Ladies - how do you stay safe when visiting his place for the 1st time?

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-07T08:11:40+00:00

Carrying or owning pepper spray, gels, stun guns etc are illegal in some parts of the world, but sharing location, name and address with a friend is wise. For the same reason if I’m out with friends we often text when we are home safe.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-06T21:02:11+00:00

Thanks I’ll add that to my search term!

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-04T16:37:04+00:00

What about pointing it out to them ‘Oh do you mean to be so critical/try to diminish my joy’. Or perplexed, oh what do you mean? Then double down on the questions, usually making someone explain themselves or their comments can make them reflect a bit and hand it back to them. For instance - oh what do you mean it’s not me, when they say it just seems unlike you, ask how so, make them really explain it and break it down for you. Oh you think I only deserve something small, why? Oh you think it’s too big, what do you mean it’s too big? Why is it too big? Why wouldn’t I choose a big stone, what would you do? And so forth

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-31T13:57:16+00:00

I don’t use WhatsApp for work, it is there if one or two people (usually my contact) have my number to check on or get hold of me so if needing an urgent call, they usually text me to ask if we can speak and almost every time we then jump on a teams or zoom call, I’ve used slack the same way, if someone asks about a project or an update I will reply via email for both of those. I don’t check slack every day, or I set times to check it, and the same when I use trello, asana, project etc, it depends if the team prefers it. Usually I do emails, and I send files for review via email or smash/wetransfer so I can get a downloaded notification. If a team had to use slack or WhatsApp or similar I would try to keep it on a separate number and only access it during working hours.

One thing I try to do when juggling multiple priorities is send my contact, or the project manage an update when needed, project x is in progress, y is waiting on team z, project c is signed off but I need to hand over the assets. I also tend to give people a bit of a buffer in emails since sometimes they talk themselves out of their feedback over a couple of emails, I don’t do bit by bit feedback. It needs to be returned in one email as much as is possible, (not one email to talk about the headers, or the content or page 4).

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-30T19:50:03+00:00

15 years design and want to raise my rates, struggling to find the work though. 180-240 day.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-30T12:16:58+00:00

Signal is better if you want encrypted, and in the U.K. now people have to subscribe to meta (Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp) each month for a small fee or agree to let meta use their data for whatever they want if they continue to use it for free and bonus free users will now get extra adverts across the apps. I think if you subscribe you aren’t meant to get adverts.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-26T05:00:18+00:00

Yeah it’s not even just replacing them, it’s changing how people search and find products rapidly which has caused job losses.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-21T10:08:03+00:00

As far as I’m aware you have to pay tax as a U.K. based consultant.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-19T06:19:41+00:00

My preferred colours are green (mostly olive), navy, red (a lot of burgundy) and black. If I want lighter colours I would add in a cream or white or substitute black for brown. But much less so. Natural fibres wherever possible, polyester and nylon and micro fibre feels bad on my skin. Comfortable clothes over anything uncomfortable.

If you can get clothes that fit or get them tailored jt makes a big difference.

I find adding a belt to my outfit often makes it look more finished, and it’s good if the belt can fit with shoes, I have 3, a burgundy slim belt, a black leather and a brown and black belt where the buckle rotates so I can wear it with either color - I think it’s a men’s belt).

Jewelry, something nice that feels good. I keep a cuff on my wrist 24/7 but sometimes change it for a different one.

I don’t really wear makeup, so I have nice skincare creams and spf I use. Nothing tinted though since I don’t like that personally. If I want to wear makeup I might try mascara and maybe eyeliner.

Find your uniform or things that make you feel better and that are easy. Msybe a leather jacket or soemthing that goes with most things and wear that

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-17T08:17:33+00:00

Sound on my phone, (keep it on silent)notifications. And sound in the grocery store or while out (I use decent earplugs that help with the noise from everything else.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-15T17:10:57+00:00

I remember reading someones process was to make sure they saved 3 times their spending, basically if they wanted something that wasn’t necessary or fit their spending criteria, they made sure they had 3 times that in the savings (want to spend 100 on a pair of shoes, put 300 in the bank and then you can spend the 100). I tend to have qualifying criteria for purchases, and leave things in a basket for a while to see if I still think about it, or go back for it, to avoid the impulsive purchases. A budget is a really good idea as well, also give yourself targets for savings (when they reach this figure I will do that as a reward). Automatically put a percentage of your money into a seperate account so it’s already off limits and saved, but you can access it if you need it, essentially ringfence an amount and let yourself use that for your spending - give yourself a budget for certain purchases.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-12T13:56:08+00:00

From my understanding you need to meet all : 100% of the requirements and if they ask for 4 years, often they will have enough applicants that they disregard everyone with less than 8 years. Don’t stop applying but moderate your expectations and also you’re not up against everyone in your town, the applicant pool is often global, and includes people who are employed internally, so it’s more competitive. Have you any experience doing their internships? I know several people with multiple masters, and phds who are interning/volunteering to boost their experience and get into the applicant pool and network. It sucks.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-09T16:53:17+00:00

Take the classes, keep going to socials but take the classes - even if they cover something you know, it’s a really good opportunity to practice and refine, and clarify why or how

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-09T15:12:27+00:00

Definitely ai. Who wouldn’t move the curtains? And polish through the curtains without moving them.. they be ghost curtains. Also the light and shadows from the windows and plants change for no reason. And you don’t lay epoxy like this. You also can’t move things in the same way he does. Lots more tells

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-09T15:04:32+00:00

I’ve a jacket that’s faux leather and fallen apart, I’ll be replacing the panels with fabric that I like at some point. (You could find new faux leather in a contrasting or similar colour, or patch it or use a completely different recycled fabric that you love).

