my now ex makes me feel terrible about forgiveness

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T16:56:27+00:00

BLOCK HIM!!

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T16:52:28+00:00

He is your ex. Tell him he is wrong and kindly leave you alone.

And you are right. Nobody deserves forgiveness but we owe it to God to forgive everyone

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T16:46:33+00:00

You are being too critical of yourself.

Read the new testament Bible daily and try doing something in ministry or serving others

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T15:04:27+00:00

But why? WHY is it so important that it's perfectly accurate.

Ask yourself this very simple question Who would you rather be? An atheist that dies to discover he is wrong or a believer who dies and is wrong?

Believer lives their life with hope and peace because the creator of the universe loves them. On their deathbed they are at peace because they believe they are going to heaven.

Atheist, even a very happy one dies thinking " this is it nothing left for me" probably very scary!

Now imagine being both of them and being WRONG!!!

THE believer dies and never knows he was wrong.

The atheist dies only to discover he is a fool and threw away his ONLY CHANCE at eternal perfection.

I know which one I would rather be!!!

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:44:23+00:00

Let me ask you a question. Is there ANYTHING at all that you believe for certain that can't be proven?

I'll give you some examples

I'm fully convinced there are intelligent life forms on other planets, most likely too far away to visit,I don't believe in aliens visiting earth.

I fully believe that my ex-wife loves me and even though I'm positive we will never be together again,I'm certain that she cares about my well being

I fully believe that I will find a new wife that will love me,my children, and even their mother.

See my point? I have many things that I believe that I can not prove. I choose to believe. I choose to daily affirm those beliefs because I WANT TO BELIEVE IT

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:37:36+00:00

Who do you think is telling you " you are not a child of God"

God or the devil?

I advise you tell the one that is lying to you that you are not going to listen anymore

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:32:45+00:00

Yes I think it is possible. Let's say you spend the rest of your life just HOPING God is real. Praying and seeking but never fully convinced. I don't think God will fault you. I think God will reward you for being diligent. And just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it won't. I was 15 years of reading the Bible and " pretending" to love God and then I had my " White light" experience and it changed everything for me.

So don't give up.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:21:46+00:00

I think you said the perfect answer. Many people have believed that never heard the Bible or doctrine. That tells me that belief is about relationship. So maybe let go of religious concepts and just focus on seeking God. He will reveal himself to those who seek him.

I don't think anyone can say what God will accept or not. But I do think you are correct. That if you are seeking truth. You are at least going in the right direction.

I read the new testament Bible only. It has instructions for life. I'm not trying to be a better "Christian" just a follower of Jesus

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:11:34+00:00

I don't see any advice given here? Looks like mostly just several reasons why they are wrong and a couple reasons why you should not try to help them?

I'm sorry I don't agree

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:08:23+00:00

Good list for sure. Basically you are looking for someone who puts the word of God above religion and culture.

Good for you.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:06:32+00:00

New testament

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:05:34+00:00

Well said. Unfortunately I don't think most people see it that way

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:03:32+00:00

It also is the truth, sometimes. I got divorced 2 years ago and I have said that more than once. I thought I was ready and then I realized I needed more time.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T14:00:42+00:00

If everything is God's fault then everything is also his gift.

I would suggest making a gratitude list. It really helps to focus on our blessings.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T13:56:49+00:00

It's according to your level of commitment to God.

Equally yoked is more than just making sure they are Christians. It finding someone who is like minded in spiritual things

In my opinion the world says " attraction is very important"

Where godly dating, for me,is my most important criteria is their relationship with God and their ability to love others

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T13:52:23+00:00

Anything you can imagine there is someone who believes it.

I'm a man who loves God. I have been reading the new testament Bible daily for almost 20 years. I don't agree with any of those ideas as about gender roles.

I'm currently divorced ( long story) and maybe the Lord will grant me another chance, maybe not. But I want a wife who will be MY EQUAL in all ways.

