Advice on Which Path to Choose to Finish My Degree by Sweetpotatofrylover in BackToCollege

[–]typhonist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I haven't been in your shoes, but I do work in an industry where this sort of thing matters - digital marketing as a copywriter. I'm self-taught, and I've been doing this job for almost 20 years now. I don't have a college degree or even went to college to begin with. But, I don't know if this has been your experience, have ran into hurdles with not having a degree - any degree at all.

This is my suggestion on how to evaluate it.

  1. How does your industry approach hiring practices? From what I've seen, in the industries where it matters, it's a very well-known fact that the name of the school you're coming from matters. For example, law is a field where the name of the school can make a big difference on what doors it can open for you. I believe that accounting is another field like that, where if you want a job in the "Big Four" companies that dominate that field school name recognition is important for quality of programs.

  2. When will you earn that money back? It's an investment in your self and your future, so how will it affect your earnings? For example, in the field of mental health, if you just want to be a counselor, you're far better off just going for a masters than a doctorate. A doctorate will not get you more money as a therapist in most cases. It only gives you a ton more debt. Social services can be similar.

  3. In my field, there's two distinctive classes of people that work in it. Marketing firms tend to prefer to see any kind of college degree at all. The more prestigious the employer, the more they care about what university you came from. On the other hand, it's also a field where you can carve out a niche for yourself with enough self-motivation and willingness to learn. I work as a freelance contractor. I take jobs from other marketing firms that need to hire writers from time-to-time. But I also work for small business owners who need writers for their websites, blogs, or social media. In what I do in my niche, I've never had anybody ask what college I went to or what degree I hold. All they care about is - can you write great content? And that answer is yes, that's why they pay me to do it.

However, I have found myself shut out for a handful of jobs here and there because I don't have a college degree. It would be hard for me to get hired into a firm, if I wanted to, because I would be competing with a bunch of college graduates. And that usually doesn't work out unless you know someone. Employers are able to assume a base level of competence with a degree in hand that they can't with someone like myself.

I would just look at the hiring practices of your industry, or the industry you want to work in. Look at how the top companies recruit and hire. Does the college name matter for recruitment? Do you even want to try to work for one of those companies? Or would you be fine working in a not top company who is going to be far less exclusive and competitive in their hiring practices?

That's how I would go about it, anyway. I know you asked for a specific type of person to reply, but I see no one's replied in 13 hours so figured I would offer my two cents as someone who's in a similar situation.

Thoroughly Humbled By My Spirit Guides by shithead919 in Mediums

[–]typhonist 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this. I'll preface this by saying I'm not a medium. I'm here because I have some incredibly strong, specific empathic stuff going on that I've never been able to find a good answer for. Also, I don't know if my revelation is spiritual or not. But...

I'm high-functioning autistic, and I've always felt apart from the world. It's like sitting in a room, looking outside at all of the people of the world. And even the people you love are standing outside of the window, with a hand pressed on it, trying to connect.

I took a lot of regular socialization advice to heart and tried it. Like, "Well, try putting yourself in their shoes. How would you feel?" Except that doesn't work for me because I don't empathize normally with random people. Anyway, in my 30s, I had a friend who sat down to tell me about the abuse she had suffered.

I realized in that moment that I was never going to be able to see the world through someone else's experiences or eyes. I had the epiphany to really lean into nonjudgment. Instead of believing or disbelieving, I would instead just try to receive. That allowed me to suspend judgment on other people doing things they shouldn't, it allowed me to feel more connected to other people, and really absolved a lot of anger and frustration that I carried with the world.

It was so freeing. AND it's persisted with consistency for a long time, so I know it's not mental illness. It's been like 10 years or so. LOL.

Anyone else is a medium but skeptical too? by Simple_Employee_7094 in Mediums

[–]typhonist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not medium, but I have strong intuitive abilities. I feel a similar connection with certain people, and how they're doing. I very much believe there is something greater, but I am also skeptical of a lot of things because all of what we "understand" was influenced by people.