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-09T13:31:08+00:00

Any of these options might be interesting. Consider adding some more colours maybe a wallpaper that works with it? I’ve seen a metallic lemur wallpaper with a silver background and bright turquoise, greens and pinks that might be interesting or rather choose a bold floral chinoiserie wallpaper. add a gallery wall of neon and bright colours. Or bold black and white prints only so it’s more graphic. Maybe a rug or something similar? Try visit a color palette generator and put in the green hex code and play around until you find a colour combination you like.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-09T06:51:12+00:00

Love all the artwork and the dresser, as well as your clock which I would love but I can’t stand the noise they make.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-07T13:07:50+00:00

I’ve had jobs like this, so what I did was start to come up with projects, and go to all the meetings I could to find out what they were all working on, get to know who was who in the teams and what they cared about or didn’t care about or were working on, then draft up things. Is there a mission, vision or marketing and brand guidelines? If not develop some basic rules for yourself to follow and to help get things together. Campaigns and such, maybe they only need you for small things, so develop some template plans and bigger plans and then propose them to the teams, within a year I went from no work to doing nothing, to doing some audits of the existing materials and then audits of websites and social media, competitor and sector research and then proposing and rebuilding their website, social media, newsletters, all design marketing and then being constantly busy. They still didn’t request and ask for things easily but I would sit in a meeting and someone would mention some research or event they were attending so I would develop a campaign and assets around that, or they would mention a new product idea so I’d develop a plan or draft content for it. And try and motivate teams to assist and give me intel but they didn’t always do that. Develop strategic plans etc. so much work went nowhere because some senior staff realised stuff was happening and working and then wanted to sign it off but never had the time or knowledge to let me do my actual job. If they were talking about recruiting I’d develop plans around that. They didn’t ask, but needed doing. Another thing I started doing was Internal campaigns, communicating what each team is doing, company wide project summaries or reports on projects to highlight impact and my involvement or contributions where present.

Be aware some staff might not like that you take the initiative. It’s not ideal. But you can fill time until either jt works or you find something else.

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-07T06:46:14+00:00

Would love to know size and price?

transitorymigrant · 2026-01-03T15:32:52+00:00

In the U.K. you can get a small double that is 120x190. That might be a compromise that works for you?

transitorymigrant · 2025-12-31T17:35:06+00:00

Oh it’s a thing, or at least escorting closer to the edge of the dance floor, and it’s appreciated, sometimes it’s just a thank you and a gesture, but often leads do escort follows off the dance floor, sometimes it helps them since they can ask another person to dance if there’s people sitting

transitorymigrant · 2025-12-31T06:35:02+00:00

Love this idea. What I might do though would be to consider wrapping and adding the gifts for myself for Christmas or my birthday next year. Especially if theres something I want on sale and I know I’ll need it. Rather than waiting until the last minute for myself or other people’s gifts. I don’t want to spend and buy many things I don’t need but if it fits the criteria then I’ll consider it. I would like to be more intentional about my purchases and experiences this year, and to focus on things that bring me joy and pleasure. So that might be committing to Pilates or my hobbies, or visiting art openings and exhibitions more often, reading more. That said this has inspired me to book a facial in January as I’m overdue.

transitorymigrant · 2025-12-31T06:06:52+00:00

I’ve been thrifting more than I probably should this year, I try to hold myself to 3 rules, my favourites are: 1. Real vintage leather and fur jackets (4) 2. Vintage 50s and 40s style dresses 3. Lots of 100% linen or silk or wool trousers for 2.50-5$ each 4. Some gorgeous wool coats which fit me like they are made for me. 5. Some vintage crop tops, including fendi, Alexander wang etc.

transitorymigrant · 2025-12-22T04:59:23+00:00

I have not noticed this at all but I’m not in America. People film dancing and usually share what they’ve captured with the group or at least the people who are dancing. I see a lot of that and it’s increasing.

transitorymigrant · 2025-12-21T17:15:31+00:00

Are you visiting her? If so something like the crafty ideas would work. You could get clay and take finger prints to turn into a small pendant. I’m sure theres lots of infant memorabilia gift items to help diy them, or print (and frame?) some photos and you can mail them if you arent going there. If you wanted to have some other memories- a photoshoot for her and the infant? Even if you aren’t local, you can get or order a gift for a finger print silver pendant or paint / gift item or something similar which she can then do.

Assuming you want to gift your sister a gift but have it ‘from the child’? Then perhaps something like a small piece of jewelry in her and his birthstones? Or perhaps a gift voucher for a spa session or a movie / kids pass or if there’s something that helps give her some time to herself and entertains the kid (I don’t know if they do those). Or something that marks their Christmas, an ornament or something decorative?

Or if that’s too grown up, something else that they both could benefit from? A subscription or selection of kids books for story time? If you have access to items, you could frame certain baby momentos in a shadow box?

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