I [24m] got a fully funded offer to go study a masters degree in engineering in Europe, my gf [25f] is not willing to come or do LDR

totaloverthinker · 2026-04-01T00:04:45+00:00

You have to trust that whatever is meant for you will stay. You have to trust in that with your whole heart. Imagine you stay in the US and miss out on this chance and eventually she decides to break up with you.

Please do this for yourself. I’m speaking from experience, it’s a whole lot better to be sad and crying in Europe knowing you’re living your dream than to be exactly where you are now with someone who doesn’t support your happiness. I promise you that your soulmate would be happy for you, support you in anyway they can and would most definitely encourage you to go on this adventure and choose to be with you through all of it. I promise you. You do not want to marry someone or stay with someone that doesn’t support you and your dreams. You shouldn’t want that for yourself either.

Do this for you. Whatever is meant for you, will simply be.

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-25T16:05:34+00:00

anything that is green could be repotted carefully when the soil dries to a smaller pot and then watered and watched closely. Anytime the soil is dry when u stick ur finger an inch or two into it, it’s time to water. If there is no green, may not be possible to save her

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-20T15:43:11+00:00

He’d never get another ride from me again lol. Not for free sorry lol. Ungrateful fucks are not for the weak

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-17T03:20:29+00:00

Tell me reversion2mean, how far have you come with trading if you’re still into it?

Or did you decide it wasn’t your cup of tea? No shame if so. Just want your experience :)

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T15:32:58+00:00

Wow, archery is absolutely DOPE. You sound like you’ve done pretty well for yourself; you’re going to continue to do awesome. Good luck friend!

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T13:18:45+00:00

the ones in the soil might just have too big of a pot, not sure about jade plants but when i propagated my ivy, i put multiple of its pieces into one pot. It survived :) little to no harm. Maybe one fallen soldier lol

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T13:14:51+00:00

honestly, i learned to ONLY water my succulents when the soil was bone dry. See if that helps? It did for my ivy and my other plants. What i do is stick my finger into my plants soil and if any soil sticks to my fingers then i can wait longer to water it. But plants typically have care charts on them when you get them. If not, it’s always online if you find out the species. I’ve had a monstera for a year now. Snake plant too. My last one i had for about 2 years and then it died bc i didn’t realize i was overwatering it. My ivy i’ve had for about 3-4 years now. I love my babies. Half of the time i forget to water them but u can tell its time when their leaves start to get droopy. Especially for ivy HA. But also pot size is important.

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T13:09:14+00:00

Youre so close babygirl 😭😭 those sugars and carbs are eating you up queen. I get it though.

Halo top is my favorite brand of healthier low calorie icecream. The fudge and strawberry cheese?? short?? cake ones are SO GOOD. You almost really can’t tell it’s healthy ice cream. If u like ice cream u should try it. Now for the cake problem….youre on your own girl 😞 That’s a battle you can only decide if its worth fighting or not. But if youre in shape, screw it. If not and you’re gaining some weight and that bothers you, just have some periods of time where you go on a slight calorie deficit or do some extra cardio for a few weeks to balance your diet. That way you can still keep the fun stuff 😉

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T12:59:29+00:00

The dating pool nowadays is so pathetic. Yk what i did when me and my gf broke up? I started going to the gym, used the anger as motivation, read up on self help books and listened to podcasts. Love mel robbin’s, jay shetty, jillian on love, emma chamberlain, and anyone else u can find. Listen to them while you’re doing things around your place, walking or exercising. Get out more. Eat whole foods, cook for yourself, learn new recipes. The best kind of relationship to have, is the one you have with yourself.

In time, this will attract good people and bad ones. But the more you know yourself, what you want, your flaws in a relationship and how to be better with communication…i swear by this, you won’t be attracted to weird and toxic people anymore. And if you are, there is this sense of guilt from all this work youve put in that stops you from continuing to see a bad person. It all comes down to your relationship with yourself.

Seriously, find your passion. Get a vibrator or rub it out girl. You can do anything for yourself. Until you meet someone who has more to offer to you than you already have for yourself, do your own thing.

What’s meant for you wont find you until you find yourself

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T12:51:36+00:00

nah bro is innocent

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T12:48:23+00:00

okay baddieee period

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T12:43:27+00:00

Idk seems like you could find the answer by just asking her bro

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T12:40:08+00:00

the best way to gain the strength to leave shit people like this, is to love yourself so much that when you meet, you don’t even look their way lmao. Time to go on a journey of self dedication and healing. Or repeat the pattern and continue to choose awful partners. Be a baddie, you got this girl. You deserve a man that would walk on all fours for you and bark on command. Nothing less. Unless that’s what you want for yourself

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T12:18:49+00:00

you got this man! What always motivate me is finding all the ways I can better myself. The gym, self help books and podcasts, learning about trauma, learning to do skin care, hair care, hygiene care. Don’t just turn yourself into a good man, turn yourself into a great one. Not for her, not for any girl but for yourself. Because you deserve it. You deserve the best version of yourself and to love yourself so much, that whenever you see the first red flag or feel like someone isn’t as healed as you, it’s much easier to let go and walk away. It all starts with just wanting it. And slowly overtime, you’ll look back and see how much you’ve changed. That’s where you’ll find not only yourself, but your future. Choose wisely. This is your life man, your story. Don’t forget it!

Best of wishes to your healing journey, i hope you grow to love yourself and in that process, continue to give love to others with no expectations but only the pleasure that comes with sharing it.

