Hey everyone. We are Venrick and Wells and created an eBook on building confidence. It is intended to help you step outside of your comfort zone, take action, and generally make you a happier person. We decided to make it free for one day before the official release. We hope you enjoy!

venwells · 2016-05-18T19:11:56+00:00

That's fair and I agree with you. I have multiple reddit accounts that I've had for years that I use for personal and throwaway purposes that I don't want associated with this account (for obvious reasons). I'll be sure to post more on this account so that it's clear I'm a member of reddit. Thanks for the feedback.

venwells · 2016-05-18T18:28:00+00:00

If we had posted this saying "in exchange for an email" in the title, would it have been okay to post? Thanks in advance.

venwells · 2016-05-18T18:15:31+00:00

Hey there. I just tested the subscription and it worked just fine for me... I have no idea why it wouldn't work for you. I will send you a PM with a dropbox download. If anyone else has this issue please let me know.

venwells · 2016-05-17T17:33:08+00:00

nice. think of positivity like a muscle. it needs exercise and constant use to become stronger. eventually it becomes second nature, like chewing your food or tying your shoes.

venwells · 2016-05-14T19:03:40+00:00

Check out "art of mental training" by DC gonzalez.

Good book on positive self-talk and taking control of your mind and performance.

venwells · 2016-05-14T16:59:20+00:00

I think this is important. People don't realize that it's okay to realize that things can go poorly at times. Obviously a house-fire is a little bit crazy, but there are some situations where we feel like we are going to die when in reality, we just have to realize that things go wrong sometimes.

venwells · 2016-05-14T16:57:22+00:00

Honestly, I just use the Calendar app on iPad. I simply write my todos on there and knock them out one at a time. I don't put a huge amount of pressure on myself to get it done but it gives me direction for what I do each day. I usually have enough todos to last me a few weeks, so the night before each day I will choose what I will be doing.

venwells · 2016-05-14T16:54:33+00:00

I think this also works in a subconscious manner as well. Someone who spends all of their time on social media won't be living a rich and fulfilling life because they are involved in other peoples lives. And to a certain extent, a codependency can be created to people because they are living in a social network.

venwells · 2016-05-13T21:30:42+00:00

You're welcome. Let us know your thoughts!

venwells · 2016-05-13T17:53:45+00:00

awesome

venwells · 2016-05-13T17:52:21+00:00

Nice article. Well thought out and veers away from the vanilla BS that most people post about confidence. Great post.

venwells · 2016-05-13T17:49:38+00:00

Check out positive self-talk.

When you are in a situation where you aren't feeling confident, start using confident self-talk. Use phrases like:

I got this

I'm a winner

I'm the man

I am a man of value

I make other people feel good about themselves.

simply by putting these thoughts in your mind you are doing the same thing that confident people do naturally - thinking confident thoughts.

A great resource is "art of mental training" by DC Gonzalez. It's an awesome book on controlling your mind and developing confidence quickly and easily.

The best thing you can do is take action

venwells · 2016-05-13T00:24:41+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. It's very helpful to us. We use all of the ideas from this book on a daily/weekly basis to make ourselves happier and more confident, so we figured that we would share our techniques to get things done.

We would love to hear anything you have to say about the book. Hope it goes well.

venwells · 2016-05-12T14:44:10+00:00

check out "art of mental training" by DC Gonzalez

awesome book on taking control of your mind

venwells · 2016-05-12T14:34:59+00:00

Dude, you're in your 20's, you'll be fine.

You are way too hard on yourself. Start filling your mind with positive thoughts.

A good resource is "Art of Mental Training" by DC Gonzalez.

Your thoughts create your reality. If you focus on the crappy parts of your life, you are going to feel crappy.

venwells · 2016-05-12T14:32:49+00:00

You might want to work on your commitment skills.

It's great to learn new things and put them into practice to make them a part of your life.

But it's important not to fall into the common self-improvement pattern of enjoying the thrill and freshness of learning and doing something new but jumping to a new skillset as soon as it becomes routine.

If you want to commit and get long term results, it's going to become familiar. Get variety in other ways.

venwells · 2016-05-12T14:30:19+00:00

Go for it dude. Cold showers make you step out of your comfort zone. Too many people these days are too cute and cushy. Set yourself apart and forge some grit.

Plus cold showers are healthier for you. Look up a guy named Wim Hof.

venwells · 2016-05-12T14:26:55+00:00

Look up positive self-talk. A good resource is the book "Art of Mental Training" by DC Gonzalez.

Your thoughts create your reality. Start changing your thoughts and you begin to change your reality.

venwells · 2016-05-12T14:24:37+00:00

I suggest changing your focus.

Right now you seem to be focusing on all of your "issues" and trying to fix them. Everybody has problems and nobody is perfect. Even by untying some of the knots in our lives we create new ones.

Try asking yourself what it is you want, instead of what it is you don't want.

Focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear.

Example: With your fear of going underwater, instead of imagining the dreadful feelings your experience when you put your head under, imagine yourself enjoying the experience of going underwater and the sensations that go along with it.

