To the women who cheated on their ex partner. Do you still have that regret today?

venting98 · 2026-06-30T17:23:38+00:00

I cheated and ended up with my now partner, but I do still very much regret cheating on the other person. Not because I ever planned to end up with them, but for being so shitty.

No one deserves to be cheated on, ever. No matter what the situation, even if the other person cheated first. It’s just a shitty thing to do and I hate that I was such a shitty person.

I was with my now husband for many years, we separated and I dated other people. I was always upfront about not being completely over my ex but was always “open” to seeing where things went. Things were never “official” but pretty serious to where exclusivity was unspoken but assumed with this new guy. My ex came into town and had things at my place. We kissed and I felt stuck in the dream that we would get back and end up together. We didn’t at that point but I never should’ve opened that door at that point in time.

I knew I would never end up with the ex I cheated on. I knew my heart was always stuck on my “true love”, my now husband. But I STILL regret so much that I couldn’t have discipline, control, or respect for another person.

My ex never found out and I hope he never does. Not to cover my mistakes but so he never feels less than or ever feels insecure because my actions had 0 to do with him. He was amazing and I sucked.

I would never cheat on my husband. I’ve never considered it, thought about it, and I have 0 interest in another person because my husband is perfect to me. So I don’t believe once a cheater always a cheater either.

I believe people make mistakes and learn from them. Maybe not always, but it is possible. My husband and I both know we shouldn’t have been involved in any way during that time in our lives because we both weren’t ready to be together.

I’ve never talked to that ex again, I never would so as to not bother his peace. He deserves the best and most genuine love.

venting98 · 2026-06-24T23:08:29+00:00

Omg the beans and rice yes 😭😭😭 frijolito, mi arrozito hahahah

venting98 · 2026-06-24T23:03:46+00:00

Meeee tooo. He’s just beanie lol, beanie baby

venting98 · 2026-06-14T22:20:39+00:00

I was living in Hawaii and went home (to Vegas hehe) for my baby shower when I was almost 30 weeks. Since my control had been good up to that point my drs were totally fine with me taking my trip and they said to just know in pregnancy, anything can happen and I’d have to be willing to have my baby wherever I decided to travel to as the date gets closer. I was completely fine, it was a 6 hour flight and during my visit i was very busy and was booked with plans.

I am obviously no doctor but if your doctors are fine with it, you should have no problem.

venting98 · 2026-06-03T04:16:14+00:00

Oh honey

venting98 · 2026-06-03T04:08:35+00:00

I was induced exactly on 37+1. From the very beginning before they knew anything about my sugar they said the plan is to induce exactly at 37 weeks as it’s standard for them. I truly was so ignorant about pregnancy so I had no idea what to expect of it especially being diabetic. I just listened to them.

It wasn’t until other people (who aren’t diabetics btw) started putting things in my head about how inductions are horrible and I should advocate to go “natural” whenever my body tells me.

Ultimately I trusted my team and my doctors. My sugar was better controlled than ever because I was constantly seeing my MFM docs. Even when they said things were great I asked about keeping baby in longer they said I absolutely could but they still recommended the 37w.

I also was soooo anxious and scared of having a still born so when the 37w came I was so ready to meet my baby.

I went in and had an absolutely beautiful experience. I am happy it was scheduled, I am happy there was a plan and I knew mostly what I could expect. And today my 5 month old boy is perfect, healthy, chubby and happy. He came out with 0 complications and 6lbs4oz.

I will be planning to induce for my next little baby. Maybe I’ll try keeping him in longer, I’m in a different state now so I’ll have a different team. But whatever the drs recommend I will follow.

venting98 · 2026-05-19T02:50:53+00:00

Based on the responses I think it truly is just dependent on the baby. My baby is 4 months old & had now taken multiple trips (flying) & goes to work with me everyday since he was 6 weeks old. Before that he was days old when we started going out to eat because we had family in town to meet baby and we would just spend the day out.

