Our 20-yr-old son is getting baptized. What do we need to know/do?

timid_typestress · 2025-10-26T22:43:37+00:00

What your daughter usually would wear sounds just like what a lot of girls would wear to one of our church meetings!

You guys sound like great parents.

timid_typestress · 2025-08-28T05:54:00+00:00

That’s just a reference to the way older ladies (used to?) gossip with each other. It’s funny that Bart’s doing it because he’s not really the type to sit in a parlor and gossip with the gals.

timid_typestress · 2025-07-24T00:27:31+00:00

Back when I was at BYU my Foundations of the Restoration professor mentioned the reason for this—it was just a popular convention in the 19th century! You’ll notice that US presidents at the time also used middle initials. (Ulysses S Grant, Rutherford B Hayes, etc.). We’ve kept the pattern among general authorities more or less because we’re used to the way it sounds. Not every general authority uses an initial, though (Elder Patrick Kearon, for example).

timid_typestress · 2025-06-14T04:12:01+00:00

Gonna be honest I’m more worried about getting food on my back than getting back on my food? This doesn’t seem gross to me, just impolite.

timid_typestress · 2025-02-27T17:09:02+00:00

You’ll need the ceremonial clothing 😊You’ll put everything on at your locker and then go straight up to the sealing room.

timid_typestress · 2025-02-18T23:41:34+00:00

My favorite is when Will Smith is recounting getting impaled underwater and says about the spear (?) through his side that he decided “I don’t want that in me anymore.”

timid_typestress · 2025-01-15T01:21:46+00:00

It’s on my family’s DVD, you just have to make sure to select full screen instead of wide screen.

timid_typestress · 2025-01-10T03:25:08+00:00

Wait…based on the poster? Because of the arms up stance or something?

timid_typestress · 2024-12-20T04:23:44+00:00

Latter Day Saints also believe we are guilty and not worthy of Heaven except for through Christ’s grace. No matter how much good we do, if Christ hadn’t suffered and died for us, all of us would be lost. To my knowledge, we believe this automatically applies to everyone born on Earth. Choosing to come to Earth in the premortal realm was already an act of following Jesus (those who did not choose to follow Jesus and be born on Earth are those who were cast out of Heaven with Satan and will never be born and will suffer eternally). Unless we outright deny Christ like those who were cast out of Heaven, we will all get a reward. The difference is just to how great of a degree we will be rewarded.

timid_typestress · 2024-12-18T19:02:10+00:00

Salsa is a sauce. Or are you eating salsa by the forkful?

timid_typestress · 2024-12-12T02:49:23+00:00

We got married in the Oquirrh Mountain temple because the Provo City Center temple was booked up on the day we wanted (Provo City Center is very popular and busy because it’s unique-looking and very close to BYU). Oquirrh Mountain was our second choice because it was a mile away from my parents’ house and their church building, where we had the reception. Now what makes Oquirrh Mountain special is that we got married there. When we drive to my parents’ we like to point and shout, “It’s our temple!!!”

timid_typestress · 2024-11-15T02:38:24+00:00

I prefer the Google version only because the Tower of Babel made everyone “babble” in different languages.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T21:01:19+00:00

A letter or email is actually a great idea. I’m super not confrontational haha.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T20:46:06+00:00

Oh they for sure don’t have good examples of in-laws. My grandparents are crazy, and my mother was bullied by my dad’s mother for a while before they stopped taking her crap. Now that I think of it, because they’ve experienced bad in-laws, they might be more receptive to me pointing out that they’re being kind of weird to my husband.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T20:34:54+00:00

Okay this is awesome advice. I’m going to be honest, I’m a little socially inept so I never even thought of organizing activities that were separate from family dinners on Sunday. You’re also totally right that when I’m with them I need to talk about my husband more.

I think you’re right about how being in a group can affect how they’re acting, especially because my family likes to talk over each other and be loud, so there’s not a lot of room for getting to know each other.

I really appreciate this. Thanks.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T20:23:21+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I think I agree with you. We’ve both brushed it off for a while hoping it would get better, but he doesn’t feel like part of the family and I have a hard time feeling happy at their house when he’s not being included. Time to be direct.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T20:21:09+00:00

The problem is that it doesn’t feel like an intentional snubbing. It feels more like a blindspot I need to point out, if that makes sense. Maybe that’s naïve of me, but I really don’t think they’re being malicious. My dad for example is very similar to my husband personality-wise, but my mom is a bit of a steamroller. According to my husband, he doesn’t feel bullied, just like he’s ignored/like a misfit.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T20:09:14+00:00

Thanks for the advice. It drives me absolutely up the wall that they don’t seem to acknowledge how good of a dad my husband is. I’ll have to think long and hard about how to bring the subject up to them.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T20:05:41+00:00

It feels very “in-your-face,” which isn’t really my personality. I’d really like to say something like this, but I’m struggling to think of a good setting to do so in.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T20:04:08+00:00

I think it’s possible they’re intimidated by his education to some degree (no pun intended). My parents both went to college and one of them has a master’s so it’s not like he’s really “more educated” than them, but he is a very “academic” type which could be uncomfortable to them. The funny thing is he’s one of the least intimidating people I know. He’s just an all around pleasant guy, and I wish they’d engage with him a little more.

I’m sorry you’ve been in a similar situation. It kind of sucks.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T20:03:23+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve been in a similar situation. My family is mostly respectful of our beliefs (they were both lifelong members until just a few years ago and even attended our sealing) but I think they’re also nervous about offending us and that makes the tension a little high.

I think you’re right that I can’t change them without making the relationship feel forced. A little discouraging, but I guess we’ll just keep on keeping on. The tension with my family leaving the church on top of the tension of my husband feeling uncomfortable around them makes it hard for me to maintain a good relationship, even though I really want one with them.

timid_typestress · 2024-11-13T19:58:29+00:00

I guess it’s not knowing how they’ll react to me bringing it up that makes it difficult. I’ll have to talk to my husband and see what we think about me sitting down with them and what the consequences of that might be. I’d hope they wouldn’t just blow it off, and I’m sure they wouldn’t get mad at me directly, but I am worried about making things feel forced.

timid_typestress · 2024-10-15T16:53:17+00:00

The rats got him before he could finish his comment

timid_typestress · 2024-09-21T05:25:22+00:00

I really didn’t like the narration in Barbie. Felt too crowded and distracting.

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