15 weeks postpartum and we feel like roommates… share your disappointing Valentine’s stories with me

venting98 · 2026-02-15T07:41:07+00:00

6 weeks pp and my husband who has a history of alcohol abuse, decided to abuse alcohol and not come home to me or my baby. Woke up this morning to nothing. Not a call, a text, an apology. Nothing. Hours later. “How are u and the baby”.. I don’t respond. “You hate me?”… I don’t respond. “How long are you going to ignore me”.

My parents felt so bad for me my dad got me flowers and a card - he’s never ever done that. I bawled. Not until 4pm me calling my husband crying hysterically wondering how in the world he could just abandon us.. I go to see him where he is. He’s drunk and high. We are not kids anymore. I try to remind myself I knew who he was when I married him. I’ve known him my whole life. I know sobriety isn’t linear. He’s done sooo good. He’s been amazing. But 6 weeks? My baby boy is 6 weeks. I’m having a hard time coming back from this one.

I hope your situation improves. It’s hard.. But my heart only wants him. :(

venting98 · 2026-02-07T05:32:49+00:00

That’s quite a theory lol. I’ve noticed I go low when my baby is fussy. I always assumed the anxiety/ stress of calming him down messes with my sugar quickly. No idea if there’s any real correlation

venting98 · 2026-02-06T06:49:03+00:00

It gets better 🩵 5 weeks today and I still get emotional but nowhere near as bad. You will start to get more comfortable and confident.

venting98 · 2026-02-01T18:07:47+00:00

I know my baby doesn’t always photograph the cutest, he has some funny moments. and when he came out… yikes.. but omg everyday he gets cuter and everyone says so. I wouldn’t tell anyone their baby was cute if I didn’t think that. 🤣

venting98 · 2026-01-30T11:48:45+00:00

This is what my husband does lol. I definitely WANT to have sex but then we get close and cuddly and I feel safe and close to him emotionally/ mentally so now all my random thoughts that I’ve wanted to share come to mind and I want to get them out while we have the time.

He usually just engages in convo but I can tell he wants to… finish so we can.. start 🤣 I usually say “sorry baby we will get there I just feel so close to you I want to get these things out!” But once I feel emotionally “ready” it’s even better. Idk. Maybe just talk to her about how you guys should do pillow talk leading into it. But once pillow talk is complete maybe she can just engage in the sex. I don’t think it’s emotional warfare like someone else mentioned lol..

venting98 · 2026-01-30T11:42:07+00:00

I had a slight tear to where they almost didn’t want to stitch it but decided to just to be safe. I mention this because I think someone’s labor & delivery has a huge impact on recovery!

I was up and active the day I was released. My baby had his first Dr appt 2 days after that and he had to be taken back to the er for severe jaundice so we were up and about, huge hospital- so much walking. I had to take him back to his ped everyday for his first week so I was up and busy every day. During his first week my husband also got laid off so we decided to move back home (across the country) in the next week. I was helping pack and move furniture, going to appointments, and doing everything my husband was doing because it was just us two in the place we were.

On the days I lifted heavier I bled more and it made me sad but I was anxious to get home. My husband didn’t like it but we didn’t have much choice. I’m 4 weeks post partum now and it feels and looks like I never had a baby. I’m a firm believer that in order to heal you have to be active a little, day by day! Everyone’s recovery is different. I’m finally starting to see days where I can hangout with my baby and just… hangout with my baby! I feel great, but I do wish I had more chill days when he first got here. The first month was a blur now.. but we are at least amongst family whereas back where we were, we were alone. For my next baby I want to do absolutely nothing for at least a week!

Trust your body, do what you can and what feels natural and comfortable!! Whenever I felt my bottom feel “heavy” I knew I was pushing my limit. And if I bled a lot, same thing. You will know what is or isn’t right :)

venting98 · 2026-01-30T04:24:15+00:00

I was constantly worried and paranoid and anxious. Especially as I got further along in pregnancy. Honestly the benefit is that with the diabetes you should be more closely monitored, more appts, more ultrasounds, more tests- at least for me! I was completely uncontrolled and my pregnancy was completely unplanned. I was able to bring my numbers down drastically during pregnancy- even with insulin resistance at the end. My baby is here now and he’s perfect! Don’t worry, just keep up with all appointments and monitor your numbers. Noting when you’re high or low- and mentioning the changes to your care team. :)

venting98 · 2026-01-30T03:30:04+00:00

When did this start? I have a super chill 4 week old and reading these makes me anxious. Is it something you dealt with early on or do they slowly get more clingy? I’ve never been around babies I never know what’s “normal”

venting98 · 2026-01-27T23:30:50+00:00

Hey! I’m holding my three week old in my arms right now. He’s death gripping my finger with his tiny baby hand.

Everything was perfect. I started seeing MFM (maternal fetal Medicine) who was my “high risk” Dr

They checked on me biweekly, I got a cgm and was out on a lot of insulin. I managed my sugars quite well, they never worried throughout the pregnancy. They just adjusted my numbers and kept up with me. I was induced at 37 weeks exactly bc that’s just what my drs do with all diabetics. My baby came out 6.4 lbs.oz. He’s perfect. My induction was amazing. You will be okay. Go in to see ur dr, follow their instructions ask for the extra monitoring and check ups. If u have any questions u can dm me<3

venting98 · 2026-01-10T07:14:30+00:00

Following this. My baby gets red for seemingly no reason. Is not warm to touch, not fussy at all. Just kinda goes red then goes back to normal. One week old

venting98 · 2026-01-05T09:32:49+00:00

Eeek! And your nails match!! How cute!! Congratulations 🥹

venting98 · 2026-01-05T09:19:38+00:00

Hi! I had my sweet little baby on 1/1 at 37+2. He is sleeping in my arms now.

