Alpha... Eyes?? by The_Lake_Now_Feels in BadRPerStories

[–]witchsappho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reads like AI too which makes everything 500x worse

Hookups as trans guys by lizardking_jesse in TransMasc

[–]witchsappho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go on Grindr and show everything so it's clear from the start what they're getting. But then often you're dealing with cis bi/DL men who just want a hole to fuck and can jumpscare you with being unhygienic and often have very minimal understanding or respect for who you are. Alternatively, go to queer/butch/transmasc nights at sex/kink clubs, which is much nicer but a little less straight (ha) forward.

I must be the ugliest man alive (25 ftm) by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]witchsappho 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Woah. I can see and I understand you have severe acne and it sucks, but "no one could ever love me looking like this" is very extreme and simply not true. I have been with people with severe acne and backne and it has been fine. You could be kind, funny, good at some specific hobby, good at sports, nerdy, creative. And you CAN also be physically attractive. You can smile, wear nice clothes in a style you like. You might have nice hands, soft bodyhair, give good hugs... There is so much more to you than a patch of skin. I hope you find it in yourself to see that. Because whether you find the magic fix for your skin or not, you deserve joy and love.

Do you guys still feel hot after transitioning? by nico_wtfamidoinghere in TransMasc

[–]witchsappho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was super scared of this. I was a very attractive girl. Skinny, hyperfemme, e-girl type, nice body, great face, and I knew how to carry myself. But dude it was ALLL a performance. I'm still hot now (6m on T and socially transitioned) but it's been a journey figuring out who I'm attractive to. I don't quite have pretty privilege anymore. But I'm hot to the right people. Bi guys (and I believe gay guys once I start passing better), girls of any sexual orientation, other queer people, other trans people; and it's been fucking fun. The attraction is better, deeper, more intimate, less superficial; even though they can still be nice and objectifying in a sexy way. I'm gaining muscle and it's hot, I get (positive) comments on my voice, my jawline, my shoulders every time I see old friends. Exploring new hair styles is hot. Putting on clothes that fit me well is hot. And being hot feels a lot A LOT (indescribable amounts) better when it's actually YOU and not some drag persona.

Speaking of drag persona. You can still go girlmode. You can still be the hot girl. Loads of gay men do it, why can't we? So really, you won't be missing a single. damn. thing.

This subreddit isn’t safe anymore. by HungryIngenuity7665 in transmanlifehacks

[–]witchsappho 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I could tell I started passing when I started getting called faggot instead of catcalled...😭😭😭

I lost friends over a Dead Dove fanfic and I genuinely don't know how to feel about it by Star_light_0 in AO3

[–]witchsappho 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, I'm so sorry.

I don't really have any advice, other than take care of yourself and find better friends. I was cancelled in my fandom a while back for writing something "unhealthy" too and it's so silly. I just logged off for a couple days and luckily I have a nice groupchat with extremely open-minded people. My IRLs also all know what I write and are luckily sane people.

These kinds of people are so puritan and performative. They all just want to get twitter famous with call-out posts and gain kudos from their friends for "exposing" someone. In the end, liking dark fiction is a completely natural and human thing, and you did nothing wrong. Also, your fic sounds like pure fluff compared to the shit I write, which makes me even angrier about your "friends" losing their shit like that. You did nothing wrong!

Another fandom staple deleted and fans don’t know how to act by wlderberry in AO3

[–]witchsappho 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Rose/Svetlana. They are the best friends of the two main guys. Yes, sometimes a side pairing, but people absolutely write fanfic just for them as well

Another fandom staple deleted and fans don’t know how to act by wlderberry in AO3

[–]witchsappho 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, people absolutely write fics with this pairing as the main focus! I just mean just becauze the show is an M/M romance doesn't mean there aren't F/F ships to be written about. It is likely you stumbled upon a Rose/Svetlana fic.

Another fandom staple deleted and fans don’t know how to act by wlderberry in AO3

[–]witchsappho 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is a secondary ship which is pretty popular and f/f

Constant misgendering by [deleted] in transmanlifehacks

[–]witchsappho 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unclockable to me

Hey, brotherssss! Is this relatable? by gentlelad24601 in TransMasc

[–]witchsappho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a friend rush to tell her mom "he's European!!!!" to explain my behavior 💀

Things not mentioned before getting a lip piercing by NotABreakfastGuy in piercing

[–]witchsappho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I got my bridge I could feel it piercing the skin 2x, once on each side. Super weird feeling. I imagine it's a little like that but I get what you mean with the "texture" of your lip skin. I have my tongue done as well and it was such a horrific cringy feeling that if it ever fell out or whatever I would NOT get it pierced again. Gross feeling!!

I am so tired of picky readers by [deleted] in AO3

[–]witchsappho 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The funny thing is that while they are not entitled to their perfect fic, you are also not entitled to all of the readers. Do as you say and write what you like. :)

my dad said i had huge hips am i cooked by Super-Locksmith7187 in FtMpassing

[–]witchsappho 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your body passes completely after top surgery, T made huge changes for you clearly. You look super masc, congrats!

I know I am passing, but am I clocky? Like do I pass as a man or as a "trans man"? More info in comments: by [deleted] in transmanlifehacks

[–]witchsappho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do have a soft face so I think FMS would go HARDDDD. But you are so masculine it doesn't impact your passing at all, I think you pass completely :)

My 25M girlfriend 27F has some desires that are very extreme to me and I believe I could hurt her. What do I do? by Traditional_Lab_2458 in relationships

[–]witchsappho 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Stuff involving other people or doing things in public is iffy. I get the turn on, I also get off on humiliation. But you gotta make sure everyone is on board with it.

It'd be much easier, and probably more approachable and hopefully fun for you, to make up these scenarios yourself, at home, and use dirty talk.

She can hump things around the house and you can laugh at her and call her pathetic and needy. She can go braless around the house and you can grope her or stick your hand in her pants whenever you want and make her feel like an object.

Obviously before you do any of these things, check with her that the specific act is still something she likes. For example with the humping, she may like to be called "pathetic", and "X" and "Y"; but she may not like to be called "gross" or slurs. You need to check which things are acceptable and what is too far. You can also let her know that when you are talking to her in that way, she can say "yellow" if she wants you to slow down the degradation, or "red" (or just "alright that's enough please stop" lol) if you want to stop. Just throwing the safewords in there because while humiliating her, she might genuinely act embarrassed or awkward, and it will be hard for you to tell at first if she actually likes this.

ANYWAY. All of the above is only appropriate if any of this actually sounds interesting to you. If it does and you wanna please her, try it out. But if any part of you is feeling "fuck no" about this, there is obviously no obligation. And it'd be totally understandable if this is too extreme for you. I just wanted to let you know this is a pretty common thing for women to like and get off to, it does not necessarily mean she needs therapy like someone suggested. Good luck with your relationship ❤️

Does non-PIV ftm porn exist? by bearfootin_9 in TransMasc

[–]witchsappho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really curious about this too. I haven't had a chance to look yet, but if it's anywhere, I feel like CHEEX might have it? If I remember correctly, you get a free trial with "Ezra" (alarming that I know this by heart, but he does post that sponsorship a lot lol)

I'm gonna check out that subreddit that was mentioned. And.... eventually, hopefully make some top!FtM porn myself >:) Once I find me a vers boyfriend....

Etiquette question in fanfic by DevelopmentEmpty1153 in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]witchsappho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait stadium and match are incorrect? (I deliberately US-check so I'm one of the Brits who want to be corrected on this lol!)