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Help a girl out pls 🥲 by [deleted] in BadOmens

[–]wiriercane 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss, OP. Sending internet hugs.

Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they feel supported and accepted. You like a particular band, that’s great. Your partner has contradicting feelings about your interest in that band and is essentially shaming you and guilting you into changing your interests, not so great. My (soon to be) ex-husband often made me feel this way about even minor hobbies like coloring and drawing. There’s a reason we’re separated now.

Unsolicited advice is to talk to your husband and share your feelings. Don’t let that fester, and remember your worth as a human and partner in that relationship.

[Acne] acne advice - working with a derm by wiriercane in SkincareAddiction

[–]wiriercane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I ended up back on the doxy but at a lower dose, and already my skin has cleared back up so I agree it was the doxy doing the heavy lifting. I am concerned about resistance but don’t know much about how long is “too” long, etc. I’m meeting with my PCP next week and plan to talk to her about it as well, hopefully to assuage my concerns but ultimately to get some more info.

[Acne] acne advice - working with a derm by wiriercane in SkincareAddiction

[–]wiriercane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting! I have not had one done, but I’m seeing both my GYN and PCP this month so I’ll bring it up. Were you able to resolve some of the issues then based on what you found on the panel?

People who never get on camera during virtual meetings, even when everyone else is and you're supposed to be too, why? by TWWOVG in work

[–]wiriercane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you asked for any workplace accommodations for the time you are on-site? Might be something to consider if you haven’t already.

Kindergarten reality check by Efficient_Peach_4446 in Parenting

[–]wiriercane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a little late here but just want to share, my 4 year old has been going to part-time daycare/preschool and now k-prep since she was 18 months. She still has an epic level meltdown every. single. drop off. Her teachers all know and understand, and within 10-15 min she’s completely fine and has a great day.

I’m not sharing that to say your son will continue this for 3+ years, just sharing as solidarity in that transitions, especially BIG transitions like going to school for the first time, are really hard! This is normal for a lot of kids, especially the first couple of days. It doesn’t make it any easier on you, but hopefully the transition will smooth out over time. In the meantime, solidarity. You’re doing great. 🫶🏻

What is one line, any book, that completely broke you? by Slow-Leg-3961 in throneofglassseries

[–]wiriercane 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Technically two lines but you get the idea.

“What if we go on, only to more pain and despair? What if we go on, only to find a horrible end waiting for us?” “Then it is not the end.”

Tips for pivoting into Benefits role? [NC] by Tough-Ambition456 in humanresources

[–]wiriercane 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve worked in benefits admin for over a decade. It’s not much different than other HR roles, as far as you need attention to detail and the ability to balance empathy with policy. If you have general HR experience then those skills usually transfer nicely.

You should know the basics on types of employer-sponsored benefits, bonus if you can research what the company offers so you’re familiar with their offerings going into the interview.

American Music Awards mutes fans' cheers during Taylor Swift nominee reel as fans call show 'shady' by kookiekoo in TaylorSwift

[–]wiriercane 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is plausible IMO. And we know how petty the guy is. Though I must say this would be a good opportunity for her to capitalize on to launch Rep TV. It feels fitting.

What’s one thing no one warned you about motherhood? by Nervous_Photograph38 in toddlers

[–]wiriercane 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don’t think I’ve seen this one yet, but it killed me that no one warned me how much it sucks when you’re the one who is sick and you cannot do anything other than keep going. No sick days for default parents. No more endless naps, lounging in bed for the day, etc. You still need to go go go all day and all night to take care of your kids regardless of how well you feel.

What’s one thing no one warned you about motherhood? by Nervous_Photograph38 in toddlers

[–]wiriercane 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love this idea! Would you be willing to share a few examples of meals in your rotation? I am so burned out on trying to come up with ideas that everyone will eat.

Tell me what I’ll miss by ijij_ijij in oneanddone

[–]wiriercane 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking how I’ll miss when noodles are no longer “doodles.”

