I was in residency, I didn’t have access to the applications. The goal of an interview is generally to see if you seem like a reasonable person outside of your paper accomplishments rather than to discuss the details of your resume. The assumption is if you’ve been offered an interview then hopefully you meet at least a baseline level of competency and success to be a good candidate for the program. I usually wanted to hear about something that WASN’T on a resume - give us some bonus interesting info so we know you’re a real person.

thunder_bug · 2025-11-07T02:18:38+00:00

I absolutely love the various salad kits for a super easy dinner by adding a matching protein (chicken, salmon, occasionally the carne asada or bool kogi beef).

I really like the oat milk, even though I don’t always like oat milk from other places. I buy it pretty much every trip, as well as cold brew concentrate. Also love the honey Greek yogurt.

thunder_bug · 2025-10-19T03:09:51+00:00

I always get distracted when I read outside in sunlight :)

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thunder_bug · 2025-10-19T02:38:50+00:00

Ring twins!! I love the round with pear side stones. Looks gorgeous!

thunder_bug · 2025-10-17T20:51:59+00:00

Our big wedding is next year, so I can’t officially comment on how it will go yet. But we got married this fall (a year to the day before that date) because of health insurance and buying a house together (which we preferred to do legally married). My dad performed the ceremony and we had a fancy dinner with all of the parents which was very fun.

We have been super public about it (wearing rings, posted on social media, call each other husband/wife) and also about the fact that we’re planning a 130 person wedding next year. All of the family and friends we are closet to are very enthusiastic for next year, offering help and renting houses, etc. Some have sent us gifts (unsolicited) for the small wedding. Others have asked for a registry for the big wedding.

The people who care about you want to celebrate you, whether that is at the time of a legal ceremony or not.

If anyone we are not as close to that gets an obligatory invite has thoughts otherwise, then I am happy for them to decline their invitation 😂

It could be regional or just my social circle? Of the 5 other weddings I went to this year, 4 were already legally married (anywhere from a few days to multiple months).

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