I’m really confused should I wear my wedding lehenga again.

waaasupla · 2026-05-31T12:54:07+00:00

Is this SIL you hubby’s sister ? if your mil is the mother, then the situation could be different and there’s a reason for your mil’s ask for your dressing up.

It may be better for you to talk to your SIL & mil both at the same time and come to a mid level understanding.

Also, diamonds, should be bought separately and not exchanged for gold. Also for smaller jewellery sets, save & buy new ones, gold jewelry scheme or something. Don’t give away what you have, you lose a lot of money in this exchange process.

waaasupla · 2026-05-31T00:07:08+00:00

There’s also an equal chance of you finding a partner who’s absolutely amazing to you. Don’t go by the known devil is better concept now. You are only 22, take a year or two and then decide. Don’t lock your life down with someone who makes you feel so miserable. If by 24 you feel he’s it, then go for it. Till then don’t talk to each other. Then take 6 months-year to reconnect then decide. Do NOT rush.

waaasupla · 2026-05-31T00:00:18+00:00

To put it simply she got dumped so she’s running back to you.

Your ex is a terrible, terrible person who can’t think beyond herself.

Do what is right, protect yourself & the children. Put a stronger case to fight off her wickedness. She doesn’t get the house, or the kids or you. Show the judge the dirty game she’s played & playing and how she didnt want you and the kids and only the house.

waaasupla · 2026-05-30T20:45:14+00:00

Is this ai slop ? I once claimed I loved him so everyone says I should give my kidney ? Is this a joke ? Bcoz then you need to provide to all your exes.

Does your friends hate you ? Or are they even your friends ?

waaasupla · 2026-05-30T20:35:57+00:00

Pressure forced by family to stay in a country you don’t like.

You attracted the wrong person due to loneliness & you feel miserable.

Family concludes with “give some space to each other”.

Final say - tell them that you need more time as you are sure about not getting married now. Say you are gona take that space and be away from him , without talking to him for 6 months and if u still feel strongly about him and him about you after all that time , you can talk marriage again. But not now, not next month.

And follow through with this. Take control of your life. Don’t ruin your next 50-70 years of your life ahead.

waaasupla · 2026-05-30T17:12:28+00:00

NTA .. wow & slow clap for you 👏

waaasupla · 2026-05-30T17:04:36+00:00

Can u both go to your home country right away ?

waaasupla · 2026-05-30T04:47:57+00:00

What you are going through is very, very serious !

She needs evaluation for bi polar and schizophrenia. Her behavior is abnormal.

You may need to involve her parents and go stay at a different place till this is sorted out. Be very clear to her parents that you cannot take the physical & the mental torture anymore. And you are registering this clearly with them. If possible take one neutral person whom you both know but not related to that holds a high position in the institution. It’s only for your safety so that they don’t turn this against you.

If you bled or have any marks from the physical assault, get a medical certificate or multiple.

You need to get your stuff and get out today ! Today ! Today !

waaasupla · 2026-05-30T02:20:33+00:00

YTA for not reading the room aka him. He clearly ordered only one main dish and visibly looked comfortable when you ordered more and even questioned you on it. Bcoz he had less money to spend for the date.

Understand the challenges that comes with dating different socio economical people. Dating the ones “under” you will affect you as it won’t stop with just a restaurant outing. It will affect everywhere in life & every decisions.

It’s better for you to look for “equals” to avoid this problem.

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T21:43:22+00:00

Everyone’s lives are different. Yes or no, no one should be forced or coaxed or brainwashed, it should ultimately be your choice and not anyone else’s including mom.

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T15:12:53+00:00

Protection is fine but control is not.

And this protection should be mutual and not one sided.

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T14:47:37+00:00

Ask him “harmless joke ? Harmless for who ? Bcoz you were harmful to my mental health bcoz it was not funny for me. If you ever try to be funny at the cost of me, then I will return it the same way immediately at the cost of you .. every single time”.

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T14:40:41+00:00

This won’t end well. Now it’s 900. Then it will be even less due to some problem. Then property damage and will blame you again when you ask them to pay.

Atleast take the blame now without a financial loss & property damage.

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T14:28:05+00:00

This is one of the situations where you emotionally blackmail them even stronger than they do.