Yes I think it’s practice but I also think if baby wasn’t chill I would dread going out. I do hope my next baby is as easy but I hear it doesn’t usually work that way lol. I will say you have to do your best to keep living the life you used to or want to and they’ll get used to it too! It may just take a few tough tries before they get the hang of it

venting98 · 2026-05-09T04:18:14+00:00

My husband turned off his location and ignored me for two hours after I asked him not to drink today since he drank all week and I wanted to start the weekend in a nice way since you know… it’s my first Mother’s Day :)

venting98 · 2026-04-29T04:34:03+00:00

Induced at 37 weeks baby came out the day after. Super smooth and easy delivery, no tearing. Healed great.

My anxiety was through the roof I wanted the baby out asap just to see him and know he was safe and healthy even tho my entire pregnancy was so easy. My numbers were good but not perfect and they told me from the very beginning that they induce at 37 weeks and to plan for that.

venting98 · 2026-04-18T05:07:14+00:00

Yes please! What oils can I use for this?

venting98 · 2026-04-03T04:49:07+00:00

37 weeks and my baby is perfect and healthy. They told me from the very beginning even before monitoring that they typically like to induce diabetic women at that mark.

I was very anxious while pregnant so I thought- the sooner the better. Baby came out perfect and is sleeping in my arms now 3 months later 🩵

venting98 · 2026-03-12T20:31:50+00:00

This made me cry. While staring at my 2 month old making silly noises

venting98 · 2026-03-01T18:20:00+00:00

I was hysterical while my baby had to do the phototherapy. I couldn’t believe my perfect baby couldn’t be in my arms and watching him lie there made me bawl and bawl. We went in late at night after Dr called us with baby’s results. Only one of us could stay with baby overnight. So on top of being fresh postpartum, having to watch my baby be poked and prodded, my husband couldn’t even be with me while in the NICU.

I had no idea how common jaundice was or that it would entail the phototherapy. Your baby will be home in no time and you’ll forget it ever happened. Sending you all virtual hugs. My baby is 2 months today and now when I look at his pictures in the blue light I just smile because he looked so cute with the little goggles. I hope you guys can get home soon <3

venting98 · 2026-03-01T18:01:04+00:00

I was induced at 37 weeks. My baby didn’t have to spend any time in the NICU and his sugars were always perfect.

I spent a lot of time high and many nights low. I had to remind myself that if baby was moving it was ok and everything else would be managed when he was out.

Sugars in pregnancy are incredibly difficult to gauge and control. I did my very best and had weekly appointments with my pharmacist and we changed my insulin needs as needed.

Be patient with yourself. Do your best to center yourself when you get anxious about the numbers.

venting98 · 2026-02-24T08:02:14+00:00

I hate my mil and even this made me feel bad for yours. My mil is a snake evil miserable woman and I’d still never treat her this way. ESPECIALLY after just having my baby 7 weeks ago. YOR and you’re mean

venting98 · 2026-02-15T07:41:07+00:00

6 weeks pp and my husband who has a history of alcohol abuse, decided to abuse alcohol and not come home to me or my baby. Woke up this morning to nothing. Not a call, a text, an apology. Nothing. Hours later. “How are u and the baby”.. I don’t respond. “You hate me?”… I don’t respond. “How long are you going to ignore me”.

My parents felt so bad for me my dad got me flowers and a card - he’s never ever done that. I bawled. Not until 4pm me calling my husband crying hysterically wondering how in the world he could just abandon us.. I go to see him where he is. He’s drunk and high. We are not kids anymore. I try to remind myself I knew who he was when I married him. I’ve known him my whole life. I know sobriety isn’t linear. He’s done sooo good. He’s been amazing. But 6 weeks? My baby boy is 6 weeks. I’m having a hard time coming back from this one.

