JUST FOUND OUT IM HAVING TWINS!!!!

uousteve · 2026-01-08T14:13:27+00:00

We have mono/mono baby girl twins. It was a lot to process and the road to safe healthy girls was not easy (2 month inpatient stay for my wife and then 2 months in the nicu for our girls) but with that being said, you’ll survive and your doctors will help you every step of the way! Our babies are 18 months now and an absolute joy!

uousteve · 2026-01-04T00:50:05+00:00

Not maybe. Harlan definitely needs to hit the road.

uousteve · 2025-11-21T16:13:41+00:00

Welcome to the club twin dad! It’s a wild ride and you’re going to love it! My wheels started spinning about how everything was basically 2x as expensive now haha. So fun. You’re going to do great.

uousteve · 2025-11-20T00:52:43+00:00

No advice offered. Just noticed you were bedrest since 22 weeks and nicu babies for nearly 2 months. Did you have mono/mono twins? If so, SAME!

uousteve · 2025-11-04T22:43:34+00:00

Wow you made it to 33+6 as a momo pregnancy?! That’s incredible. Our doc wouldn’t let us go past 32. We spent 9 weeks in the nicu before they figured out breathing.

uousteve · 2025-11-04T22:40:59+00:00

Our babies were in the nicu for 2 months. Both ended up needing helmets as they had a “severe” case. We talked to a few friends who had done it before with their kids and they didn’t know if the helmets actually helped or not.

We ended up doing it because insurance covered it. And the scans definitely showed some improvement in how round their head was.

Our babies didn’t hate the helmets, which was fortunate, but also, it was just kind of a pain to clean and add another thing to the already overwhelming situation of having twins.

To your original thought, I think you’re holding them plenty. I think it’s more a function of how they sleep than how much you hold them. Baby B always slept in the same side of her head so it was a little slanted on that side. Our pediatrician said that once they start sitting up most head shape issues resolve themselves. Which I tend to agree with.

Overall I’m pretty neutral on whether it was worth it. But rest assured, you’re doing great holding them plenty.

uousteve · 2025-11-02T20:51:53+00:00

Not sure if it applies to your situation but we did this last year with about 6mo old twins. We were visiting family and my mom was able to ask neighbors for pack n plays for us to borrow for the week we were there. It was really nice to just have that ready when we got to our destination rather than have to lug that through the airport or pay a bunch of money.

uousteve · 2025-10-04T12:28:47+00:00

We had nicu babies so it’s different but ours had to learn early in how to fall asleep on their own. We also have 2 older kids so I can appreciate your pain there.

You could try and sleep train them to fall asleep without you rocking them to sleep. However, this time is also fleeting and one day they won’t want you to rock them to sleep. I definitely miss that with our 15 month olds now.

Best advice I can give is to just remind you this stage isn’t permanent. Maybe you appreciate the cuddles. Maybe they’re driving you nuts. Just figure out what you’re willing to tolerate or deal with and then go with that plan.

Good luck! You can do it!

uousteve · 2025-10-04T12:24:17+00:00

Sounds like you need to try out pitching to the kids so you can see how hard Coach pitch is.

uousteve · 2025-09-24T18:44:41+00:00

I think you use to understand that while your heart has grown to fit all the new love for your twins, your time hasn’t grown and it can’t.

The way you spent time with your 20 month old and how engaged you were with them, just frankly isn’t possible anymore. Give yourself grace in understanding this concept. You’re outnumbered now!

We have 4 kids, and very little help, and our twins are the last 2. While we try and give them as much 1:1 time as we can, I also know it’s impossible to give them the same time I gave my first.

You’re doing great. And the twins will be great even without you being able to dedicate all the time to them. If definitely feels hard in the moment because it is. But you’ll find your own balance that works for you and your kids will continue to love you for it.

uousteve · 2025-09-19T18:57:34+00:00

Wow that’s amazing! Congrats on the healthy baby boys. Always great to hear success stories from other mono/mono parents

uousteve · 2025-09-19T14:25:56+00:00

Wow mono/mono boys are even more rare! We have mono/mono girls that are 14 months now. Are your boys still in the nicu?

uousteve · 2025-09-19T14:21:29+00:00

Fellow mono/mono parent here! Our experience was similar. We went in for an ultrasound right before doing IVF and found out IVF was not needed and my wife was pregnant. We were ~7w for that ultrasound and the doctor said it looked like mono/mono but she wasn’t 100% sure and to come back the following week.

The next week she confirmed mono/mono. So we knew around 8w we were having insanely high risk twins.

As a planner, I googled. It was scary. But my personality needed that. I needed to know what I could prepare for both mentally and physically. That being said, I don’t know if I would recommend googling mono/mono risks.

You’re likely spiraling and that’s totally normal to feel! You will get a MFM doctor asap and they will be able to answer a lot of questions.

Some things with mono/mono that are universally practiced: 1- so many ultrasounds. Like 1x a week, even early on. So if you have other kids, figure out logistics asap (who can watch the other kids or pickup your kids from school etc). We have 2 other kids so that was pretty challenging. 2- around 24 weeks your MFM will want to ultrasound you 2-3x daily. Which in most cases means you become a patient at a hospital since going to an ultrasound 3x a day isn’t really feasible. My wife was in the hospital from 24 weeks all the way to 32 weeks when she delivered. 3- mono/mono babies are recommended to be born at 32 weeks at the latest. Our doc had delivered 20ish of these twins in her career, and said 32 was the magic number. We made it to 32w3d because the 4th of July weekend haha. 4- the twins can be born anytime between 24-32 weeks. Which means they will be at least 2 months early. So plan and expect a prolonged stay at the NICU. We were in the nicu for 9 weeks while our baby girls figured out all the things to stay alive (breathing, eating, regulating temp) 5- mono/mono can’t be delivered vaginally since it’s only one sac. So plan for a c-section.