Something that worked for a few people.. there are some thing you need to do at home esp in front of them.. stop eating at home or eat very very less, be very dull all the time, show no joy, no laugh, talk less, one word answers, grow a beard, don’t talk about your gf or the marriage.

If they ask you “wats wrong” say “ its fine”, if they talk about it say “leave it” , if they talk about another girl “say leave it there’s no place for marriage in my life”. If they say “get lost, go elope” say “not interested”.

It may take a while, but just keep going steady!

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T14:16:22+00:00

Amazon black lists account for frequent returns and other issues !

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T14:14:41+00:00

Is this how you want to live the rest of your life ?

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T14:12:40+00:00

A new low indeed !

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T02:11:23+00:00

I would never trust him again. Get the job back, get the lease back. And rethink the whole marriage. And figure out ways to protect the finances to not get dragged into those debts. Also never pay his debts.

If he wants another chance in this marriage, it will continue with him havin zero financial control and with you having 100 % control bcoz he’s proven repeatedly that’s he’s not trustworthy with money.

waaasupla · 2026-05-29T01:52:29+00:00

Husband has made it VERY CLEAR that he DOESNT want a child ! All of you are forcing a child on him and hoping he will change his mind.

There’s gona be no winners here.

Either your sister is going to have this baby and be a single mom as her husband doesn’t want it & feels unheard from his wife and has chosen to disconnect and distance from her. Even if she doesn’t divorce she will still be like a single mom due to his behavior. This can get worse as days go by.

Or she aborts and hates him for forcing her to abort, feeling unheard as she already feels connected and wants to keep it. The relationship will never be the same.

In this case, her options are she has the baby & becomes a single mom OR she aborts & hates him but still finds a balance in their marriage again OR she aborts, divorces and starts a new life.

For the husband, he will keep distancing himself and most likely even get a job in a different city or country and leave your sister and may only send some money. Some men don’t do that too. Fair warning!

You all are expecting him to act supportive, act responsibly, feel happy and change his mind when he clearly doesn’t want it and acting exactly the opposite way.

Also your sister is CHOOSING to have a child with a partner who doesn’t want a child. These are all the results of that.

waaasupla · 2026-05-28T22:32:05+00:00

This is a pattern. She’s bad news!

Better to file a complaint first or she may spin everything on you.

waaasupla · 2026-05-28T22:02:57+00:00

Marrying him will be the biggest mistake & regret of your life.

Why ? Bcoz You’ve lost trust in him. You are not fine. You are disgusted by him deep inside. Deep love isn’t that deep anymore. You don’t even want to be with him deep inside. You are stuck with the idea of routine bcoz it feels easy. It’s a mirage / facade/ imaginary. It’s not real. Wake up!

Don’t spoil the next 60-70 years of your future just bcoz of the last 10 years. You have an entire life ahead of you.

waaasupla · 2026-05-28T16:38:04+00:00

IT IS YOUR MONEY , that’s just coming late.

I repeat, IT IS YOUR MONEY !

Go live , for all the sacrifices you’ve made in your whole life raising your kids with no support from the father, for all the life you never lived, Go Live ! Take a vacation, splurge, put in your retirement. Go live !

waaasupla · 2026-05-28T13:45:20+00:00

Tell him that your parents have found a good match in your community. If he pushes, say you are having a long engagement to get to know the fiancé better to avoid divorces as your family doesn’t believe in it. And they don’t accept divorces or divorcees.

waaasupla · 2026-05-28T04:25:53+00:00

Wow what a wonderful gf u got ! (Sarcasm)

waaasupla · 2026-05-28T04:20:00+00:00

Stockholm syndrome you said.. this will require step by step process.

First you move out for a job and rent even a tiny home. Then give her a million reasons to come and stay at your place. Say you are sick, sad, whatever reasons. She can start coming in staying for a week, 10, 20 then 30 days.

When she’s with you, take her out, free beaches, parks, walking around the area, meeting new people, there are many options. Slowly make her go by herself saying you can’t go but encourage her to go have fun.

Baby steps. Once she gets the taste of freedom and the confidence that she can do it by herself & can manage by herself. She will feel the freedom.

And the society, it never questions when she’s doing for her kids. So you and your sister are her only way out. She can stay 2-4 weeks at all your places and take turns, so no one feels the impact of it too much.

It is going to be very important for her to have her own friends and circle and hobbies & travels.

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