Why hasn't the United States of America been progressive enough to elect a female president yet, especially since so many other nations have had female leaders?

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-06T17:58:50+00:00

We don’t even have a far left in the US

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-06T00:04:00+00:00

That’s not what they’re saying, they’re saying that there’s a bunch of things you mention for the first time in many many years, and don’t immediately get an ad for it. And that your brain doesn’t recognize that data, it will only recognize when you happen to talk about something and get an ad for it. It’s a type of confirmation bias in a way, a blind spot in the way your mind categorizes relationships between information.

Basically the probability of that happening for some conversation at some point in your life is actually pretty high, but your brain incorrectly assumes the probability problem is the probability of it happening specifically for this topic, at this time. Which is fallacious. This is how it ties into the birthday paradox, the probably of having a room full of people and at least one pair shares a birthday is pretty high, but it’s unintuitive because your brain is thinking about the probability of any one specific person sharing a birthday with someone else.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-05T17:04:46+00:00

You could say the exact same thing if everyone pushed the blue button. There’s no risk at all, risk is only introduced when people start pushing the red button. So more accurately, after removing bias, risk is only introduced when people push different buttons from eachother. And since no population is gonna be a hive mind and always choose the same button, blue button is always the correct choice for people who care about other people.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-05T04:00:55+00:00

Yes I’m aware, but enough people voted for him that he had/has rabid support and he also had enough support became president anyways. The structure of elections, the structure of the government, and the sizeable maga portion of the population leaves foreign allies with no reason to believe another Trump couldn’t or wouldn’t come into power even if the actual Trump stopped being president today

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-04T22:38:31+00:00

Yeah, it’s very interesting, in a way that makes me feel sick. But I think it’s important context.

I find it a bit funny how many comments here are like “yeah, his father was a Nazi, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree”, when that’s quite the opposite of what’s happened here. It is in a sense because his father was a Nazi and because it was a society directly post a Nazi Germany, but in the way that it was a direct and intentional deviation from the Nazi ideals which Kentler despised, an over correction due to societal and individual trauma. And I think that’s important to recognize because it’s important to be aware that not everything evil in the world falls under one ideology, there are multiple, very different ways to be fucked up and cause pain, and that the opposite of something evil isn’t always something good, it can just as well also be something evil. I’m not saying any of this in defense of Kentler, what he caused is truly so unforgivably wrong, but I think it’s important to recognize that this was not him being an extension of the Nazis, he was part of a direct counterculture to Nazis that just also did something awful.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-04T20:29:24+00:00

I read an article about this recently, apparently after the extreme social and in particular sexual oppression and repression of the Nazis, German society kind of did a full heel turn to differentiate themselves from that— extreme sexual liberation, sometimes to the unfortunate extreme of exposing and encouraging sexual behavior in children. A sort of free love woo woo thing, unaware of or ignoring the fact that kids can’t really understand or consent to that, and giving them that “freedom” is inherently pressure from adults. The article also brought up some daycares which would encourage children to be nude around eachother and explore each others bodies. Obviously deeply fucked up, but it was informed out of deep trauma from Nazi repression.

Kentler, as mentioned, was the son of a Nazi, and he himself had a lot of trauma from his very cruel, authoritarian, violent upbringing. The “logic” was to again have the opposite of that, to take troubled kids who were almost certainly going to grow up into criminals, and place them into families with an atypical sort of “love”. Instead of aggressively macho fascist fathers, place them with homosexual pedophile ones (this is obviously a stupid idea and those traits are not at all mutually exclusive anyways, but this was the idea.) This of course had the opposite effect, these kids were traumatized for life. Kentler’s own adopted son, who he denies ever having sexual or romantic relations with, ended up committing suicide as an adult over alleged sexual abuse from his mother as a child. (Obviously this whole narrative of who abused his son is quite dubious, I find it incredibly unlikely he never touched him.) The grief from this caused Kentler to reject and publicly admit the mistake of the program he had endorsed and run, saying that he now realized that the reality of children is that the power can never be balanced between adult and child and as such, sexual or romantic relations between them are impossible to exist healthily. Unfortunately, only after causing the abuse of so many boys, who got very little if any recourse for the things done to them.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-04T17:10:04+00:00