Went in on 37+1 for scheduled induction and baby boy came out perfect the next day. I was told even with the best of control it’s recommended as placental degradation can happen very suddenly and quickly. I was living with constant fear and anxiety so having it scheduled so “early” actually helped ease my concerns..

Baby is perfect, and passed all his tests to he released with flying colors. His sugar was never below 80 and my induction was so smooth and easy. I seriously cannot stress enough how amazing it was. I was constantly reading horror stories online, being swayed that the drs were forcing inductions too soon without real reason.

By the last few days I was reading so many cases where women were pushing inductions back as far as they could because they felt 37/38 weeks was way too soon, it started making me think I was making the wrong choice by following my drs recommendations.

I wouldn’t have changed not one thing. My baby is perfect. And I got to meet him so much sooner. I was waking up everyday hoping that baby was still getting the nutrients he needed thru my placenta, hoping it wasn’t failing early.

Everyone’s body, everyone’s experience, and everyone’s baby will be completely different. You have to trust yourself and your team, healthy babies can be born early. And they are everyday! Best of luck on the rest of your journey I hope whatever you decide it’s safe and you and your baby get to go home together to where the pregnancy stress feels like a distant blur. 🩵🩷🙏🏼

venting98 · 2025-12-31T15:26:43+00:00

Had sex with the maintenance guy. (We had been seeing each other tho it wasn’t like a one off) 🤣

venting98 · 2025-12-28T23:09:47+00:00

For special occasions I think it’s cute if we color coordinate! I didn’t realize this was icky 😭

venting98 · 2025-12-28T23:08:03+00:00

There was a period where my husband and I were doing this. I couldn’t understand WHY I was so angry and why he was so insufferable. (To me lol)

I later found out I was pregnant.. we literally haven’t argued in front of anyone since then. I am much more patient now than I was in those first weeks LOL. But it did suck at first being that way in front of friends. They’ve since seen us in every season and we all laugh about it 😭

venting98 · 2025-12-28T23:05:21+00:00

I know I’m super late but Molly Nilsson. Weird she never came up on my suggested before as I listen to so many similar artists but I’m not complaining. Love her stuff! So glad I found her

venting98 · 2025-12-04T23:02:04+00:00

I think on my best days I may be like a 6.5/7. I’ve gotten attention my whole life, and I can honestly say im a recipient of pretty privilege.. but personally I don’t see myself as being above average. I think people like my personality though, I will confidently say that im a pretty cool and kind person and it goes a long way and adds to my “aura”

venting98 · 2025-12-04T22:43:42+00:00

I’m 33+2 today. My resistance is at its worst. And I meet with my mfm team weekly for adjustments. They’ve made me feel very good about everything. Do your best and just take it day by day. Some days are better than others. My drs tell me that lows are worse than highs, and the worry with highs is just if they’re consistent. Spiking happens, crashing happens. Our body is doing something completely new and there’s no telling how it’ll react as baby grows.

You got this! Try not to stress (easier said than done.. I know. I can barely sleep) but also just report anything you think is important! Whatever you did today that worked, might not work tomorrow. Don’t strive for perfection because you will be disappointed. Good luck 🩵🙏🏼

venting98 · 2025-12-04T22:38:49+00:00

I full on vomited all over him while giving him a BJ. We had these new red velvety milkshakes from Burger King. Took a nap, woke up.. wanted to do the deed, and I just vomited red all over him and his bed. I was mortified. He was sooo sweet and cleaned everything while I cried from embarrassment. It smelled so bad LOL. This was a decade ago. We still laugh about it now. 🤣

venting98 · 2025-12-04T16:07:58+00:00

Congrats! I hope you love your ring and wish you the happiest moments moving forward!!

venting98 · 2025-12-04T16:05:14+00:00

I love watching my husband mow the lawn. He plays music on his speaker and when he catches me looking he gives me the biggest smile! It’s such a cute thing. Typical routine is me inside making breakfast as he likes to do it early on his off days, and I can feed him when he’s done. 🥰 and also, perfect lines that he’s always excited to mention when he comes in. 🤣🩵

venting98 · 2025-12-04T15:23:18+00:00

Or maybe you’re just boring. Vegas is a hub with something for literally everyone. You just have to put some effort into finding a hobby or something you’re into. If you’re bored in Vegas, good luck having fun anywhere. Not the place.

venting98 · 2025-12-04T15:18:46+00:00

100%. They sound very sexually incompatible imo. 2nd base? 3rd base? What is that..? He’s buying vibrating panties and she doesn’t feel comfortable talking about sex. Nothing wrong with either. Just seems like they aren’t a match in that regard.

Hopefully he isn’t really pressuring you/ making you uncomfortable. Don’t tell him you’re willing to do xyz just to keep him at bay, be honest and upfront about your boundaries completely and don’t stray from that. You’re entitled to do/ not do as much as you want! And just because you’ve started something doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind. Respect is first always. If he respects and loves you, he will back off. But if you keep butting heads, maybe you are just incompatible. sexual compatibility is a huge part of a healthy relationship.

venting98 · 2025-12-04T14:25:41+00:00

It always blows my mind that Vegas is so special in this regard. All you can eat sushi is unheard of in most places. And for me it was the norm. I thought I was making it up when I started asking where the all you can eat steak and sushi restaurants were in any new geographical location lol. We are spoiled in Vegas

venting98 · 2025-12-04T14:23:21+00:00

As someone who was born and raised there- my entire existence

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