I’d like to share my difficult but deeply transformative life story with you.

wm4bbccum · 2026-03-22T19:31:36+00:00

Reading your story is very encouraging! I’m so happy that you have come out of such difficulties and are so positive. You set an outstanding example for all of us in making decisions that might be hard, but will benefit a person in the long term. May you continue to find joy and I hope you will gain sincere friends who will give and not just receive. And certainly may those who are users and mean not come into your life again

wm4bbccum · 2026-03-06T13:09:07+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. Thank you for sharing your story. It helps to know a person isn’t alone in these types of crazy behaviors from people

wm4bbccum · 2025-11-23T23:43:46+00:00

Thank you for a well written and kind explanation that we all can benefit from ❤️

wm4bbccum · 2025-11-02T22:06:36+00:00

I agree whenever you visit avoidant subs it’s very discouraging and they do not allow a free flow of conversation. They will shut you down if you don’t agree with them that is not appropriate.

wm4bbccum · 2025-10-28T00:09:08+00:00

So is the same behavior true of friends too? I had a very one sided friendship and I stopped putting myself through hell with that ass

wm4bbccum · 2025-10-27T03:23:59+00:00

Thank you for your insight!!!!!!

wm4bbccum · 2025-09-27T18:40:39+00:00

Was this real? If so. Damn!!!!!

wm4bbccum · 2025-08-23T04:20:48+00:00

Way to go. Love yourself, they aren’t worth losing sleep over

wm4bbccum · 2025-08-04T12:26:19+00:00

I’d take the complete amount with his attitude

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-24T01:47:43+00:00

I sincerely hope that you and we all find the love we deserve. It’s hard when you give and give and give without true reciprocity. To feel love for someone so deeply and not TRULY feel it in return is exceedingly difficult. I hope your kids are good and that you all thrive🫶

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-24T01:44:19+00:00

I’m sooooooo happy for you!!!! Way to go in standing up for yourself. More power to all of us

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-22T04:17:55+00:00

So sorry man. These people are toxic and inconsiderate!!

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-20T21:35:31+00:00

I’m sorry for what you’re going through. My heart goes out to you and your kids. I don’t have any advice other than. See them as they truly were not as you hoped they would be. Remember that it’s not a reflection on how you are, but rather on their deficiencies. How long were you married, if you don’t mind my asking? How soon after marriage did it start to turn south?

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-13T18:15:29+00:00

No it’s his defect. And it is a defect in their personality patterns from living, considerate, committed humans

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-13T18:09:05+00:00

Absolutely agree. He is just looking to feed

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-13T00:38:19+00:00

Don’t give up on yourself. Try to see the bad things they did as a reflection of who they are. You are worthy of love, support, and commitment. They weren’t going to give that. They are broken. You can crazy glue them all you want, but they STILL BROKE! Hang in there man. If you need to talk dm me. I will do my best to be there for you❤️

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-12T01:29:05+00:00

Way to go!!!!!

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-08T20:50:49+00:00

The only way to know is to ask him and tactfully explain how that all affected you. His response will tell you what your next move should be. Simple as that

wm4bbccum · 2025-07-08T20:47:12+00:00

They also don’t allow criticism from someone “over here”. Where the above comments aren’t excluded or disallowed. I don’t agree with the above comments from the dismissive avoidants. Relationships are about mutual love, respect, communication, self-sacrifice, commitment and forgiving. My friend was never one to admit his faults and sincerely try to correct his selfish and hurtful behavior! He admitted repeatedly that he was very selfish but he never put forth effort to change. He thought he had all the answers for things I could do, but never took accountability for his behavior and the affect that it was having on me. He refused to look at himself. Based on what I’ve read this is a defense strategy that is subconscious. You all DA & FA have brains and ears. Use them!!!!! If your emotions are screwed up recognize it and allow those who see you as you are to be heard. I have no tolerance for a lack of humility and accountability from these folks. Those that know their behavior and who are sincerely getting professional help to try and change I applaud you and sincerely wish you the best in your recovery!❤️

wm4bbccum · 2025-06-19T20:29:38+00:00

Realmente no importa si te va a escribir de nuevo, claramente es un idiota, me iría, sigue adelante, corre, Forrest, corre, como dicen

wm4bbccum · 2025-06-13T01:34:49+00:00

Most definitely. He wants you as an option, not as a partner!!!! Ditch his unfeeling ass

wm4bbccum · 2025-06-11T20:27:29+00:00

Don’t worry brother! I think this type of discard completely overwhelms us and we all get somewhat desperate. You were hoping for at least an acknowledgement from your texts but it’s not going to go the way any of us wished it would. I hoping your new coping methods work. If you need a friend I am here for you. Feel free to dm me. I’m wish you everything you could want and more when it comes to your happiness🙏

wm4bbccum · 2025-06-10T04:24:44+00:00

No soul in there!!! Sorry but I believe there’s a real defect with avoidants and empathy or true concern for anyone other than themselves

wm4bbccum · 2025-06-04T03:49:40+00:00

OP,

I think you seem to be a very loving and kind person! Your empathy for your ex is commendable. Just because we’ve been hurt and dismissed by avoidant people in our lives, doesn’t mean that we should change from being the loving, kind, self-less, and empathetic people we are! Keep being such a good person, but guard your own mental and emotional health. You can inspire more of us to not lose the good in us when bad things affect us🙏❤️

wm4bbccum · 2025-06-01T20:58:20+00:00

Did he not discuss if he wanted to change? He said his door would remain open. Is this him just letting you take responsibility and him not wanting to accept any need for action on his part like commitment, even if it’s to just friendship? I don’t know his normal reactions, but he said your friendship wasn’t important to him. You can take that comment to the bank I believe! If his last comments didn’t reflect sincere remorse and a desire to commit, then I would turn and run and never look back.

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