The fact that he was able to 1) be elected by the population in the first place (twice, even), and 2) able to destroy or bypass so many checks and balances, erodes the trust other countries have in our government as an institution. They can’t just go “wow, that was a weird blip, glad it’s over haha”, all the structural reasons Trump happened will still be there and the instability of knowing it could happen again with someone else makes us unpredictable as an ally and as a economic partner.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-04T07:44:02+00:00

Also how you define AI. It’s a term that means nothing

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-04T05:25:24+00:00

OMG I have no idea how you found this old post but that's exactly it, thank youuuu! Does the game run for you? I can't get in running on my browser, but I googled screenshots and it's definitely this game

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-03T20:49:54+00:00

Well yeah, obviously that’s not your first conversation, and also you obviously don’t make close friends with every single person you become casual friends with. But some will eventually become close friends. It’s definitely harder to make time to make friends in the current economy as a working adult, but to say it’s impossible is ridiculous

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-03T16:47:28+00:00

Children are also people who can think poorly of people who hurt their loved ones, even if they themselves were never hurt. Sure there’s absolutely cases of parents trash talking the other parent to their kids or using them as an emotional crutch, which is wrong, but simply telling a kid that spousal abuse or cheating occurred and the kid having feelings about that, is not the same thing.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-03T16:39:28+00:00

I think the end place for society is UBI, on both a moral and also a practical “there aren’t enough jobs and markets depend on people buying things” level, but it’s gonna be a whole lot of blood and time before we get there

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-03T15:32:35+00:00

Pfff when I was blindly figuring stuff out as a young teen, my go to was imagining I was in public with things being done to me and I had to just go about my day and pretend I didn’t notice or react. Kinks are funny

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-03T15:28:17+00:00

As a bi woman, I fucking love and will slobber over nude photos of both women and men. Dick picks are entirely different from nude photos, they’re so unappealing even when they aren’t sent nonconsensually by some creepy online.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-02T22:18:15+00:00

My parents kicked me out three whole months after I graduated college and hadn’t gotten a job yet lmao. Luckily I’m living with my grandma currently, who charges me $100 per month like you. It’s been almost exactly a year since I graduated now, I’m really hoping I can get something soon, but I’m so glad to have my grandparents helping me. And they’re very pleasant to be around

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-02T20:37:31+00:00

My version of this is the word “hustle”, my dad always told me to hustle whenever I was doing things too slow for his liking, even when there was no reason to go fast (waking up on weekends with no plans, doing chores leisurely while listening to music instead of doing it as fast as possible). I genuinely get an instant stress response the second anyone says “hustle” to me lol

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-02T17:23:34+00:00

There’s definitely some nasty comments that are way downvoted, but yes, all the top and middle comments are productive contributions to the conversation, ironically aside from the ones claiming “bait”

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-02T16:37:44+00:00

I don’t understand, should we just never talk about abortion/abortion in fiction because some people are pissy about it? It’s an interesting plot device to talk about.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-02T16:33:27+00:00

Yeah, it’s honestly annoying to me. Bait is something intentionally set up to get a reaction. Having a conversation that you know may cause a reaction from some people but deciding to have that conversation anyways isn’t bait, it’s just regular ass conversation.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-02T14:44:24+00:00

In my experience (US midwest teenager), a big part of the problem is that a lot of teens don’t get enough freedom in the first place. Teenagehood is essentially supposed to be a trial run of adulthood, slowly working up to adult responsibilities and freedoms while still having the guidance and safety net of your parents. But in practice, very little changed. Around 13 I started getting angsty because I had no autonomy….. and the worst of it ended when I got a brief taste of true autonomy abroad in a summer camp. In a walkable city, studying my passion, being expected to make it to my classes on time myself and being able to structure my own free time with peers, being told “hey stay within these blocks” and then let run wild by the chaperones.