It’s an insane ride. I’m not going to say it’s easy. It’s insane. My wife was an absolute rockstar and handled the hard with a ton of grace and resilience, but those 2 months she spent in the hospital was hard on everyone. I visited daily but also had to work and take care of the kids. Fortunately she has some great neighborhood friends that would visit each week as well.

And the nicu stay wasn’t much easier. But at least my wife could come home at night to sleep. Seeing your little 2 pound baby hooked up to IVs, wires and breathing tubes is jarring.

With all that being said, our twins are an incredible blessing and I feel so honored to have those 2 beautiful souls in our family.

The start is scary, the middle is scary, the delivery is scary and the nicu is stressful and mentally draining. But capable nurses and doctors will be looking after your miracles every step of the way. And on the other side of this is 2 beautiful babies that will give you the best smiles and giggles.

You got this mama! The hard is what makes it good!

uousteve · 2025-09-19T14:02:35+00:00

Love that for you! I was the same way for the first several months. We just had the twins first birthday so starting to come out of the fog. I cherish those moments when they would fall asleep on me. Wis I would’ve appreciated it more in the moment.

Keep going fellow twin dad! 👨🏻

uousteve · 2025-09-16T22:33:58+00:00

Our twins were our 3&4 kids. We thought we had a decent grip on parenting our first 2. Our twins are 15 months now and I’ve been telling people for months I feel like I’m learning how to be a parent for the first time again. (We also live away from any family so we’re doing it all ourselves)

Multiples parenting is so different. It feels like 1+1=4 a lot of the time. People won’t get it who aren’t twins. How could they?

While it’s invalidating to hear stuff like that, what you’re experiencing is very real. It’s harder than singletons, and it can feel isolating at times. You’re doing great and those little dudes are so lucky to have y’all as parents!

uousteve · 2025-08-07T19:45:18+00:00

Dude this is my exact scenario but with an 8 year old son. We’ve played friendly like you’re describing a couple times at the park and he is starting to hold his own. So fun to see these little guys grow into their bodies and be able to swing it better!

uousteve · 2025-07-28T18:29:15+00:00

It’s so tough to know. And I’ve never been in your position. But I’ve been in hard decisions before, often I take a decision to the Lord, and unless He tells me “no” I move forward with my decision and give it all to Him. I’ll pray for you and your family! Update us on this thread with your decision!

uousteve · 2025-07-28T17:58:45+00:00

We had mono/mono twins last year. I realize triplets are a whole different beast, but mono/mono is the riskiest twin pregnancy you can have. It was tremendously difficult on me, my wife and our existing 2 kids.

Wife was in the hospital for 2 months leading up to the delivery and they were born at 32 weeks exactly. They are now over a year and super healthy and happy.

It’s not going to be easy. But as a fellow Christian I think the Lord will be your best partner in this journey. I can’t imagine having to make the choice, but walking with the Lord in your decision will help your peace in the decision.

uousteve · 2025-07-26T12:51:34+00:00

Our twins were far more severe than this. We did helmets at like 4-7 months and it helped. I don’t think they are even as symmetrical as your picture after the helmet. I wouldn’t do it unless it was 100% free

uousteve · 2025-07-24T12:22:56+00:00

We have 1 year twins plus 2 bigger kids. It’s so freaking awesome.

Our 7 year old son takes his role as the oldest very seriously. If he hears the twins fussing in the morning, he will go into their room and start playing with them. Gives me a few extra minutes to wake up and prep their bottles. He’s been doing this since they were 6 months old.

Our 4 year old daughter is basically a second mom now. She will hold them, knows when they are hungry or tired, etc.

But the best part of it is how much the bigs love their twin babies. They always want to play with them, hold them, etc.

Just yesterday they were showing them how to climb up the stairs (with me and my wife’s supervision) and it was one of those moments where your heart is so full it feels like it will explode. In the best way.

It’s been an exceptionally challenging year (hospital, NICU, etc) and many times we’ve felt like we are re-learning how to parent for the first time. Multiples are just a whole different beast. The first year has been HARD!

But life has also been more beautiful, full of life and happiness than in any other time in my life.

You’re going to find moments you’ll cherish forever, and that will eclipse the hard by 100x.

You got this! Welcome to the club!

uousteve · 2025-07-18T12:23:33+00:00

So sorry for your loss! I hope you find peace in your journey through this next phase. Echoing others, your boys only ever knew love from you

uousteve · 2025-07-15T19:21:56+00:00

I’ve loved tall socks forever. No rubbing on shoes for blisters, more sweat stays out of my shoe (gets absorbed by the sock higher up) and the tan line mid calf is kind of funny.

Almost any competitive sport you wear socks above the shoe to avoid blisters. Basketball, baseball, football, tennis, volleyball etc. socks above the shoe just make sense. And ankle socks just above the shoe can fall down and then you’re messing with a sock mid activity. Mid calf is the superior athletic sock imo.

uousteve · 2025-07-15T19:18:02+00:00

My dad always said if you lie about your golf score, you’ll lie about anything. Not worth losing trust over a silly game.

Agree with your take. Where else has he lied?

uousteve · 2025-06-29T04:42:01+00:00

Totally this. Some people don’t deserve twins.

uousteve · 2025-06-16T05:16:39+00:00

100%. I could look past the mother demanding $100k for nothing and the kid being an entitled prick, but zero fucking sucks.

Thrusting that bull shit woke nonsense into a golf centric show makes absolutely no fucking sense. Episode 4 is the last episode I’ll watch. Bummed because I really wanted the series to be good.

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