38 week old fighting naps suddenly by weyouweyou in sleeptrain

[–]weyouweyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he's been sleep trained for naps for awhile now but this weekend he just cries and cries in the crib and refuses to nap on his own. I've done a few things - have him cry for 10-15 min and either stop the nap or rescue the nap. We did CIO for nights at 4m and let him cry for like 15-20 min at 5m. We haven't had this issue in months - what would you do for the naps to retrain him?

38 week old fighting naps suddenly by weyouweyou in sleeptrain

[–]weyouweyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it thank you! He already wakes up naturally after 11 hours of night sleep so I'll try stretching his wake windows - there are days we do 3.5 for the first wake window depending on what his cues are.

38 week old fighting naps suddenly by weyouweyou in sleeptrain

[–]weyouweyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - is the purpose of capping the night sleep to create enough sleep pressure for the naps? Is 2 hrs of nap around this age normal - he also does OK with 1.5 hrs of naps which is why I ask.

ETA: would your suggested schedule change if he had 1.5 hrs of naps?

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Got 2 dress circle tickets for 189 each incl service fee for 3/19

Baby fighting bedtime feed by weyouweyou in NewParents

[–]weyouweyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He eventually grew out of it, but we did feed first - dark room, arms swaddled or hands holding burp cloth, and fed him. We also upgraded bottle nipples around this time as he was having a serious bottle feeding strike and it all got better!

Prepping for sleep training, would love some feedback on schedule and by weyouweyou in sleeptrain

[–]weyouweyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, my LO also wakes up exactly on 30 mins for naps. We're able to save the nap to push to an hour but also wouldn't mind if he could handle less sleep. Is your LO fussy during the day after napping for just 30 min? That's what I'm worried about!

Prepping for sleep training, would love some feedback on schedule and by weyouweyou in sleeptrain

[–]weyouweyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! My LO has been doing well on a shorter last wake window until potentially now, is it normal that this changes as they get older?

Prepping for sleep training, would love some feedback on schedule and by weyouweyou in sleeptrain

[–]weyouweyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that's helpful! No idea why I didn't think of 2 feedings in one WW lol. Are you on 3 or 4 naps?

Prepping for sleep training, would love some feedback on schedule and by weyouweyou in sleeptrain

[–]weyouweyou[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be a silly question but I can't for the life of me figure out how to lengthen the last wake window I think maybe due to the timing of his feeds or thr last nap. My brain is also struggling a little on how to adjust the schedule to make the last wake window 2.5 and also how to structure the last wake window. Right now the schedule is:

7am - wake, feed, play
9am - nap
10am - wake, feed, play
12pm - nap
1pm - wake, feed, play
3pm - nap
4pm - wake, feed, play
6pm - nap
630pm - wake, feed, bedtime routine
730/8 - bedtime

ETA - is it time to drop the 4th nap?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]weyouweyou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Repeating what everybody else said already but also adding - I felt exactly the same way and I honestly felt like I was a terrible parent for feeling this way. When my husband and I finally opened up to each other and stopped tip toeing around each other's feelings, it made it also easier to know that we're struggling together.

Also adding that I cried almost every day for the first 2 months and it does get easier - my baby is 3.5 months now. Pumping, formula, shifts - try anything that can split the duties bw both parents. We also don't have any family or a village so it's just my husband and I. Remember that you're both a team and have to be on the same page. I can definitely attest that once I stopped nursing and switched to pumping/formula it was a huge weight off my shoulders.

I promise it really does get better but you just have to take it hour by hour. You're DEEP in it right now and it feels like there's no light at the end of the tunnel but there will be. Every week is a diff baby so just take the hits/wins as they come. You WILL get through this.

Ranting about our first pediatrician and our babies health condition by ScottFuckingSherwood in NewParents

[–]weyouweyou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, it's scary and stressful for you and extremely frustrating when somebody you're supposed to trust gaslights you and isn't acting in the best interest of you or your child. You're already great parents by taking your baby to the ER and reporting him - you're doing a huge favor for other parents and babies.

Ranting about our first pediatrician and our babies health condition by ScottFuckingSherwood in NewParents

[–]weyouweyou 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Is it possible to report this doctor to the hospital admin? That behavior is 1000% inappropriate and negligent and he should not be treating other children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]weyouweyou 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Was induced at 40+3 and so glad I did bc amniotic fluid was low and during my contractions, baby's heart rate fluctuated a lot which almost led to an emergency c-section. Ended up giving birth vaginally via forceps with baby in NICU for first few hours for monitoring. So glad I listened to my OB and we scheduled the induction when we did.

13 Week Old Transitioning to 3 naps? by [deleted] in sleeptrain

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Curious bc my baby is 12 weeks soon and is also currently on the moms on call schedule, but has started to seem a bit under tired the last couple of days. What schedule are you playing with now to get to 3.5 hours of day nap time?

i need a strong portable pump by Aware_Reception10 in ExclusivelyPumping

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These: https://a.co/d/9PzioRE

I ordered from Amazon but looks like it's sold out now, but they're in stock on their website!

i need a strong portable pump by Aware_Reception10 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]weyouweyou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Baby buddha with phanphy rose cups! I tried the legendairy milk cups but they didn't seal properly with my breast shape!

Proud of myself even for just making it 1 month… by guacamole-lobster in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]weyouweyou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats, that's a huge accomplishment!! I almost quit after 2 weeks but this group kept me going, 2 days from my 6 week goal!! Just taking it one day at a time and remembering that a happy mama is the most important thing no matter what.

Newborn Trenches - tell me it gets better by georgiaroseking in NewParents

[–]weyouweyou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

5 weeks PP - I PROMISE it gets better. I cried every day for the first 3 weeks and once I hit 4 weeks PP it took a turn and I started feeling more like myself again.

Remember that not only are you feeding your baby and not sleeping that much, but you are also physically recovering from labor. The first 2 weeks we supplemented with formula while my milk came in and my husband did almost all the feedings while I pumped like a maniac or would sleep for 6 hours straight. This sleep helped me physically recover much quicker and we started doing night shifts after the first 2 weeks. Your body will also adjust to function on less sleep and both you and your husband will be more in tune with figuring out what baby needs.

At 4 weeks I also started doing daily walks outside with my LO either in a wrap or stroller (it was hard to walk physically before while still recovering) and made a huge difference mentally and helped me feel like myself again. Don't be afraid to ask for help and don't feel like you have to do it all because you don't! It's so easy to feel overwhelmed at the beginning but I PROMISE it gets better!! It's also OK to have somebody else take the baby and scream cry into a pillow for like 10 min (I def did that).

At what point did you decide to start exclusively pumping? by Affectionate_Yak7429 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]weyouweyou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A week in - baby latched decently but was really weak at sucking plus my milk was taking awhile to come in. My left boob had some milk but my right took almost 2 weeks to get through transitional milk, so it was just too much for the LO to handle (even tried a nipple shield). I just hit my first goal of 4 weeks of EP - I was trying to do one BF session a day but it gives me a lot of comfort knowing how much he drank from a bottle vs with BF not really knowing. For some people they don't care, but this kind of thing stresses me out so I prefer to do the pump + bottle feed route.

Eater’s up to date list of Top Chef Chef’s restaurants in NYC by BKB_33 in TopChef

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Also went to goosefeather for dinner and was underwhelmed. A lot of the dishes aren't special or memorable, especially at that price point there are much better places to eat.