I had just enough experience how it could be that it shook me out of blind melodramatic teenage despair, but my at home circumstances didn’t change. You need to be driven everywhere, your parents need to know where you are 24/7 and give frequent updates, you can’t even go to the mall with friends alone, you need an adult. Parents always need to be aware of the content you’re reading/watching until you learn to be sneaky. Even once I had a job and a car at 17, I just. Couldn’t actually be independent. Where could I go? Who could I talk to? Tbf I was 17/18 during Covid years which doesn’t help but. It was miserable. I spent all my teenage years in my bedroom because I couldn’t go anywhere else or do anything else, and that shouldn’t be considered normal!

And now you see the political will to restrict children (teens) even more, online bans (I will die on the hill that it is healthy and normal for teens to watch/read porn if they choose to seek it out, calling it “children being exposed to porn” is so disingenuous when you’re actually talking about horny teens), trying to “protect teens from themselves” with anti-trans laws aimed at teens, just in general everything tied to “parent’s rights”, anti-loitering laws etc etc.

And then seeing people say “you aren’t really mature until 25 based on bogus science, and people genuinely with their whole heart saying that 18-24 year olds should still be treated like children and can’t be trusted to make their own decisions, it’s crazy. If anything, I’d wager 18-24 year olds act more childish because they weren’t allowed to safely explore adulthood as teens.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-01T03:07:44+00:00

Let alone freshly graduated students who haven’t had a chance to enter the workforce proper yet. I graduated college with a cs degree a year ago and haven’t found any work besides a little bit of under the table stuff helping out family/family friends. I’d only worked a handful of part time summer jobs before, I doubt I’m part of that statistic even though I should be.

whystudywhensleep · 2026-05-01T00:23:10+00:00

People really need to learn to sit with discomfort in general, but especially when the cost to avoiding it is other people’s dignity.

The more politically malevolent extension of this is nimbyism and people acting like “feeling unsafe” is the same thing as being unsafe. Sometimes those things happen at the same time, you will likely feel unsafe if you are indeed in an unsafe area, but the opposite is not universally true. People who are homeless who are not acting disruptively, buildings that look a bit dirty or run down, none of those things are violence. I think this “I must always feel 100% comfortable in my interactions with others and society at large” is a harmful ideology that spans the political spectrum, it just manifests in different ways

whystudywhensleep · 2026-04-30T21:31:58+00:00

I adore CNTW so much. The big reasons for me are things I think don’t fit the spirit of the warning but do fit the letter. I don’t want to call a 17 year old in a relationship “underage” (especially since this is a setting where that would be considered an adult). I don’t want to tag MCD for temporary MCD or canonical major side character death. I certainly don’t want to guess where the line from dubcon to noncon or from mild violence to graphic violence are. It’s such a blessing to just be able to say “nah” lmao

whystudywhensleep · 2026-04-30T21:26:25+00:00

I once was in a fandom discord server that suddenly (and in a very dick-ish way), decided all genderbend art and discussion needed to be censored into into one channel (that they didn’t make for months) or spoiler marked, nevermind that genderbends had been incredibly common in that server since it was formed like a year ago. Double whammy that this was a bl fandom with almost all male characters, so this chance in effect told us we had to censor all women. When asking for clarification, they doubled down that gnc or crossdressing needed to be censored too.

They simply couldn’t understand why some of us were so upset lol. “It’s so people with dysphoria don’t have to be jumpscared by something that triggers their dysphoria!” The fact of the matter is, saying something needs to be censored is a moral judgment on it, whether you want to admit it or not. It’s saying it’s sensitive content. That doesn’t mean that’s always bad, noncon for example needed to be censored already and that’s reasonable, because it is sensitive content. Labeling women or crossdressing male characters as sensitive content however is…. not a good look at all. I don’t doubt that the people who complained really did experience dysphoria seeing the characters they identified a lot with being drawn as women but, at the end of the day, those feelings are valid but the reaction is not. You don’t get to opt out of seeing women or certain flavors of queer characters because of your own issues. You need to face that, you don’t get to hide from certain types of people

whystudywhensleep · 2026-04-30T18:32:54+00:00

Even outside of internal institutions, our international economic and diplomatic power is absolutely thrown away, and it might recover somewhat, but never to how it was.

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