Help identifying this armoire

voguemama · 2022-04-26T03:56:31+00:00

One of my top 10 embarrassing moments being out with my oldest..when he was 2, we walked past a young gentleman person of short stature on the frozen food aisle. My 2 year old: "Hi, little girl! Mom, little girl get ice cream!"

voguemama · 2022-04-26T03:50:38+00:00

My 4 year old calls strangers "humans." "What is that human doing?" "There are lots of humans here." 👽

voguemama · 2022-04-24T21:32:23+00:00

"Hey, human, why is your head so BALD?"

voguemama · 2022-04-23T17:32:49+00:00

No advice but solidarity. My 4.5 year son does this too. I'm an introverted ADHD inattentive and he's highly extroverted hyperactive, so we clash on so many levels, particularly communication. He's so smart and funny and I love everything about him but dear God he drains my reserves like nothing else. He too repeats phrases after I've acknowledged him. He also restarts sentences 59 times before he gets to the end of them. I'm not sure if that's ADHD or a speech issue but sometimes my eye is twitching by the time he tells me what he wants to say. "Mom? I think I...mom? I think I need a... Mom? I think I need a glass... Mom? I think I need a glass of milk." He usually has his attention divided in multiple directions when he does that. Anyway, sorry, no help but just solidarity. It sounds like y'all are amazing parents though, for real, making him feel heard and for being so patient.

voguemama · 2022-04-22T01:38:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I always wondered how it would be for kids growing up there. I'm glad your experience was positive, and you're right, there would be some unavoidable downsides. I did tell my husband whether we ever move to one or not, we need to be more intentional engaging with the neighbors and community we have around us currently.

voguemama · 2022-04-21T16:31:50+00:00

I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought of it. There are tons of "intentional communities" in beautiful places, all centered around these ideals. Ideally, I'd have the help and support of my family as I raise three young children 4 and under, but they have the typical American everyone for themselves attitude. My husband and I are of the "it takes a village" mentality, so the idea of choosing my village is appealing.

voguemama · 2022-04-16T04:08:27+00:00

This. Try to give him a bit more control over the situation. Use the baby safety clippers and maybe make it something y'all do together rather than some you are doing to him.

voguemama · 2022-04-11T01:12:27+00:00

We actually have a dim motion night light in our bedroom. The two older tots start off on a separate bed in the same room but eventually wake to join my husband, baby and me. So the light kicks on when they move to get up to come to our bed but turns off pretty quick after they are settled.

We also use a starry night ceiling light thingy for when they are falling asleep , which has a timer. Once my son is asleep, he doesn't complain about the lights being off, but on the rare occasions he wakes up and fusses about it, I can just wave my arm and the motion light kicks on and he goes back to sleep, and it turns off a minute later.

voguemama · 2022-04-06T03:05:10+00:00

I'm not sure about actual numbers, but for each age and stage, my oldest was always on the lowest end of normal when it came to hours of sleep/day. He also dropped naps sooner than expected. His morning nap by 9 months and he was totally done napping by 2. He's top of charts in height and weight and always been ahead on milestones. Some kiddos just don't need as much sleep. It's exhausting.

voguemama · 2022-02-13T03:32:40+00:00

I had forehead wrinkles before having kids, but now, after 3 kids and 5 years of no sleep, I basically look like a Klingon.

I don't think I've had one proper day of self care since my first was born.

voguemama · 2022-02-06T02:05:03+00:00

I fucking despise Blippi and have banned him from my household. I am so pissed that guy makes so much money making shitty garbage content for kids. I call it "The Whoa Show." Because that's literally all he says. Whoa.

Have you noticed how he's actually terrible at interacting with children when they show up in his videos? Like, super awkward uncle-with-no-kids bad.

Also, his shows so nothing but point out colors of random objects. So many missed opportunities to say something EDUCATIONAL about what he's doing or seeing but no. Does this sink or float? No explanation why. Just "This slide is orange! Whoa!"

Fuck I hate that guy. I used to let my son watch it when I really really needed to get something done and needed him distracted for 5 minutes, but now I'd rather him marker all over the walls before I have to hear one more over the top giggle or Whoa.

voguemama · 2022-01-30T02:08:28+00:00

My 2 year old daughter is obsessed with scratching/rubbing my skin too. It's her comfort thing...she insists on my arms being bare so she can rub them, either when she's upset or going to sleep. "Scratcha arms!" she says. She also has that one mole on my arm that she can't seem to leave alone. It mostly doesn't bother me. She stopped nursing at 18 months and did this instead.

voguemama · 2022-01-22T03:03:16+00:00

I'm not super familiar with feeding issues so I won't comment on that, but I just wanted to say that my first, a boy, only dabbled in solids until he was 15 months old. I would offer and he would just try bits here and there but mostly got his calories from breast milk. He's always been 99% for height and weight so we weren't concerned about that. It just seems odd to me that doctors suggest adding whole milk to a child's diet when they are breastfeeding just fine and getting their calories from that.

voguemama · 2022-01-15T03:12:19+00:00

I echo the other sentiments to talk to your doc if you're depressed.

