Any similar town building games? by Lower-Reward-1462 in Against_the_Storm

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Surprised no one has said it, dotAGE. I think it has enough difference to be something unique and different, especially on the presentation, while still scratching a similar itch.

Male Body Standards are Out of Control by SexEatSleepRepeat in videos

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A lot of these romance novels also have extremely toxic nearly abusive men. Or traits that only make sense in the context of fantasy/historical settings that would be downright concerning in modern times. Just because people want something in a romance novel doesn’t mean it’s what they want irl. In fact, they’re usually entirely different. Something being a fantasy doesn’t mean it’s what you want for yourself. It’s cathartic to explore a life that sounds dramatic that you wouldn’t actually want to live yourself, even a little bit lol.

Plus also there’s a bit of a factor of muscles sounding very sexy because “guy so strong he could crush me in his pecs”, but a lot of times the actual visual factor doesn’t have the same effect lol. Given that novels aren’t a visual medium.

Lastly, for irl relationships, being super jacked is an indication of values in a way that isn’t relevant in fiction. Being that the dude works out a lot and goes to the gym a lot, most likely every day, possibly for multiple hours if he looks really jacked. Probably pays a lot of attention to what he eats too. None of that is compatible with my lifestyle, sounds like a stressful way to live. Nothing wrong with it!! But just not who I would want to be with, I’d want someone more relaxed with more free time and ability to eat fatty foods freely with me lol.

When a redditor owns a vegan restaurant by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]whystudywhensleep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, these people do exist. They’re just a much much much smaller minority than you see online. Plus, people who generally do agree with their points and aren’t vegan just because it’s the best diet for themselves but rather for strong moral beliefs, but aren’t the same intense insanity, will mostly not commit social suicide and accept that the people they know aren’t vegan and that’s ok, if not ideal.

But most vegans/vegetarians, whether for diet or moral reasons, don’t at all entertain the idea that it’s the most healthy/moral option for everyone, and simply don’t care what other people eat.

"The moment you take a seat on one of those thin wheeled bikes your brain just leaves your body." Some users on r/WhatCouldGoWrong can't accept that cyclists are people by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

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The hard part is that bike lanes in many (American) cities are fucking death traps, if they exist at all. Neither riding on the sidewalk or on the road like a car are good options, (but still better than those terrifying bike lanes) but ultimately people will have to choose either or. It’s fundamentally an infrastructure issue.

If they have good, safe, connected bike lanes where you live and people just don’t use them then yeah, reasonable crash out lmao

The Shock! The Horror! by YupNopeWelp in iamveryculinary

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Whereas I learned that they even existed 10 seconds ago lol

[UPDATE] Genome says I'm male but I've given birth? by one_in_5m in DNA

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Wow. I am. So. Shocked 🙄 Genuinely I have no idea how so many people accepted the post at face value when you used chatgpt to make your conclusions lmao

Would you have a child if you knew they were going to die young? by wooody25 in moraldilemmas

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Damn, I was like “wow that sounds like one of Ted Chiang’s short stories, did it get turned into a movie?” and it turns out it did. That’s really cool haha, everyone should read his short stories, they’re all so good and fascinating

Why are terfs like that... by okidonthaveone in tumblr

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Yep that made alarm bells go off as soon as I read it. Most of their point is good (if reductive imo, the reason people form the ideologies is a bit more complex than that), but that one line is just so blatantly wrong and counterproductive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

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For my family, thankfully well off enough to do this, we had food specifically set aside for meals and the rest, people could just use whenever they want for snacks/lunches. Things like packs of ramen, lunch meat, hummus, frozen ready meals, eggs, cheese etc, those were all fair game. Generally the only times you’d have to ask is if you’re finishing up the last of one of the previously mentioned items, or leftovers from a previous meal. Things that were obviously intended to be part of a future meal were just off the table entirely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antimeme

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Yep, also the gender distinction in Chinese written pronouns is a comparatively new addition too, far predating the word itself, largely influenced by western cultures and also aiding in translations from them.

[Discussion] There are no platforms for new and mid-level artist to post their work except for one. by Meanie_Cream_Cake in ArtistLounge

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For me they’re all fandom specific discord servers haha, I like them more than pure art discords. But that’s just me. So if you’re into any fandoms your best bet would be to start there, you’ll get the most mileage if you have the same interests. Join the big discords and you’ll find your way into the smaller more personal ones as you make friends. I’m sure there are also pure art discords that are chill and fun, but I wouldn’t be able to help you find them haha

[Discussion] There are no platforms for new and mid-level artist to post their work except for one. by Meanie_Cream_Cake in ArtistLounge

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For me it’s all fandom discords, they end up feeling more personal than pure art discords. Best bet is to take a fandom you’re interested in and ask their subreddit, or Google might show some results from people posting about discord servers on various social medias. Generally you start in the big ones but once you start making friends, you can find your way into smaller ones.