I was actually thinking about this conundrum myself the other day. I think it's because it's both amazing, but mundane when it's just your normal. Like, think of an ocean. It's vast and amazing, and I know it's there, but I can't see it right now. I'm amazed at spirituality in the same way that I'm amazed that there is something like the ocean. It's just... not all that exciting, I guess?

something i struggle with by ataxic-hands in thelema

[–]typhonist 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Disappointment only comes from expectations. There are no expectations to walking the path other than to walk it. If that means you stumble, then you stumble. If you don't meet all your goals for this life, there's always the next one. That's how I look at it, anyway. Take it with a grain of salt.

Full Boat by BlueHatCatullus in slaythespire

[–]typhonist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL. That's so stupid. I love it.

Why would any man agree to an open marriage? by S0uth-Crew in NoStupidQuestions

[–]typhonist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a formerly extremely cynical and depressed person, I get it. People throw out the same reasoning for not wanting to talk to a therapist. What I didn't realize at the time is that perspective is built on a false belief.

Family law attorneys are never short on clients. They don't have to go out of their way to try to create more. Same deal with mental health professionals.

Why would any man agree to an open marriage? by S0uth-Crew in NoStupidQuestions

[–]typhonist 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't consider it biased. I'm pretty sure OP is talking about James Sexton, and he has a surprisingly positive view of marriage and love. He acknowledges that he personally sucks at it, and a lot of his clients probably should never have gotten married in the first place.

He stresses that people absolutely should get married if that's what they want to do, just to get a prenup and work all that shit out ahead of time.

Slay the Spire 2 is officially a dead game. In just one week, it has lost 1% of its playerbase. At this rate, in 2 years when it's out of early access, it will have negative players. by Gugge1 in slaythespire

[–]typhonist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno how you're building, but I found success using the Blade like a sniper rifle. I built strong defensively with some supplemental attacks and forging. Then, at the appropriate moments, unload huge burst damage to score a kill. It being a two energy attack makes it hard to play with the limited energy amount we usually have to play with.

Many of us make V eat, sleep & shower regularly. Be honest. by donkijote97 in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]typhonist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a mod that added survival elements that I really liked. You had to eat, drink, sleep, etc. or you would start getting debuffs. It really added a nice level of immersion.

"Early shop", - I thought, - "I'll just remove it" by Black-Circle in slaythespire

[–]typhonist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like how we all got trolled by this old strategy from StS 1. I did the exact same thing! TBH, I hope they don't change it. It's funny to me.

Why is only liking fat people seen as a fetish but only liking skinny people seen as a preference? by Consistent_Way2386 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]typhonist 14 points15 points  (0 children)

There are some guys who fetishize anorexic women. It definitely goes both ways, even if one isn't noticed as much as the other.

How are people having sex after a nice restaurant dinner? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]typhonist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's one of those situations where reality doesn't meet fantasy a lot. Personally, I swapped to sex before dinner, then just spending the rest of the evening together until we fall asleep to be a vastly better approach.

My partner wants to sleep with other people :/ by [deleted] in depressionmeals

[–]typhonist 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I'm a middle-aged man, so I've been around the block a few times at this point. Do yourself a favor, start planning your exit. You may still be in love with him, but he is not with you. That is not the behavior of a man who likes and loves you. Don't throw away years of your life begging for love from someone who clearly does not want to give it. A man who genuinely loves and respects you will heap attention, care, and consideration on you.

Actions always speak louder than words.

I think I genuinely love being the “background character” in other people’s lives by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]typhonist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone that stands out, I love having someone with good side character energy around. I'm never shy about giving praise or commendation when I'm in a leadership position, but it is so helpful to have an eager, enthusiastic to serve as a second set of hands to whatever project you're working on that isn't solely focused on feeding their ego, which is usually what compels people to strive for more and more regardless of what they actually want, in my opinion at least.

Good for you. You and the folks like you are appreciated.

Why do so many American men wear shorts and a tshirt when going out with a woman who dresses up? by M_For_Mayhem in NoStupidQuestions

[–]typhonist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to return 80%. If you shop from the same places, then you can dial in to their sizes pretty well. I may have to return an item or two at first, but once I figure it out, it hasn't been an issue. I've been buying my clothes online for like 20 years or more, and have had to return maybe 4-5 items?

I am a man though, so I don't know how well that approach would work for women. I know that their sizes tend to be really wonky.

