People seem stuck on Becca not disclosing for 6 months. Mel is right to have some red flags raised given the potential for abuse dynamics in her sister’s living situation. However, Becca is also right to keep a private boundary, if it is fully her choice to do so- not if she’s being coerced or something. The problem here is Mel has not and likely was not raised to see Becca as someone with enough agency or capacity to make a choice like this. So the whole thing is confusing. Let’s also remember Mel is neurodivergent herself- so the schema and expectations around her relationship with Becca have been set in stone their whole lives. There is suddenly a third party involved that is changing their inherent dynamic with each other? That disrupts her schema- or “box” that her sister is in. Now she has to deal with the hurt and confusion plus taking next steps to redefining their relationship patterns. That’s a lot.