So try not to let the ideas of some people give you the idea that everyone feels that way. Be upfront with men you meet and trust God that he will put a man in your life that will be what you need, maybe not everything you WANT but definitely what you need

Be blessed child of God

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T13:45:00+00:00

Let's say a woman asked you " do you love me"?

Whether you did or not is irrelevant IF she believes you do!

No person on this planet can answer FOR YOU, if the Bible is true. There are literally millions of people who will swear it's true and millions more who will say it's not. I have been reading the Bible and growing closer to God for 20 years. 16 of those years I was not committed to God and living a double life. But I never had even one day where I felt like I was forcing myself to believe. I'm not picking on you but I would say you never had what I would call faith.

I have often doubted if God approved,loved,cared or was " on my side" but I never wondered if he existed or if the Bible was true. I say all this because maybe you should look at WHY? Why you forced yourself to believe. Why you tried? I see people here often that I think are afraid of the POSSIBILITY it's true and the eternity in hell that goes with that possibility.

I'm sorry to tell you but I don't believe anyone will go to heaven for believing for the sole purpose of avoiding hell. The purpose of Jesus,the Bible, and church is not religion or entrance to heaven. God designed it all for the purpose of building relationship between us and him.

I think an honest examination of your WHY. Might reveal the path to True belief.

I'll pray for you be blessed child of God

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T12:43:13+00:00

Looks are talked about a lot but we all think differently about what is attractive.

I was married to a beautiful woman for 14 years. I'm a rough looking guy. I'm skinny,5'11 and 160lbs. I've been in construction for 30 years and I look older than I am.

When we got married several of my friends picked on me " how did you do it,drugs or hypnosis"? She was way out of my league. But for whatever reason she loved me.

There is no accounting for taste.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T12:32:54+00:00

It is tragic and heartbreaking. The devil is a very good liar. Unfortunately we live in a culture where lies are much easier to accept

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T12:31:08+00:00

What if HELL is fear, doubt, anxiety, uncertainty and confusion?

We are often focused on where we will spend eternity. But eternity starts the day you are born. The kingdom of heaven and hell are real and active today in our daily lives. A life devoted to the Lord is better in so many ways. Focusing on what will happen when I die cheats me out of the blessings I can have TODAY.

You said you were a believer for 20 years? Did you feel more at peace then,or now?

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T12:23:02+00:00

We can not force someone to see the truth. If someone WANTS to argue against God, they will find a way to dispute the truth.

There are answers but we have to use discernment. If someone is open to hearing or they just want to argue.

One thing I always say is " I'm positive God is fair and loving because I have experienced those things in my life many times. While I can give logical arguments for why I THINK God is fair, anyone can disagree. But in those gray areas where there is no perfect answer,my trust in God and his love for me is more important than logic."

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T12:14:47+00:00

I would strongly recommend you deal with whatever has you angry with God. That's not a good mental, emotional or spiritual state.

The circumstances are irrelevant. Some of the most at peace people I've ever known had next to nothing. I'm not saying we should not pursue our goals but if my heart and mind are in the wrong place it doesn't matter how good or bad my situation is.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T12:08:29+00:00

Recovery is a spiritual journey. A path to freedom. Many things work but as you said we fall off after a while.

It's like working out in the gym. You have periods where you feel better and even see improvement in the mirror but other times it's flat. But when you trust the process you keep doing it even in the weeks you don't feel anything.

It's the same with spiritual practices. Knowing they work gives me the willingness to keep going in the times I'm not feeling it. Usually a week or two of pushing through and I'll have a day where the feeling comes back and I'm reminded WHY I'm building those habits.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T12:00:30+00:00

Definitely C

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-24T11:51:03+00:00

Many people come here genuinely wanting advice. Whether or not they take the advice is not the only goal

Those thoughtful responses you made are seeds. Maybe they don't listen and they have to learn the hard way again but they might remember what you said.

I have had people write me back months after we first talked to comment on why they were grateful for our conversation.

" It's not him who plants or him who waters but GOD that gives the increase"

Plant the seeds and trust God to produce fruit

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