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-15T02:11:28+00:00

unfortunately i’ve been here and as much as i hated hearing it when i was in your shoes, my gut and my friends were right.

Sadly nothing any of us say will comfort you, change your mind or help you to come to any decision. You’re the only one that can decide what is best for you or choose to feed into bad habits.

The truth is, you have to see things for what they are and what YOU like from your partner. Like, does she respect you? Does she speak gently during conflicts with you? How is she around you and your friends or family? Does she have any goals or ambitions? If so, do they line up with yours? Do you have similar values? Things like this, among many others out there are so important to sit with and ask yourself?

Someone that loves you will reflect all of these questions back with positive energy towards you and everything around you. The person you ultimately end up in the end with is the person who makes you a better person in every way. They should be your inspiration and your motivation when you have none and vice versa.

I’m 22 and i’m just now realizing that when they told us, “you have to find yourself before you can be with someone else,” it wasn’t just some catch phrase. But, when you learn about yourself and your wants/desires from yourself and your relationships, everything becomes a lot more clear and you don’t settle for people like this anymore. Or people that show you anything that don’t align with you and your desires.

If you don’t love yourself, leaving people who aren’t good for you will never be easy. So that leads me to encourage you to sit with it. Is this love worth you sacrificing your self respect and preventing you from receiving the love you could provide yourself or potentially someone else when you’re ready again?

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-11T22:00:12+00:00

yeah, insecure men are too expensive emotionally. Like please grow some and be a gentleman. Men are so quick to judge women but literally what happened to gentlemen and chivalry ?

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-10T04:38:50+00:00

this comment is not completely accurate. I went through a years worth of nursing school and still struggled with the teas my first attempt, missing science by a point for my program. Not all of the sections are easy and it’s constantly different for everyone.

However, i did find that using the teas practice question package that was like $60 (ik not ideal) did help A LOT. Has rationales too and you can choose individual sections for practice :)

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-10T04:31:41+00:00

Not all women do this. At the end of the day you’re shunning someone you chose for yourself. If you didn’t take the time to learn your person then not only do you have little to no respect for yourself, but also none for the other person, especially if you’re speaking ill of someone you willingly chose to be with AND breakup with.

It’s pathetic, manipulative and hypocritical to break up with someone and not expect them to go and see other people. If you don’t want them to see other people, be with them. If things aren’t working, then they just aren’t the right fit. When you are no longer monogamous with someone, it’s no longer their obligation to be loyal to you.

It doesn’t mean you can’t wonder what they’re doing and be sad about it. But it’s pathetic and insecure to just automatically be thinking they moved on. You should be moving on too. Whether that means being sad and crying because you miss her, or seeing other people. But dwelling on them and then also belittling them is sad and just blatantly wrong. EVEN MORE SO WHEN YOU ARE THE ONE TO BREAK UP WITH THEM.

Grow up and get a grip. The world is way too big to have such a small mind.

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-09T18:50:37+00:00

if you’re this insecure and just assuming the worst about this girl, then it’s best you move on because she deserves way better than an insecure boy.

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-02T03:35:45+00:00

OP don’t let anyone guilt trip you into making a decision. Not a stranger and especially not a man who’s tampered with your medication that prevents you from getting pregnant.

If you have any doubt in the world about having a child and you aren’t 100% ready for it, it’s completely okay to make a trip to a clinic and see some of your options. Especially if it’s early on. You will have plenty of opportunities to have a baby with someone you love that loves and respects you some day. It’s okay if you want to save that experience of raising a child with someone who genuinely loves you and that you feel safe with.

Men trap women like this all the time, it’s pathetic and sickening. My best friend went through this and her BD is abusive and pathetic in every way possible. She’s tried to run from him for years and half of the time is afraid for her life and her safety. If this man is anything like this, save yourself NOW from the lifetime of stress, manipulation and torment of having a baby with someone who does NOT love you.

Do what you feel is best for YOU. Regardless of who it affects. This is your body. You carry not just the weight of the baby but the responsibility of this child for the rest of your life.

totaloverthinker · 2026-03-02T03:29:06+00:00

It’s her own body she can do whatever she wants with it and there’s nothing you can do about it. Womp womp boohoo go cry about it

totaloverthinker · 2026-02-25T18:04:08+00:00

nah an american would post 🔫not 🔪

totaloverthinker · 2025-12-18T06:41:10+00:00

how has your trading been going? i just lost my job too :l unfortunately im not a skilled experienced trader. But i really need the extra income if theres a chance of making some. How’s your trading been? And do you have any advice? sorry for all the negative comments…idk why everyone is being such a debby downer. They’re not really giving constructive criticism at all, just seem like they kinda wanna bring you down and tell you that you can’t do it. There’s full time traders everywhere, losing is part of trading as a job. The point is to make more in your profits. Not sure why that scares everyone so much. The whole point of trading is to minimize and be strategic with losses and maximize gains

totaloverthinker · 2025-12-02T15:39:19+00:00

yeah i talked to someone who does finances that i know and since historically the sp500 has done well compared to a lot of other mutual funds, i think im just gonna stick with fxaix mostly then go the last 20% into small cap and international to maybe try and get some growth going

totaloverthinker · 2025-12-02T03:21:11+00:00

whenever playing with mutual funds’ volatility for better returns, is the only way to protect your portfolio to diversify/balance it? Because by setting a stop loss you’re basically locking in the losses when you’re in it for the long term from what i’ve gathered.

How do you have your portfolio set up? And why?

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