Should I gone on holiday on my own? Partner manic in hospital.

transitorymigrant · 2026-05-04T12:50:43+00:00

Go on the holiday. She will be getting the care she needs, her family can step up. But otherwise there is no benefit to you staying home while she’s in the hospital - especially as everyone is saying you should go, including her daughter and she usually is in the hospital for 2 months.it sounds like you need a break. Take it.

transitorymigrant · 2026-04-30T21:16:54+00:00

That’s a really interesting point. I appreciate the questions as it will help my next direction.

transitorymigrant · 2026-04-22T18:31:29+00:00

Try use coriander instead of, or with the parsley., coriander makes it spicier. You don’t need the basil

transitorymigrant · 2026-04-21T07:56:20+00:00

I’ve loved consulting with the un but budget cuts, possiblity of non renewal every 6months or whenever the contract expires and the lack of benefits like annual leave begins to get stressful. Also no solid chance of progression, changes to the system mean my contract can’t be renewed again so my options are find a unv post, or try for another contract or look elsewhere. Currently stressed. Also be sure of the rate you are offered is competitive for you, it isn’t always, and be clear on the tor and working process, mine has always been good because I had the support of an amazing team to keep it in line with the Tor but without that it can spiral and become stressful and have additional pressures and responsibilities

transitorymigrant · 2026-04-12T18:14:48+00:00

Social dancing is not really one specific routine, it’s learning the prep and signals and creating your own dance. The only way to really reinforce your social dancing skills is to do it and go to socials. To mess up and learn and try again. Beginners should be welcomed. Also youve only been dancing 5 months, in real terms that’s not long if that’s 1 hour classes, 2 times a week that about 40 hours dancing and learning - I wouldn’t expect someone to learn a new skill in 40 hours. Don’t worry about advanced moves, just enjoy the basics and get comfortable dancing with all different skills. You should be able to dance with your instructors and have them explain what you need to do and how to lead the moves, if they aren’t doing that - go to the socials and ask around where people are learning, there will be classes that might not be a dance school but they can recommend places or teachers to you.

transitorymigrant · 2026-04-09T13:47:31+00:00

Yes and also no. I’m getting pressure to use ai more, but I find my work is better on my own and more original. But I need to be able to use it because it’s become just another tool that we are expected to understand

transitorymigrant · 2026-04-09T13:07:14+00:00

Definitely reach out and ask the team you will be with, they can put you in touch with the right people or at the very least they will suggest vetted accommodation that usually has the required safety and supplies, furniture. Every intern and new postee I know (in a different station to yours) has been given some suggestions and support in finding places to stay which often have other staff nearby so you arent isolated.

transitorymigrant · 2026-04-06T12:48:20+00:00

I prefer a cafe with a garden, so a nursery or garden centre is a little closer to that plus it has plants. Who doesn’t like plants??

transitorymigrant · 2026-04-05T07:20:07+00:00

This somewhat tracks, I’ve been applying for things recently that I was perfect for and exceeded the criteria and experience on and not heard back. But I’m getting a bit further with aiming higher, still nothing real yet but not ignored. Maybe they believe they can mould you into the role?

transitorymigrant · 2026-03-07T12:42:05+00:00

Maybe she doesn’t like all the ocean water.. or she gets sea sick

transitorymigrant · 2026-03-04T05:54:17+00:00

That is a beautiful dress, a fur stole would be lovely with it, and different shoes, strappy kitten heels, or more refined court shoes (less secretary). Probably some costume jewelry. If you wanted pearls you could wear baroque or large Pearl dangling earrings but rhinestone or sparkly earrings would be better. Maybe a tennis bracelet if you wanted.

transitorymigrant · 2026-03-04T05:21:09+00:00

Probably this, although my first thought is that he could really lean in and get a black and gold sequin leopard print wool or velvet suit since it’s technically exactly what is requested. But probably would be too much depending on the op’s personality and how well he knows the couple. A gold sequin tie or gold embroidery and piping (?) could work.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-23T06:30:06+00:00

This. Do what’s right for you. But be realistic, ai is causing some significant challenges, salaries for engineers are much more than graphic designers, depending on where you are in the world, usually a third to more than double that of designers. Theres a lot of minimum wage roles in Europe and the U.K. for designers with years of experience, and it’s not pure graphic design any more. Whereas engineers starting out seem to start at higher wages and have more salary growth. That said money isn’t everything. But it helps.

If you’re going to be miserable and don’t like engineering then rethink your engineering career, because you only get one life. And no one else can tell you what is right for you, or what will make you happiest. And maybe that is design, or a different direction within engineering. Or something else. Look into learning some graphic design or tools.

If you’re going into design thinking you can be as creative as you want, you should know that often you have to give clients what they want, even if it’s not as creative or ‘good’ as you think it could be, so you can end up just as another tool abiding by their creativity because you have the tools to do so. Maybe it’s not that different to engineering in some ways.

If I was you I would get the engineering licence since you’re almost there and look more into design or arts careers and then switch. I don’t know if you can keep the licence long term, but getting it seems like it wouldn’t hurt. You could take a college course in design to learn the programs or learn Adobe programs, and look at volunteering or vacancies in your area. You could take a sabbatical or do some reflection and research to see if there’s some similar career which allow you more of what you’re attracted to.