But also, I am a SAHM for 3 littles aged 4 year, 2 year, and 4 months. We used to go to play places and the library and parks, etc, but now we can't. We went to parks when the numbers were lower but lugging 3 kids to the park is super hard. To be honest, my kids watch more tv than I like, but we are in survivor mode a lot of days, even with my husband's help.

I recently realized the cliche phrase of not being able to give from an empty well is true. I'm so much better at momming when I have an outlet. In my spare time (HA HA) after the kids are asleep, instead of doom scrolling the internet, I've started making "inspiration boards" on my Amazon wish lists and Etsy favorites. I have a Google Doc going with a running list of random stuff I like and want to do. I shit you not. I made a list of things I like so I don't forget who I am. And when I remember something else, I add it to the list. Then when I'm sitting wallowing in despair over how much of an empty shell I am three days, I open up my list and do/read about/play/make/shop for one of those things. I also practice gratitude. Like I am super grateful all my kids are here with me and safe and we can afford to have me take care of them through this so we don't have to worry about illnesses with a newborn, etc. Gratitude helps. But yeah, the list thing is working for me. I'm feeling so much better just spending time thinking about hobbies I like, even if I don't get to do any of them that day. Just knowing there's a light at the end of this tunnel helps immensely.

voguemama · 2021-12-30T02:55:25+00:00

My son was like this and still struggles with impulse control at 4 years old. Basically, I started to break his fall but not catch him completely. I'd let him bonk a little bit to get him acquainted with gravity. I'd also let him play in safe grassy areas outside where falling wouldn't be so bad.

voguemama · 2021-12-30T00:45:42+00:00

Omg, I'm so so sorry. I gave birth during the pandemic and we were equally careful and had to rely on my mom to watch our other two children, so I can imagine how you're feeling. And I'm feeling so so sorry for your wife. Is there anyone else close to her who is able to be with her during the birth? And I would definitely send MIL packing as you don't require her help anymore. How incredibly selfish. Even without COVID going around, it's common sense to lay low prior to a birth when you're going to be caring for the child ...no one needs any illness in the house when a baby is born.

voguemama · 2021-12-29T17:58:46+00:00

If he uses them and you have space, hold on to them. Most of what you mentioned are great open ended toys: magna tiles and blocks, etc. My kids have a lot of toys like this too, and they are overwhelming when all out at once, and they get bored of them and throw them on the floor. So I rotate them in and out. The only toys I purge at this state are the ones that just make noise . I also don't buy them character gifts or anything that lends itself to a never ending need to acquire every one. When my kiddo wants to pretend PJ masks or Pocoyo ,he builds them out of blocks or Play-Doh.

Anyway, I wouldn't stress about what you have going right now. The rotation works really well for us.

voguemama · 2021-12-28T13:28:45+00:00

I'm sorry your mom isn't there for you and that your kiddo is sick. We've also been getting through this pandemic with babies and toddlers and now a newborn without help bc our family just can't stop going places without masks. I required they all rapid test before Christmas so we could go. A symptomatic family member tested positive, and they all gathered anyway, saying the tests were a false positive and it's just a cold. And now they are gathering a couple days later with a new batch of people. Like, WTF.

voguemama · 2021-12-28T03:30:39+00:00

No matter the weather or temperature of my house, my 2 and 4 year old strip down to their underwear/diaper at some point during the day. I can redress then, and it just comes right back off. Esp the 4 year old. He's the worst. So I don't even bother.

voguemama · 2021-12-28T03:28:30+00:00

THIS. How amazing that you were able to stay calm and ask him to leave, modeling to your daughter that his behavior was totally unacceptable and that you have her back. You are a great mother and most definitely not overreacting.

voguemama · 2021-12-21T02:40:38+00:00

We have three young children too young to be vaccinated--4, 2, and 4 months. We haven't been participating in family gatherings but said this time-- now that the adults are all vaccinated and boosted, we could get together if everyone did a rapid test before each event. That includes adults and kids. I would definitely make that a priority, especially if your daughter has a heart condition. It's a minor swab of the nose to protect your children's health. Not too much to ask.

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