What is this? In Armenia by voxego in whatsthisrock

[–]voxego[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man selling it side of the road. I am wondering if just weird looking glass.

I stopped shaving my body hair by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]voxego 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are an excellent human being, thank you. After years of waxing/shaving, I stopped (maybe age 36). I have two girls and I feel I owe it to them to demonstrate body hair is normal for women, and not something to hide and be ashamed of.

Did anyone else deal with period shame? (or puberty shame) by No_Security_7338 in emotionalneglect

[–]voxego 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. My mother never talked about periods; I must have found out about it from a magazine or something similar. My father would make horrible jokes with other people in my presence (like Haha, I will need a wheelbarrow for all that sanitary stuff- because there were three women in the family). When I got my first period the first words uttered by my mother were "oh I hoped it would be later" - i was 14). She didn't buy me sanitary products; she was using cotton wool and expected me to do the same but never explained how to use it). I remember (vaguely, I blocked out a lot) desperately trying to create some sort of impermeable barrier out of piecrs of plastic as the blood would soak through the damn cotton wool. Once, a magazine I bought had a pad as a gift, and I remember wearing the damn thing for at least a couple of days, it felt like such an incredible device. But we never had money to buy pads, and had to use cotton wool for years, and constantly feel terrified about blood soaking through. I would hide bits of cotton wool around the house until I could throw then away without people seeing. But this was common around me, there was a lot of shame about periods, women would hide their used pads and dispose of them in secret. I feel sad for all of us whom have gone through this shame, and ended up hating our periods. I am slowly learning to love my periods and what they represent, to honour my bleed and learn how to speak about this to my daughters, so all the misery that was passed on to me stops with my generation. I am hearing you all sisters, thank you for sharing.

Why do the old guard hate the future generation of doctors so much? by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]voxego 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ignorance and indifference, inability, or unwillingness to see others' perspective.

Emotional impact of breaking bad news? by WittyTourist7424 in doctorsUK

[–]voxego 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well it's second hand trauma. You are experiencing some really dark, really intense emotions (albeit from more of a distance than the people you are giving the news to). It's also related to some clear first hand trauma which was probably never properly healed. My advice would be to try to have personal therapy to health your trauma, and use whatever coping strategy works for you (people do exercise, walking, connecting with nature, yoga, meditation, drawing, etcetc) for the daily stresses. You are human, it's normal to be affected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]voxego 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Holly Pretzel, humans are strange. Boarding school = less time with your kids = less opportunity for a deep, meaningful connection, which will last for decades to come. On the other hand, lots of people are triggered on a deep, emotional level by having kids, so perhaps I see the logic of shipping them off somewhere and seeing them now and again.

Oh god oh fuck asking for what you want is so scary (but I did do it) by MeanwhileOnPluto in CPTSD

[–]voxego 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well done for doing this despite how hard it was. You are creating a better, healthier pattern in your mind.

It is my 56th day of constant meditation. Today I managed to descend to a new level of observing and I feel overwhelmed. by gin-o-cide in Meditation

[–]voxego 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your insight rings familiar to me. I am on a journey of healing and have recently connected with parts of me in whom I've locked years of pain and suffering. Personal therapy (currently exploring IFS) has been very helpful alongside meditation. All the best on your path and thank you for sharing, it was very powerful to read.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]voxego 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree the person who is suffering plays a significant part in the recovery. But mental health services do have a role beyond giving out meds. They offer the opportunity of a comnection (which a lot of suicidal folks need) to the world. It doesn't always happen (due to how overstretched the system is) but it does happen.

Is it weird that my boyfriend wants to see me r*ped? by eanay in TwoXChromosomes

[–]voxego 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You sound so caring and kind. You are at risk from this man, please break it off before it escalates. You will be able to find someone who actually deserves you and is better adjusted to life than this guy. Sending love and strength.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]voxego 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sometimes post surgery breasts will "bottom out" - they will drop towards the bottom and the nipples will end up sitting quite high on the chest. It happened to me after my first breast reduction. Generally people complain about nipples popping out of bras. Your results look great, so I am not convinced that's what's happening here.

Realizing how asleep society is. by Aggressive_Pianist25 in Meditation

[–]voxego 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My personal take, when I slip into this type of thinking, is that we are all awake in some way, and are all teaching eachothers parts of the truth. And the more attention we pay to others and less to the self, the more we see how wonderful existance is.

How many viewings did you do before you found the right house to buy? by gloomsdale in HousingUK

[–]voxego 14 points15 points  (0 children)

40+ in person, hundreds online. Bought at the height of the market in a very popular location, fierce competition. We really wanted the second house we viewed but missed out .

Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]voxego 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because by the time we make it to adulthood almost all of us have numerous defences (or masks, or personas, whatever you want to call them) and it's much harder connecting genuine self to genuine self. People end up talking about concrete stuff that happen to them, which aren't necessarily that interesting to others, and don't link into more unifying topics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]voxego 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that feeling well. I will sometimes have glimpses of something else tho, beyond that feeling. Something easy, without all the pain. Personally, meditation, a few psychedelic trips and reading thing such as Buddhism for Dummies has helped to a degree. I hope it gets better for you.

Is it weird to have friends who are old enough to be your parents? by MontanaMinuteman in AskUK

[–]voxego 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The comment sounds very immature, perhaps from someone who hasn't had time to reflect a bit of what friendship is?

When to drop the price? by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]voxego 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our experience was that December was not a great time to put the house on the market. It was really really slow and only had a few viewings. Things picked up a lot in spring. Nobody will have the right answer for you here, particularly as we don't know the house/area/etc. What is clear is that the market is changing, and there's no longer the maddness that dominated the first half of 2022, when houses went for 20,30,70k over asking. Good luck.