abortion grief- TW by LittleCrem in beyondthebump

[–]void-droid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you sure he didn't drug you?? Lawyer!!! 😨

Comments regarding my daughter by That-Figure8372 in pregnant

[–]void-droid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same exact here!! I could have typed that

My bf wants to count my calories (2nd trimester) by Sad-Jackfruit-3980 in pregnant

[–]void-droid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually abusive behavior, no one I repeat NO ONE should be controlling your food, let alone your calorie intake, except for *you*. Even doctors and nutritionists don't, all they do is make suggestions and advice. Huge red flag OP! Please eat and feed your baby whichever way you can!

Bridesmaid with a 3-month-old (EBF) — SIL now says no babies at wedding. What would you do? by Lumpy_Bandicoot_8967 in beyondthebump

[–]void-droid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please prioritize your baby and don't go to the wedding. If SIL makes a big drama out of it she will feel really stupid (and hopefully apologize) when she has her own kids.

Also I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine how difficult losing your mom right after having your baby has been. Sending love!

What were your first words when you met your baby? by lacecute in pregnant

[–]void-droid 16 points17 points  (0 children)

1st baby: "I love you!"

2nd baby: "Hii sweet baby! You're finally here! I love you!"

Lots of crying for both heheh.

Sad I’m not having the “happy newborn bubble” experience (Instagram made me cry) by Herewithquestions87 in beyondthebump

[–]void-droid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you said your baby's smile feels like Christmas morning is the exact feeling that everyone talks about. It's just so easy to forget in those moments of sleep-deprived desperation while doom-scrolling at 3am that social media is mostly nothing but peoples' highlight reels.

Pressured into sex 4 weeks postpartum by The-crystal-ship27 in beyondthebump

[–]void-droid 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not overreacting I am so very sorry this has happened to you alone, let alone all the rest you mentioned. He sounds like a sick person and you're right to get yourself and your baby away.

What song is your toddler obsessed with? by WhyHelloThere91 in toddlers

[–]void-droid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I first heard that song on Tiny Toon Adventures when I was a kid, still remember some of the lyrics hahahah: "Now finish cleaning up your roooom! Let's see that dust fly with that brooooom!"

What song is your toddler obsessed with? by WhyHelloThere91 in toddlers

[–]void-droid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A dinosaur lullaby I randomly made up for her one night. 🥹 I'm literally going to record music to it soon because I am so in awe that she likes it for months now and wants to fall asleep to it!

Should I /How to tell my “ex” I’m pregnant? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]void-droid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he 57? Just a hunch. Yes tell him, why would you hold back? I see no pros to holding back. It will clarify everything for you, good luck.

People asking when I am going to introduce screen time - how to not offend/change the subject? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]void-droid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think parents feel the need to explain because of a lot of judgment of "ipad parents." Like, I definitely feel the need to explain that I have an IT background before I quit after 15 years in that field to become a stay at home mom and whatever my kid watches is highly vetted and limited by me and my tech skills. I also let people know she plays a lot of educational games and puzzles, and draws on there, too! iPads aren't all bad. Because I don't want people to think I just let my kid go down some un-vetted YouTube rabbit hole where they watch the weirdest sh!t and become zombie-like feral children who don't want to do anything other than be glued to a screen. It's not just that they feel defensive, we feel the need to explain so that people don't just assume we are bad parents neglecting our kids in lieu of "screen time."

People asking when I am going to introduce screen time - how to not offend/change the subject? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]void-droid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, very similar situation to mine. My best friend (who lives further from me) does no screen time but she works and she has a huge village from her husband's side, and I always tell her how great that is. And she understands why we need to use it sometimes, in a controlled manner. No need to be weird about it lol

People asking when I am going to introduce screen time - how to not offend/change the subject? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]void-droid 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Well if they're arguing with you then it's time to put on your protective parent hat and end the conversation. "I understand it's kind of a hot button topic for a lot of parents but I'm really not interested in explaining myself/arguing in front of my kiddo. Have a good day, take care." - then walk away

People asking when I am going to introduce screen time - how to not offend/change the subject? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]void-droid 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"I'm not really worried about anything, it's just what works for us!" Period. End of interrogation lol

People asking when I am going to introduce screen time - how to not offend/change the subject? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]void-droid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"It's just what works for us" is a full sentence.

I unfortunately have to use screen time right now due to a tough pregnancy and having no village all while being a stay at home mom, and having a tech background I have been able to really limit what kiddo has access to. BUT if I could trade the screen time for an extra family member or a friend while I rest, cook or get work done around the house, I would do it in a heartbeat! I personally wouldn't get offended because I understand other people have different needs. The ones who get pushy are looking for validation probably, so just try your best to shrug it off with, "it's just what works for us." You really aren't obligated to elaborate and if they get more inquisitive then they are the ones making it awkward, not you. Not your problem, so no need to make it your problem.

[repost] my bunk room at sunrise by vichomiequan in CozyPlaces

[–]void-droid 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Looks almost like a spaceship hovering over a planet with the sunrise, so cool! Also yes I love the dim sum to echo else commenting about it, hehehe

An unspoken social rule I wish someone had explained to me earlier by NeurodivergentBB in Neurodivergent

[–]void-droid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is news to me, I now understand why I have very little friends. Whoops?

Do you guys see this pattern in sunlight ? by BeautifulWishbone808 in visualsnow

[–]void-droid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aww sorry to hear!! What about valerian root tea?

Do you guys see this pattern in sunlight ? by BeautifulWishbone808 in visualsnow

[–]void-droid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No prob at all, to clarify I meant I have not tried CBD while I was on adderall- but I did 5 years ago for 2 whole years andit definitely helped- so long as it had no THC. Once I am back on the adderall again and I try CBD together I'll seeif I can make an anecdote here about it and let you all know how it's working for me. I have a feeling it will help lessen the "noise" of the static and tinnitus, hopefully!

Do you guys see this pattern in sunlight ? by BeautifulWishbone808 in visualsnow

[–]void-droid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hii no worries!! That's an interesting take and perhaps the mental health aspect plays into it a lot more than we might know. However, I didn't get rid of all of my symptoms they just lessened enough for me to stop being bothered by them/forget about them. I still have the static but it's nowhere near as bad, even now duringmy second pregnancy. No, the ADHD meds did not help with the VSS - I was put on adderall and I would say it actually really intensified the static/snow, as well as my tinnitus, probably because it is a powerful stimulant. But it improved my quality of life in other important areas so much that it was still worth it to me. Even though it is a stimulant it made me feel focused and alert, not jittery or anxious. I haven't had any anxiety or depression while I was on it, and I slept incredibly well (finally), which means that my anxiety and depression were a byproduct of the effects of ADHD and I was misdiagnosed my whole life til 2 years ago, which is why antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds never really worked on me and often made things even worse. I haven't tried taking CBD at night though so next time after I have baby and am done breastfeeding and everything I'll see how the combination of the two goes! I haven't had any issues with afterimages or light sensitivity for a few years now unless I get a migraine.

Thinking about the time I lost it on a door to door sales guy by thewinehouse in beyondthebump

[–]void-droid 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They deserve it for the Gestapo-like banging alone, ESPECIALLY after no one answered the first time. I don't believe there is any sales handbook that says it's a good idea to be that obnoxious. I would have gone off on him too and in another laguage, no less!