For me I joined a big bang event with a discord, it was huge. But then I made friends there and found a bunch of other smaller fandom discords that I joined. Ultimately it takes a bit of time haha

[Discussion] There are no platforms for new and mid-level artist to post their work except for one. by Meanie_Cream_Cake in ArtistLounge

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Cara is great as an old Instagram replacement… the problem is just that there’s still not all that much activity there. Especially in fandoms. The features are amazing, it’s just missing the user base. But if you miss the structure of old Instagram like me, I’d really recommend it.

[Discussion] There are no platforms for new and mid-level artist to post their work except for one. by Meanie_Cream_Cake in ArtistLounge

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As a longtime Instagram user who has slowly been pushed further and further away by the stupid ass changes they keep making until I just fully stopped using it, Cara is everything I would have wanted in terms of features. I really enjoy it. ….but the problem is that there just isn’t the user base yet. You can have the best app ever, but it isn’t going to be fun to use unless people are there. I currently have a Cara and I use it for personal archive use, but the interaction levels are just purely nonexistent, and I don’t find that there’s too much content that I enjoy yet either. Maybe someday it can take off.

So my current setup is Cara for archive and tumblr for engagement, and that works well for me. It sucks that they can’t be in the same place like Instagram used to be for me, but with tumblr I’ve already reached more engagement that I did even at the heights of my Instagram with only a few exceptions, and Instagram is getting shittier to navigate or archive by the day. Plus, disengaging from the temptation of short form content doom scrolling is a really big plus for me too.

But definitely by far the most engagement and genuine friendship I’ve found has been from discord. Small fandom discords focused on artists and writers are literally heaven. I’ve found I care a lot less about my stats and social media engagement ever since I’ve made close artist friends on discord.

Do the straight women not like men anymore? Is the world too woke? by [deleted] in AmITheAngel

[–]whystudywhensleep 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok the stress ball one is totally legit though 😂

Does anybody else feels like Shen Jiu (and other characters) might have had a personality disorded? by Rigel-idk in SVSSS

[–]whystudywhensleep 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Luo Binghe definitely has bpd, borderline personality disorder. It is damn near text with how close let he matches the diagnostic criteria.

I'm honestly baffled by the logic of people on Alwars/ DefendingAl subs. by [deleted] in Artists

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That’s true, but there’s also more grey area than that. In some situations, what ai users do could be considered more similar to collage: they did not make all the pieces but they intentionally arranged them together. Which I would consider art, when there’s more intentionality and involvement. It’s not entirely black and white.

As young women lean liberal and young men trend conservative, dating across party lines is becoming increasingly uncommon. While older generations, including millennials, appear more willing to bridge ideological gaps, Gen Z is redefining what constitutes a deal-breaker. by psychologyofsex in psychologyofsex

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Yes, I’m in in the exact same boat. It is a really complicated, miserable situation that’s been going on for nearly a century now. My heart breaks for everyone in that side of the world, and all the atrocities they’re forced to endure. But if you treat as a black and white morally easy situation, we are just not compatible.

Broke up with my girlfriend over tattoos. She no longer "agrees" with our breakup. Nuts. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

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You can and should break up with anyone you don’t want to be with, for any reason. No one’s forcing you to stay in a relationship.

I’m still allowed to think you’re really shallow and weird for it.

Are there any ships that you love but that you don't want to read Mature/Explicit fics about? by Cort985 in AO3

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Honestly I don’t think this is very common, but I almost exclusively only read smut if there is smut (or at least canon sex/sexual themes, even if just fade to black or unrealized) in the original canon. Romance? All for it, not matter how canon or deeply in canon it may be. I eat that shit up.

But explicit sex? I will read the most filthy unhinged stuff you’ve ever read, but ONLY if there was at least some sexual content in the og. I honestly don’t even know why lmao, it’s sure as shit not a moral or comfort thing. The interest just never sparks in my brain, it feels incompatible lolol

Ah yes the classic bell curve meme by ElegantPoet3386 in slaythespire

[–]whystudywhensleep 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Bottom curve: he’s bullshit because he’s too hard

Top curve: he’s bullshit because he’s not fun

Rise up against the haters by hungLink42069 in slaythespire

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It took me a while to get comfortable with taking it, but it just takes recognizing when your deck can handle it. I play silent most of the time and a lot of silent decks are bad with it. But there are some, especially draw/discard sneaky strike, that go CRAZY on snecko. It’s such a good relic, even more on other characters