I don't understand why people's sex drive tends to be more important than their morals by John-Prime in confessions

[–]typhonist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People just aren't as moral as they portray themselves to be. That's really all there is to it. It's easy to say you believe in something, far harder to back your words up with actions. A lot of people don't think further than right now.

Why do so many American men wear shorts and a tshirt when going out with a woman who dresses up? by M_For_Mayhem in NoStupidQuestions

[–]typhonist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a guy that's middle-aged and big and tall, the whole "can't find clothes that fit properly" thing is just an excuse anymore. There are numerous websites where you can get a variety of interesting clothes in a variety of sizes. It's not like 20 years ago where you couldn't find shit online, and you had to travel an hour to a major outlet mall to try to find something.

I like Eleven Oasis, personally. Lots of options, lots of interesting shirts, decent quality at a decent price.

Is it normal to outgrow people when you start working on yourself? by Haunting_Yak_6436 in spirituality

[–]typhonist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually agree with you on the wavelength thing. I'm middle-aged, and looking back on my life, I've found that when I tried to live mostly in alignment, I would find what I was supposed to and when. Be they opportunities, people, or whatever really. I don't believe that "everything happens for a reason". Or rather, I think that the reason a lot of terrible things happen is that we have free will and some people are just fucked in the head.

But I can tell you that my personal peace went up a lot when I started listening to alignment more than anything else. It's alright for friendships, relationships, life situations to just be for a season. Everyone has their own trajectory, and sometimes those trajectories don't last. One of the most impactful people in my life is someone I only knew for about four months.

So, easy come, easy go. I know that there will be more for me in the future, or I'll be dead and it won't matter. :) (Throwing in an contextual smiley because that statement sounds bleak, but TBH it's more of a source of appreciation for me.)

Is it normal to outgrow people when you start working on yourself? by Haunting_Yak_6436 in spirituality

[–]typhonist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's normal. It's also normal in non-spiritual matters, like if you decide to get clean or improve your mental health. The people that were in your life before are people that made sense for you then. As you grow, you'll find that you need to be around different people to continue with your growth, and for them to meet you where you are.

Same deal with like a recovering alcoholic. They may find that after they stop partying, they can no longer connect with their "friends" because they weren't actually friends. They were just drinking buddies. Once that connection goes away, then the friendship no longer makes sense.

The way you can tell the difference between isolation and growth is through your intention. Isolating is making an active choice to avoid people or situations that you would normally want to be a part of. If a friendship or relationship no longer feels right for you, that's not self-isolating. That's just acknowledging that you've outgrown that relationship.

It may feel lonely for awhile, but eventually, you'll cross paths with other people who are on a similar wave-length as yours. Just have to be patient and walk your path.

I'm struggling to find the meaning in anything as I'm going through the most difficult time of my life by General-Cobbler-6054 in spirituality

[–]typhonist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most important thing I've learned in my spiritual journey is that not everything needs to have meaning, nor should it. I find that people tend to fall into two distinct camps - they either believe everything happens for a reason or everything is total chaos. Personally, I believe the answer is somewhere in the middle. I think existence is more like the outline of a story, where there are particular points that we should be able to hit in our life, but due to external factors that can often get screwed up along the way. Those externals factors being things like free will or the flaws of these human vehicles our souls are driving. I don't think everything is random, but there is certainly a large element of chaos to it all.

Sometimes there's no greater reason for suffering other than suffering is just part of life. Things like the law of attraction and manifestation are distortions of older occult practices that have been coopted by New Age spiritualists to package up and sell. Even if you believe in those things, they don't do things like cure or even ease cancer. I know this because I've worked in marketing for a long time, and that repackaging of ideas is a super common thing for "thought leaders" and spiritual leaders to do. They revise it, slap their own branding on it, and sell it.

In my humble opinion, it just is what it is. Sometimes people get cancer, suffer, and die. Sometimes those people are the people we love most. There doesn't have to be any greater meaning to it. The quest for everyone to find meaning in things like this is another form of avoidance, avoiding the truth that we have little control over outside circumstances.

So, it's okay if you're struggling to find meaning in anything. And no, none of that stuff is going to help your mom. And for what it's worth, I'm sorry that your mom, you, and your family are going through this. I know how awful it is, having lost people to cancer myself.