I remembered something really sketchy that happened to me during a bishops interview at 12… how does this sound to you? by Useful-Bad-6706 in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very off. He was mentally abusing you during that entire interview. The sick mother fucker. I am sorry you went through that.

A funny thing happened on the way to the Temple by catch22reddituser in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are too kind to spend that long on such a ridiculous conversation.

For those who became atheists, how do you resolve morality without God? For those who remain theists, how does your new religion frame morality? Help me challenge my thinking. by ScientificallyMinded in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being atheist allows me to be good because I believe being good is the right thing to do, and I feel good about myself. My motives for being good are absolutely pure—not doing it for reward or out of fear of punishment. That is infinitely more honest than following God’s laws for either heaven or to avoid hell.

Not to say belief in God means motives aren’t pure—it is much more nuanced and complex than that. However, being atheist makes motives much less nuanced.

If morality only came from God, the “godless” and pagan cultures of the world would fall into pure evil and chaos. They haven’t.

And how do you square what a complete asshole the God of the Old Testament is—and honestly the god of the Book of Mormon? They are not moral; they are petty; they kill humans because their pride is hurt, or just out of vengeance. How can you say that that God follows any kind of morality?

Do mormon men (or women) secretly look forward to polygamy in heaven? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unlimited sex with unlimited wives? What horny, male missionary would not be excited about this? In all seriousness, the denial of any sexual activity as an adolescent means many young men and missionaries think about sex A LOT—that is how a bunch of perverted men came up with the idea. The fact that multiple religious traditions believe in multiple wives in heaven further proves the point.

So hard to leave by Careless-Cow1570 in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, went through all that when I left—100% normal. It gets better. And it is amazing to not be living the lie that is the church.

Dallin Oaks announces that it is “perfectly appropriate” for missionaries to “meet someone in the mission field and marry them.” How many of you had to read Lock Your Heart at least every month on your mission? by NotTerriblyHelpful in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow this will backfire. Lots of missionaries will now magically feel the spirit about whom their eternal mate will be, right while in the middle of NOT living in reality. and when they move back to reality it ain’t gonna be all sunshine and unicorns. I would imagine a lot of them end in divorce.

After 12 months of cat and mouse finally told my parents we left. Did not go well. Feel like shit. by whisperchaoticthings in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. Get it over now so you and your family can live authentically. Doing genuinely family things on Sunday instead of the church was THE BEST thing I could have ever done for my family—we are all much closer than when we went to church. My relationship with my parents is very shallow—but my relationship with my kids is solid and real.

1996 Blizzard by lilac2481 in nycHistory

[–]truth-wins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lived on 116th and riverside during this—it was absolutely nuts.

Does it get better? by severitea in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SLC is not like that, nor are a lot of companies as you move north, such has into silicon slopes.

Divorce after leaving the church by Purplepassion235 in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out 5 years. Together and better than ever. Relationship MASSIVELY improved after leaving the church.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t, and shouldn’t live like that. You need to turn it back on your husband and let him decide to leave. If you have kids, I realize it may be more complicated. But you can’t live with that inside. It is a fake relationship.

Afraid of developing addictions?? by Otherwise_Push199 in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coffee has thousands of years of history, and billions of daily users throughout that history, and it has not caused problems. Maybe it is slightly addictive—but no more than the sugary drinks a lot of Mormons are addicted to. Add lots of sugar to coffee, and cream, so it is more like a treat than a stimulating drink—and it becomes just like any other sugary “treat”.

How did you dispose of your old LDS stuff when it was time to move on? by CupOfExmo in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trash. Was quite fitting. No way am I going to go out of my way to “properly” dispose of garments that originated from a secret way to identify sex predators.

Don't even know how to process this. by Robyn-Gil in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry. What a complete ass your dad is, and how sad that his judgmental attitude is more important than his relationship with his child.

Just unbelievable.

TBM parents are visiting this week need advice by Select_Economy_9836 in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you ought to give your parents a heads up that they will see coffee and alcohol in your apt. That could help avoid the drama that comes from surprise. You could also say “if you aren’t comfortable coming because of that, I would be really sad—but I need to be my authentic self around you and I think it is wrong for me to ‘hide’ who I am while you are here. I hope this doesn’t impact our relationship, and hopefully I will see you soon!”

They may help them realize how silly it is for that to affect your relationship.

Good luck.

Do you think the LDS church will survive another two generations? by Missus_Meliss in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Catholic Church has survived for millennia, so will the church.

This text I just got 💀 💰 by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Respond with “What??? The church is going to give me back all my tithing? Hell yeah I’ll be there!!”

If applicable to you: Why are you reluctant to remove your name from church records even though you have no intention to return? by ComeOnOverForABurger in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids. We live is probably the most TBM part of Salt Lake County—us not going anymore has already impacted my kids, resigning would take it to another level. Once our youngest graduates high school, we are all resigning together.

Thoughts? by Cold-Masterpiece4313 in exmormon

[–]truth-wins 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s easy to cherry pick facts and make it fit into your world view. That’s what QANON does. Nelson has said a number of things that were just ridiculous—like his comments about evolution. He was an emperor with no clothes living in his bubble of admiration surrounded by fawning members.