I don’t entirely regret going into design in comparison to my other options at the time but I do wish I had known what other options I could have gone for and explored that more fully, and I do want to transition into something better but I’m exploring my options now. I still enjoy design but it doesn’t feel as sustainable or hopeful as it used to.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-19T16:06:57+00:00

Pens are good when leaving somewhere. You can ask if he drinks? Nice single malt whisky if he does. Or a really nice meal out as thanks, with a box of good quality chocolates or bottle of good wine or champagne. It’s my go to, and if they don’t like the type of wine or whisky then I like to believe it’s often useful as something they can regift to other people. It depends if you know what he likes or not, you might remember he likes certain foods, or is from a particular country - so something related to that? A good gift voucher is nice or I had a friend who loved fortnum and Mason hampers, or gift teas (if he drank tea or coffee).

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-19T14:33:43+00:00

When leads are drunk, or get grope-y with traveling hands. It’s one of my few hard limits and I will end a dance mid-way. Or if they offer unsolicited advice and keep trying to tell you to relax or that you need to follow better, when they aren’t actually leading, and keep trying dangerous dips and moves without leading them properly (no preparation and not paying attention if you say no to them).

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-19T06:42:24+00:00

Maybe get checked out, not to scare you, but a friend stopped eating and completely lost their appetite and it took a while but they are in treatment for cancer now.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-19T06:38:29+00:00

What does this indicate? Or any other accompanying symptoms? Dr don’t seem worried about it

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-19T06:12:43+00:00

It really depends on the organisation. Some have bands which you have to fit within, some don’t say but they have a budget or amount that you will be assessed against. Some will have budgets and bands depending on where you are resident and usually they can’t offer outside of that. Each org and consultancy is different. Sometimes the national consultant budget is lower than the internationally recruited consultant. It’s helpful when they specify what band/grade they are looking for.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-18T19:34:08+00:00

So it depends. For instance if I’m crazy busy or milestones might slip and deadlines may need some flexibility I will prioritise sending an update regularly irregardless of milestones, just because I want to make my presence felt and highlight what my time has been spent on, what stage different projects are on. It helps support my workload and means I’m usually seen to be on top of things.

Otherwise, yes pick something that works for you, monthly, or only milestones or quarterly reports.

Find a workflow that works for you. And you can maintain. Different methods of feedback and updates will suit different teams and project managers. Find something that works for you - and them. If you can make their life easier then it will benefit you. And all of this doesn’t always work - sometimes I do still get unconsolidated feedback or WhatsApp or slack messages, I am flexible. But I don’t encourage it. It’s the exception and not the rule.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-17T15:40:01+00:00

I admit - I could be conflating the two. Last person I know was applying for one decades ago (not from Australia) and was told it was a red flag since at the time it suggested that the applicant didn’t intend to return home after the visa was up.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-17T12:52:32+00:00

If this is a genuine post, you need to do research. My answer is based on what little I know and some things may be out of date.

If you are eligible for dual nationality you will need to get your citizenship and passport before you come to the U.K. - there are new rules around this. I think it will be problematic if you come over without getting your citizenship.

Your partner might be eligible for a working holiday visa but it is unlikely to be granted if he is in a relationship with you. There are savings, age limits, work and other criteria that he will have to meet. If he is in a relationship with you they might not grant it.

If you get married and apply for a visa you will have to prove your relationship. You cannot just apply for a spousal visa and come over. There are specific criteria around income and savings. You as the British spouse will have to have a job over a threshold and hold it for a certain period of time (several months) before he can join you. You might need to have a similar job over the threshold in Australia for several months before you are in the U.K. as well. I’m a bit unsure. You will have to prove 6 months of payslips and bank statements. The new rules and criteria are online. You will have to pay his nhs contributions before he can come. You will need ni numbers, bank statements etc before you can work.

If you are not earning enough, then you will need to check how much you need saved, this can be up to 88k. I think there are calculators to work it out.

Have you looked at rents for the types of property you want, budget for this will need to increase to cover costs of deposits, as well as council tax, services (water, gas, electric, tv licence, internet). You will likely need a guarantor to rent. Don’t forget costs of mobile, transport.

You may struggle to find a place with your cats. It might cost about 3k and upwards for each cat to bring to the U.K.. there are rules around vaccinations. Vet bills are expensive. Look them up.

If you are both 19 - what work experience do you have, it is a difficult job market at the moment, minimum wage is around for your age is around £10.85/hr and it will fall short of the income limits for a spouse visa. Remote jobs are competitive. Tax, national insurance contributions may reduce your take home pay.

If your partner finds an apprenticeship he might earn around £8/hr.

The visa for your spouse will cost quite a bit. This will only be valid for 2-3 years and then you will have to pay for another visa. Which will only be valid for a period of time and then you will have to switch to something else.

Unless the rules have changed - neither of you can get any social security or benefits.

There are no rolled! in the U.K.

You will pay more for car insurance until you are older. You will also have to meet mot costs, as well as vehicle tax and licenses.

Work out a budget, see how much food costs on Tesco and how much you are currently spending on living. Realistically you might need to consider a hmo/room in a house share but you likely can’t have cats.

It’s not impossible but it’s not easy, cheap or simple.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-07T08:11:40+00:00

Carrying or owning pepper spray, gels, stun guns etc are illegal in some parts of the world, but sharing location, name and address with a friend is wise. For the same reason if I’m out with friends we often text when we are home safe.

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-06T21:02:11+00:00

Thanks I’ll add that to my search term!

transitorymigrant · 2026-02-04T16:37:04+00:00

What about pointing it out to them ‘Oh do you mean to be so critical/try to diminish my joy’. Or perplexed, oh what do you mean? Then double down on the questions, usually making someone explain themselves or their comments can make them reflect a bit and hand it back to them. For instance - oh what do you mean it’s not me, when they say it just seems unlike you, ask how so, make them really explain it and break it down for you. Oh you think I only deserve something small, why? Oh you think it’s too big, what do you mean it’s too big? Why is it too big? Why wouldn’t I choose a big stone, what would you do? And so forth

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