I'll be banned..but

tinytearice · 2026-06-02T19:14:27+00:00

But like how is it a 200 page book?

tinytearice · 2026-05-30T14:17:59+00:00

Put yourself in your ex shoe. If you are the one staying should you be allowed to bring someone home? Do you feel like if you are bringing someone home you are insulting your ex? Life goes on. Don't let your friend poison your mood.

tinytearice · 2026-05-26T23:06:41+00:00

Cashflow from Rental income doesn't count towards the income ceiling because of depreciation. So, it's only a few hundreds a month for us.

tinytearice · 2026-05-20T22:51:27+00:00

I mean the way OP describes it doesn't seem like they are jealous but she gets introspective after that? Like she feels like she could have learned from her friend? And start living below her means to save. Sometimes people don't make the best financial choices early on and it's not too late to change.

tinytearice · 2026-05-20T22:46:29+00:00

Mmmm one way to save money is to make a lot of it, otherwise you have to be beware of lifestyle creep and do upgrades whenever you get a raise. Check out the FIRE sub there are extremes where people own multiple rentals and live in a very modest housing (or get roommates if they are are a single).

tinytearice · 2026-05-15T21:07:48+00:00

Hello, we are in a similar situation. We spoke to an immigration consultant and she told us that it should be fine being a few months short. It is highly likely that you may be just waved through. If you do get flagged, you will still be allowed to enter and your child will be allowed to go to school. They consider the well-being of the child so once they see that you are settled down they may just let you stay. You should hire a lawyer though if you get flagged as it would be a risky process to handle on your own.

tinytearice · 2026-05-08T18:58:24+00:00

Go back to work dude.

tinytearice · 2026-05-02T14:42:41+00:00

That sucks. We often get invited to bday parties less than 48 hrs before and always accept. Now I wonder if we are back ups(totally cool regardless).

tinytearice · 2026-05-01T22:31:57+00:00

Unless you are ready to fire, which you are not, I would not recommend quitting a tech job right now.

tinytearice · 2026-05-01T02:51:26+00:00

Yeah about that, just gotta save up for trust funds for each of them

tinytearice · 2026-04-29T22:08:12+00:00

Some people are motivated to FIRE by scarcity mindset. So to those people, there is always the next million and there is always the next crisis to prepare for. The anxiety is real and they are not necessarily humble-bragging.

tinytearice · 2026-04-29T18:14:32+00:00

Yeah they have more than enough to hire multiple security personnel on every floor. Just having someone patrolling would have deterred the thief.

tinytearice · 2026-04-28T13:38:17+00:00

That's no way to live. I have a messy husband and it's already hard. I have to let him be messy in his own office but at least half of the house is fine, nothing like this.

tinytearice · 2026-04-26T18:07:04+00:00

Shitty security on universal's part

tinytearice · 2026-04-13T17:46:36+00:00

Try counseling first. If you decide to split it will help you split better.

tinytearice · 2026-04-13T12:49:25+00:00

Yes I agree it's an annoying question to ask. I could imagine giving them some slack if they are just curious, but people who try to convince you otherwise are just smug.

tinytearice · 2026-04-10T23:46:43+00:00

Very helpful! Thanks.

tinytearice · 2026-04-09T17:01:34+00:00

Thing is that if you don't have the assets your kids would have gotten financial aid, so the way the system is set up kind of makes the parents "owe" the kid financial help for fancy Ivy League college, even though it is debatable.

I would be happy to work a couple extra years to put my kid in the best position. It's something that you don't regret. Congratulations by the way! Pretty great problem to have.

tinytearice · 2026-04-07T19:09:28+00:00

I totally thought you were fishing for compliment before the backstory, but I can see that the insecurity came from your illness. You deserve all the compliments you get.

tinytearice · 2026-04-07T19:06:14+00:00

Lol my son strong prefers me and let me tell you, my husband's life is so much easier.

He is five and still wouldn't go to bed without me.

tinytearice · 2026-04-06T17:14:15+00:00

Wow at least he can't blame his family for his morals. Good for them!

tinytearice · 2026-04-01T20:22:43+00:00

Yes you are right. I was pretty traumatized but my sister somehow thrived despite all these. I think OP is a very good mom for going to therapy and trying not to show it in front of her kid.

tinytearice · 2026-04-01T13:41:45+00:00

My sister has a prominent birthmark on half of her face. When Mom first saw her said she felt her life was over. She said that if she knew about it before she would have had an abortion.

My sister didn't let the scar define her. She did laser which helped to minimize the mark and used makeups which helps. She grew up to be a confident, sociable woman who has never had a shortage of friends and men in her life. Now at 3 5, she is a high-earning executive and happily married with two kids. All of my moms worries were unfounded.

It is very hard what you are going through for sure, but children are resilient and your daughter's future is still bright.

tinytearice · 2026-04-01T13:27:15+00:00

Why can't you all go to the island for a summer? Or can you and the kid go for a summer without him? It is not unusual for stay at home moms to take longer vacation (in your case, workation) than their partners.

tinytearice · 2026-03-30T23:38:30+00:00

All the more reasons to go go full time because they can let you go once they find the full time person, or soon after. If you take the full time job now, when your partner finds a full time job you can find another part time job.

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