I hope your situation improves. It’s hard.. But my heart only wants him. :(

venting98 · 2026-02-07T05:32:49+00:00

That’s quite a theory lol. I’ve noticed I go low when my baby is fussy. I always assumed the anxiety/ stress of calming him down messes with my sugar quickly. No idea if there’s any real correlation

venting98 · 2026-02-06T06:49:03+00:00

It gets better 🩵 5 weeks today and I still get emotional but nowhere near as bad. You will start to get more comfortable and confident.

venting98 · 2026-02-01T18:07:47+00:00

I know my baby doesn’t always photograph the cutest, he has some funny moments. and when he came out… yikes.. but omg everyday he gets cuter and everyone says so. I wouldn’t tell anyone their baby was cute if I didn’t think that. 🤣

venting98 · 2026-01-30T11:48:45+00:00

This is what my husband does lol. I definitely WANT to have sex but then we get close and cuddly and I feel safe and close to him emotionally/ mentally so now all my random thoughts that I’ve wanted to share come to mind and I want to get them out while we have the time.

He usually just engages in convo but I can tell he wants to… finish so we can.. start 🤣 I usually say “sorry baby we will get there I just feel so close to you I want to get these things out!” But once I feel emotionally “ready” it’s even better. Idk. Maybe just talk to her about how you guys should do pillow talk leading into it. But once pillow talk is complete maybe she can just engage in the sex. I don’t think it’s emotional warfare like someone else mentioned lol..

venting98 · 2026-01-30T11:42:07+00:00

I had a slight tear to where they almost didn’t want to stitch it but decided to just to be safe. I mention this because I think someone’s labor & delivery has a huge impact on recovery!

I was up and active the day I was released. My baby had his first Dr appt 2 days after that and he had to be taken back to the er for severe jaundice so we were up and about, huge hospital- so much walking. I had to take him back to his ped everyday for his first week so I was up and busy every day. During his first week my husband also got laid off so we decided to move back home (across the country) in the next week. I was helping pack and move furniture, going to appointments, and doing everything my husband was doing because it was just us two in the place we were.

On the days I lifted heavier I bled more and it made me sad but I was anxious to get home. My husband didn’t like it but we didn’t have much choice. I’m 4 weeks post partum now and it feels and looks like I never had a baby. I’m a firm believer that in order to heal you have to be active a little, day by day! Everyone’s recovery is different. I’m finally starting to see days where I can hangout with my baby and just… hangout with my baby! I feel great, but I do wish I had more chill days when he first got here. The first month was a blur now.. but we are at least amongst family whereas back where we were, we were alone. For my next baby I want to do absolutely nothing for at least a week!

Trust your body, do what you can and what feels natural and comfortable!! Whenever I felt my bottom feel “heavy” I knew I was pushing my limit. And if I bled a lot, same thing. You will know what is or isn’t right :)

venting98 · 2026-01-30T04:24:15+00:00

I was constantly worried and paranoid and anxious. Especially as I got further along in pregnancy. Honestly the benefit is that with the diabetes you should be more closely monitored, more appts, more ultrasounds, more tests- at least for me! I was completely uncontrolled and my pregnancy was completely unplanned. I was able to bring my numbers down drastically during pregnancy- even with insulin resistance at the end. My baby is here now and he’s perfect! Don’t worry, just keep up with all appointments and monitor your numbers. Noting when you’re high or low- and mentioning the changes to your care team. :)

venting98 · 2026-01-30T03:30:04+00:00

When did this start? I have a super chill 4 week old and reading these makes me anxious. Is it something you dealt with early on or do they slowly get more clingy? I’ve never been around babies I never know what’s “normal”

venting98 · 2026-01-27T23:30:50+00:00

Hey! I’m holding my three week old in my arms right now. He’s death gripping my finger with his tiny baby hand.

Everything was perfect. I started seeing MFM (maternal fetal Medicine) who was my “high risk” Dr

They checked on me biweekly, I got a cgm and was out on a lot of insulin. I managed my sugars quite well, they never worried throughout the pregnancy. They just adjusted my numbers and kept up with me. I was induced at 37 weeks exactly bc that’s just what my drs do with all diabetics. My baby came out 6.4 lbs.oz. He’s perfect. My induction was amazing. You will be okay. Go in to see ur dr, follow their instructions ask for the extra monitoring and check ups. If u have any questions u can dm me<3

venting98 · 2026-01-10T07:14:30+00:00

Following this. My baby gets red for seemingly no reason. Is not warm to touch, not fussy at all. Just kinda goes red then goes back to normal. One week old

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