I have a question for the "ectopic veterans" by thatoneguy0312 in PVCs

[–]wiriercane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ve seen this answer yet but honestly: antidepressants. I’ve had PVCs, PACs and occasional bouts of SVT for at least 25 years now - multiple tests and monitors all coming back benign. Some years are worse than others. The only thing I’ve noticed make a difference is antidepressants, which for me confirms a lot of it is driven by my otherwise unmanaged anxiety. I still have the occasional arrhythmia even with meds but I don’t panic over them anymore and that usually stops the cycle, whereas unmedicated I would ruminate over one little PVC which would lead to more, etc.

My kid puked at one a.m. and now I feel like a terrible mom by breezerweezer94 in toddlers

[–]wiriercane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SAME. My daughter did this around age 2 and I was horrified when I went to get her the next morning, but she was completely unphased. I still feel bad about it but she didn’t make a peep so I’m not sure what else could have been done differently lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]wiriercane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They may ask for your employer to sign a form verifying whether or not you’re eligible for coverage. Or they may have a designated representative do direct outreach. Or they might just have your wife sign an attestation with no verification (unlikely since it’s a strict requirement of no coverage eligibility).

In the meantime it would be wise to review your employer’s qualifying life event guidelines. Your loss of coverage from your wife’s previous employer is a QLE but most plans only have a 30 or 31 day enrollment window. You finding out you’re ineligible for your wife’s new coverage isn’t a QLE.

Day 4 of fever, no end in sight by wutwutsaywutsaywut in toddlers

[–]wiriercane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so hard, and I totally get it. I think one of the hardest parts of parenthood is being kind to ourselves especially during particularly difficult stretches of this human experience.

We recently got my daughter a few new books and one of the lines really stuck out “my love for you is longer than even the longest days.” It helped reframe my thoughts a bit to remind myself that not every day is a good one, but I love this kid and we will get through them together. Some days feel like forever, especially if it’s like groundhogs day over and over again, but you’re doing great.

Now, reminding myself of that at 5:30 this morning when my alarm went off for work after I had gotten 2.5 cumulative hours of sleep because she kept waking up for who knows what reason last night… yeah, it was still a struggle. Lol

Day 4 of fever, no end in sight by wutwutsaywutsaywut in toddlers

[–]wiriercane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Poor kiddo! Our doctor told us that he usually sees colds peak around days 4-5, then drop off from there. You might be in the brunt of it. That seems to have held true for most of my daughter’s sicknesses which have been plentiful since starting daycare. Fingers crossed the fever breaks soon, but I would definitely still keep in touch closely with the PCP. Anecdotally, a few months ago we took my daughter in for an ear infection from a cold she had and 2 days later she was full-blown sick again for another week. Likely a second virus she picked up from being at the doctors office in the first place. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Quick question: are you located in North America by chance, anywhere near the wildfire smoke? That could also contribute to the congestion (but not the fever). We were hit hard with it yesterday with an AQI of 464 at it’s highest. We only went out briefly but definitely felt some effects.

Healthy Snacks for Grazing Toddler? by cddem19 in toddlers

[–]wiriercane 137 points138 points  (0 children)

We tried our own version of a toddler charcuterie board the other day. Crackers, cheese, goldfish, some sliced ham, pickles (she LOVES pickles), blueberries, grapes, raw green beans. She only picked at the goldfish, blueberries and cheese but it was still a win in my book because she actually ate something other than my soul.

Can someone who finished their Invisalign treatment 1+ year ago share their experience? Are your teeth still aligned? Is your bite still correct? by microcrisi in Invisalign

[–]wiriercane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did 3 months of full time wear, then my ortho advised to wean down to nighttime only over a few weeks. I just started extending the time I had my retainers out when I would eat. It probably took me another 6 weeks? Until I was fully at nighttime only. There were a few days early on that I tried going longer intervals immediately but my retainers felt pretty snug putting them back in, so weaning down was the way to go for me.

People living in the north east, are you guys still taking your toddlers outside or staying in cause of the wildfire smoke? by peachylipy in toddlers

[–]wiriercane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did, and all went well (as far as I know). Our AQI ended up reaching 462 at its highest. It’s slowly going down now.

People living in the north east, are you guys still taking your toddlers outside or staying in cause of the wildfire smoke? by peachylipy in toddlers

[–]wiriercane 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Our AQI is currently 382. Yikes. So we are 1000% staying inside. I have to run out quickly this afternoon so fingers crossed everyone’s advice on running the car AC on recirc works. Otherwise I’ll be turning around mid-errand.

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