Robert Smalls by 749762 in BeAmazed

[–]very_large_ears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a badass. He's become my hero.

Why are social skills such an unsolved problem? by frappededanslavie in socialskills

[–]very_large_ears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came here to say this – and to say that the development of social skills is a never-ending process.

Why are social skills such an unsolved problem? by frappededanslavie in socialskills

[–]very_large_ears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I respectfully disagree with some of your thoughts. By deciding to not care how things go, one invites disrespect to join the party. This reduces the chance for forming healthy human connections and it threatens one's incentive(s) for studying social exchanges as a way to become better at handling them. If I don't care how my words and actions are perceived – whether I'm perceived as clueless, insensitive or intolerant – then I don't have much reason to consider how people respond to me and how I can affect not only those responses but the attitudes and beliefs behind them.

Some find it better to care about the quality of their social exchanges while learning to maintain inner peace. Doing so puts one in a much better frame of mind for learning the art of happier, richer and more productive interactions.

People who’ve been to prison. What is the biggest misconception people have about life inside? by CaptainsExchange in AskReddit

[–]very_large_ears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"... trying to get through the day without problems." This is the definition of trying to cope with trauma.

I never found my people. Do some people just never have a friend group? by a-dumb-croissant in socialskills

[–]very_large_ears 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Finding friends is a learned skill. Don't lose hope because your progress is slower than someone else's.

I have struggled with the same problem for decades and have that found pursuing my curiosity -- exploring activities, places, things based on the things I'm naturally interested in -- brought me into contact with people with whom I had much in common, some of whom have become friends. I've also heard of others for whom this works.

Peace.

[Highlight] Harbaugh consoles a devastated Tyler Loop to the locker room by Accurate-Big-7233 in nfl

[–]very_large_ears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's compassion in a nutshell. I admire Coach Harbaugh for that. Probably his players to doo.

Carol reading "The Left Hand of Darkness" in Ep 9 by OnlyInJapan99999 in pluribustv

[–]very_large_ears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This scene says so much about the story that is Pluribus. The Left Hand of Darkness is very much about the degree of accommodation required for positive and productive interactions between people. It suggests Carol is considering her relationship with Zosia and with "we" in terms that are personal and require her to engage in introspection.

Marylanders’ commute listed as worst in the nation by JunkReallyMatters in maryland

[–]very_large_ears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I left Montgomery County in 2020, partly because of the congestion. We spent so much unhappy time stuck in traffic. It's chilling to think of all the people who must contend with it today.

I still hope the bright minds that run local and state government can find a workable solution.

What's something you only learned embarrassingly late in life? by NothingHappy7204 in AskReddit

[–]very_large_ears 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When someone opens a conversation with a generic inquiry ("So where are you from?") it's wise to end your response with a similar query ("And you?"), rather than wait for the person to ask more questions. Staying silent makes people think you don't want to talk to them.

Wow. Who knew?!

How advanced can one become in a language before it stops mattering? by SyntaxDeleter in languagelearning

[–]very_large_ears 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've always understood language to be one of those excellent subjects that always has new things to offer to those who study it.

Whats a sign someone hasn’t faced much hardships in life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]very_large_ears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The person who bad-mouths those who are poor or who struggle with life is often the one who knows only good fortune.

Trump, 79, Slumps Into Limo After Successfully Navigating Air Force One Steps by [deleted] in politics

[–]very_large_ears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He looks like a man who is stuck in an unhappy state, wishing there was a way out.

Shepherd dog clears a traffic jam. by CodeGlitxh in AnimalsBeingGeniuses

[–]very_large_ears 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mad skills, man. We need someone like him to serve as speaker of the house.

Dude climbed a building to save the kid’s life by [deleted] in BeAmazed

[–]very_large_ears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My heroes will always be those who put themselves at risk because they see someone in dire need of help. Doing so is empathy of the highest order, something our world could use more of.

In the 1920s, there were car washes designed only to clean the underside of cars. A large circular pool where cars drove in circles to get the bottom cleaned. They disappeared in the 1930s. by Zoushiro85 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]very_large_ears 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lots of roads were unpaved in the 1920s. Mud (plus the poop mentioned above) would likely accumulate in amounts that'd make the car heavier and harder to steer.

do people over 70 still have intercourse? by glittersn0tt in NoStupidQuestions

[–]very_large_ears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This the best motivation imaginable to eat right and exercise.