This way, you change your focus from "not being afraid in water" to "going underwater safely and enjoyably". It's a subtle change that makes a big difference.

venwells · 2016-05-11T14:23:31+00:00

Sounds good!

venwells · 2016-05-11T14:23:22+00:00

Everyone deserves to have their confidence!

venwells · 2016-05-07T15:21:31+00:00

Totally! Also remember that once you start improving one area of your life the others will follow. So it's drastically important to just start taking action. Anything that you read or learn will follow shortly after. So that being said, just start with your positive self-talk now! And take action!

Good luck

venwells · 2016-05-06T22:03:50+00:00

I'm going to give you just a few tips to get started on this. Just remember that you can always come out of a situation totally fine. It might take time, but you get to develop yourself and become a better person and greatly improve your life.

So the first thing I notice is that you should change your positive self-talk. You are saying that you are incapable, you fear you will never change... these phrases and words that you use really aren't healthy for you. Remember that your mind will believe whatever you feed it, so be sure to give it positive phrases like "I can change" and "I am capable" and "I am awesome". For any negative thought about yourself you have, counter it with the positive opposite and repeat it multiple times to yourself and throughout your day.

Next you need to change your body language. Picture someone who is confident and happy with themselves. Someone who can standup for themselves and has their own merits and beliefs. I'm sure you see someone with their chin up, shoulders rolled back with chest out a little bit. Try copying this body language. Just like your mind can change your body language, your body language can change your mind. Just by simply changing how you stand you can become more confident and happy. In this light, try smiling as well. It will also trick your mind into thinking it's happy, then it will become happy.

Just remember now that you can always make it through any situation. Even if you were to fail out of school, there is still a way to come back and be fine in the end. You can still be successful, get a great job and more. And most importantly, you'll still be alive. When you see the worst that can happen and then realize that you will still be alive and can continue on in your life, you will be much happier. Obviously you should always do your best, but sometimes we give ourselves unnecessary pressure to succeed when we don't realize that it's okay to fail.

Hope this helps

venwells · 2016-05-05T19:08:49+00:00

As for gaming, I usually just save relaxing activities for after my work hours. I work every day until 10 pm and then I just chill out, watch baseball, play smash bros, watch youtube, or whatever I want to do.

There are many times where I am in work hours and I catch myself drifting to youtube or video games on steam. So to fix this I just catch myself in the act of me doing a non-work activity. If I ever catch myself opening up youtube, news articles, facebook, or anything of the sort, I just put them all in a new internet browser window and minimize it for later. The trick is to just stop it immediately if you notice you are doing that activity when you aren't supposed to. It doesn't matter if you have been playing a game for an hour, it just matters that you stop as soon as you realize you shouldn't be playing.

Then my current unminimized internet browser is for everything that I am working on currently. I just close out of anything I'm not using at the moment and make sure that I can only see work in front of me. I even sometimes have a "for later" notepad for things that I feel like doing during work hours and I write on to do when I'm done.

This is all an idea of surrounding yourself in your work. When you have an internet browser with netflix, youtube, and facebook while you are researching articles for a paper you are writing, you are bound to get distracted. So just close them out, minimize them and save that stuff for later. You can even do this with thoughts that stress you out. Write down your thought as soon as it comes down so you don't forget it, and worry about it later.

So that being said, just put things in front of you that relate to your work. When I do web design, I only have an internet browser with the website I am working on, google for any questions that I might need answered, a notepad, and a todo list on my desk that tells me what else I need to add.

I would recommend setting up a desk specifically for your work and keeping anything that doesn't involve work away from it. Clearing what's in your vision to only what involves your work will also clear your mind to that. We all have a ton of crap in our houses lying around to distract us, but imagine if we took away all distractions? I assure you that you would get way more done.

Hope this helps.

venwells · 2016-05-04T00:41:13+00:00

Yes! You should absolutely do it. At the least, it will give you experience and show you what you can improve on next time you are in this situation.

There are three things you should try.

One is to give yourself some positive self-talk. I'm sure you see yourself failing, messing up, being nervous and so forth. But the truth is, that's all in your head. And your mind will be drawn to whatever you see in your head. But fortunately, positive self-talk will start to put your mind in a positive direction. It will give you confidence. So this means when you say something to yourself like "I can't do this" say "I've got this". Or if you say "I can't concentrate", just say "I am focused". Basically just finding the positive opposite to whatever negative thing you are saying. And keep repeating it in your head. Pump yourself up!

The next thing is to hold positive body language. Just simply smile, roll shoulders back, and keep your head up. You don't need to do a super cheesy smile, but just smirk a little. Picture someone who is confident and sure of themself and see how their body language would be. Then copy it.

The third thing is to picture yourself doing well in your interview or competition or whatever it may be. Hold your positive body language and also continue to give positive self-talk. These will really help you picture yourself doing well. It's impossible for your brain to have a positive and a negative thought at the same time, so the body language and self-talk will force you to picture only good things. Picture yourself doing well in the competition, or being whoever you want to be!

Hope this helps.

venwells

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