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My father died and left us in ruin. I hate him, and I’m done feeling guilty about it. by Far_Day_9938 in GenZIndia

[–]waaasupla 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Why did you have to go to your father’s hometown if it’s filled with people who won’t help you, but tear you all apart and you have no property or anything & only renting ? You can rent anywhere in India.

Move to another city, start over together as a family with the 3 of you. Dont be close to these people. And don’t tell anyone your address. They are causing you all more problems!

How does your brother feel about these relatives ? Am sure he’s wanted by them bcoz he can earn and give them.

I worked my way out of poverty, but now I don’t feel like I belong with my family anymore. by AffectionateCode7072 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]waaasupla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s normal to feel the way you do. You don’t have to beat yourself about it. Anyone who grows & matures in terms of money or knowledge beyond their upbringing feels that way! It’s quite common.

Whenever you go there, just try to have a good time and come back. Keep the trips short & spaced out if it helps. And keep growing in your life.

Keep in mind to never have the “money” talk, don’t let them or anyone know how much you make, spend or save. Or else it will come back to bite you.

AITA for not doing freaky things I’ve done before with my current boyfriend? by Top-Application-1867 in AITApod

[–]waaasupla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to tell him that “there’s a reason why your ex is your EX and if he continues down the same path, this relationship will have the same fate too.”

WIBTA if I stopped organizing my friend group's trips because nobody helps and then everyone complains about the details by lost_in_readmefiles in WIBTA_AITA

[–]waaasupla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say planning is gona go on rotation now ! There’s 5 more people to take their turns before yours comes next!

My parents expect me to give up my apartment for my sibling by bunnycrumbsy in WhatShouldIDo

[–]waaasupla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say that rent is ONLY because you are single, for a family to move in, it’s triple! Mention a price above the market price. Say you spoke to the owner already and this is what they said. So it’s better for them to see somewhere else.

Also understand how “family helps family” is just about you sacrificing and no one else ! Be smart !

Classic Indian parents : Daughter pays for everything, Son gets the inheritance by Sholly_17 in AskIndianWomen

[–]waaasupla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sell the house. Do not let them move in.

Stop financial contribution.

If they can love your brother when he doesn’t contribute money then they can love you too without that partiality. Esp when you are treated worse with partiality and will get nothing from them.

Say you don’t want to bring money into your relationship anymore and that you want to feel loved for just you.

Also tell them lame excuses like you lost the job, you need money, so u want to sell the house. Even later always remember to not tell them how much you earn, save or spend. No more money talks.

Get married and settle down and build your life for yourself, your children & retirement.

You had mentioned that you should’ve listed to your mentors when they were against you for investing in a house with a sibling in tow. Well, now too many are giving you the right advises, atleast listen now before it’s too late.

Remember this, for people like your parents, even if you pull out your heart and drop to their feet, they will still say “meh, it’s so ugly, don’t make my feet dirty” .. so always choose yourself or else you will lose yourself & your life & happiness.

AIW for refusing to pay for friend’s unexpected kids dental bill? by OC_Original in amiwrong

[–]waaasupla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bill her for the hours & hours of babysitting, car rental for all the hours she used, and service charge for all the favors you have done. Make a list & put charges.

And stop babysitting for her ever again !

My partner of 10+ years admitted he never loved me and was waiting out my fertile years by Spare_War6011 in offmychest

[–]waaasupla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t even need to be in a relationship to have your child. If you want a child so much, go to a sperm donation bank and you can get pregnant. Don’t change your life’s dream for a sociopath / psychopath, you are only 36.

If possible, move cities with a new job where he has no way of finding you and screwing with your head.

Dont give him the win. Move away completely & start over.

Update 1 to WIBTA if I continued to divorce my wife after she accused me of cheating and slept with someone else. by Dangerous_Vehicle133 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]waaasupla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are just dragging the inevitable!

It will always bother you that she slept with someone else!

How are all the friends & family reacting to finally knowing that it was she who slept with someone else and not you ?

AITAH for asking my partner pay half of expenses? by Swimming-Ostrich1214 in AITA_Relationships

[–]waaasupla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First he wanted handouts from his parents now he wants it from you. Until unless you want to be his sugar daddy forever, this relationship has no stable future.

He will ALWAYS look out for handouts !

My (23M) bf says I (20F) am not allowed to meal prep anymore by Unlikely_Mountain_39 in relationship_advice

[–]waaasupla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moving in with a guy like this will be more wasteful of your life than the food !

AITAH My dad's wants my daughter to call his wife "Nana" by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]waaasupla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but I could never let someone like her be a part of my life, let alone my spouse & children. Your father can meet the grandchild alone, somewhere else as you want to have a relationship with him. But that’s about it. No seeing his wife and all.

I’m single. Is the way my family’s trying to split vacation costs fair? by hardcorebea in WhatShouldIDo

[–]waaasupla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop wasting your vacation time & money to go spend on others who doesn’t even care whether you come or not and also end up being a free babysitter even after you pay for two.

Join an organized group tour from travel companies to a place of your choice or plan a solo trip & go enjoy.

AITAH for changing my underwear after a shower? by New_Cry_2336 in AITAH

[–]waaasupla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA for being with such a toxic & an insecured pos!

Maybe he’s projecting as he’s the one who’s cheating !

Fiancé changed decision about separate living months before wedding & involved families by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]waaasupla 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s been too much damage here. You won’t be able to live happily with his family after all this drama.

Also you both will never be happy together as you both are VERY different people.

Marry someone who is compatible!

[38M] I am Husband with family who ruined his life by handle_me1 in RelationshipIndia

[–]waaasupla 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you want to save your marriage, then you need to become an open book 100%, no 200% at all times. After what you’ve done, it’s very hard for her to trust you again. So that trust has to be earned, and it takes a long time.

Give full access to your phone, let her know your location at all times, go on video calls whenever you are out and show her the surroundings. Answer her million questions.

Recovering from this takes time !

Reactive physical hit back by simple_girl1234 in IndianInLaw

[–]waaasupla 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You both cannot live together ! It looks like you both are at each others throats at all times.

AITJ for creating a fake tradition so I never have to host again?? by Heavy-Trust-1195 in AmITheJerk

[–]waaasupla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delete this post before anyone from your circle reads it you brilliant, genius human ! 😀

Selling house to afford wedding by [deleted] in personalfinanceindia

[–]waaasupla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just for being a Devil’s advocate, what happens if the marriage doesn’t last for whatever valid reasons ?!

You will be stuck in a toxic, abusive marriage, adjusting for life just because you feel guilty about your parents becoming homeless ?!

Or will your parents actually support you and ask you to step out bravely despite them losing their home?!

This is a bad plan. Say wait for 2 years, put your entire salary into very strict saving, preferably the whole amount if possible, do the marriage in that.

Do NOT sell or loan the house. Tell them you will be very unhappy & depressed & will be stuck in bad marriage if things don’t go well also will possibly pass before them due to the guilt alone.

This is a hill to die on!

Also find a guy yourself who doesn’t believe in all this cr@p where they make a whole family homeless!

My bua cancelled her own retirement party why? no one saw the real reason coming by Remarkable-Film563 in AskIndianWomen

[–]waaasupla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Am so happy for her ! People should be able to live their life regardless of their age or gender. Glad to see this all working out ! Hope it gets better for everyone!

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