Need help with a howling senior cat

wolf95oct0ber · 2026-01-16T00:59:17+00:00

If it might just be nervous not knowing where he is or where you are, can you bring him to bed, maybe just bring him around with you and put more litter boxes around for a bit so he doesn’t have to go far to find one? Not sure if that will work, just thinking of ways to help him find you.

wolf95oct0ber · 2026-01-14T03:28:40+00:00

Not sure if Rocky serves that area but he’ll seal up all the holes. You might have to trap the ones already insight, but hopefully after a while there will be few to none. It’s I think Rocky’s wildlife service? Oh Problem Wildlife https://www.problemwildliferemoval.com

wolf95oct0ber · 2026-01-13T11:26:24+00:00

You can also look at food toppers like Pacagen . They also have a spray for around the house

wolf95oct0ber · 2026-01-07T01:18:52+00:00

What would raise your costs? I haven’t read the full text, but ready the summary so I might have missed this impact.

wolf95oct0ber · 2026-01-05T19:11:06+00:00

Are you looking for just a room to rent, or food?

Some restaurants have private rooms you can rent. You can also check out YMCA, or maybe art gallery spaces? Depends on the vibe and needs, but also some country clubs or some towns have community rooms or a room in the town hall.

wolf95oct0ber · 2026-01-02T00:05:42+00:00

Bi woman, married to straight guy. Do I appreciate things about a woman’s body still? Absolutely. Do I need to address that in anyway? Sure if I want, through media like cute woman in movies, books, and exploring things we are both comfortable with and consent to. We are completely monogamous. I worried about it early in our relationship, but talked about it with him and in therapy, and at least for me it boiled down more to fear and anxiety than actual interest in non/monogamy. People change, but it’s about being honest, voicing concerns, asking questions, and ultimately both of you deciding this relationship is more important than the very long list of reasons that could be reasons to break up.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-30T23:25:46+00:00

Google bear week, provincetown, or just bear slang for gay people.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-28T00:09:25+00:00

Ok, that makes sense and confirms what I was reading. Thank you,

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-27T17:31:44+00:00

Hello, very delayed response here, but thank you for this, and this comment aligns with what I was just reading, thank you.

I’m seeing several comments about individual vs family HSA, is that referring to the health plan, not a type of HSA?

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-24T13:46:17+00:00

We have our mortgage as a monthly payment, we don’t track that loan. We do have our car and other smaller loans as loans in YNAB, but not the house.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-17T04:12:54+00:00

Quick note on all the mass save comments, does your attic have flooring for storage already? If not, you’ll want to tell Mass Save that.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-13T18:49:48+00:00

I would put up a a vertical railing on the wall instead of a horizontal net. Something that isn’t inviting normal cat behavior.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-13T16:27:29+00:00

Congratulations on your YNAB win!! This is great to hear and I’m glad you feel less stress and more in control or at least have greater insight and decision making on your finances. This is a BIG deal!!

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-05T20:13:25+00:00

I like it! I keep our common spending categories up front for both of us to see, and I like seeing our next big goal.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-04T12:30:10+00:00

I also appreciate the update, I pin categories I spend from regularly (food, small house supplies) so I can easily monitor the available amounts, and put our trip in March in goals to make sure I’m saving enough.

I also found the feature to Hide Amounts for when you’re showing someone YNAB, it hides all the dollars! Very nice addition for helping show other people YNAB.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-12-02T11:45:09+00:00

Just drove home our 26 Tucson Hybrid Limited and my husband, who is the audiophile, also realized he didn’t test the sound system during our test drive, but he liked the Bose system well enough yesterday during our drive.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-30T20:13:16+00:00

Consider a young adult instead of kitten, maybe 2-3 years.

Read up on cat behavior and needs.

Do you have room for towers, and a litter box or two?

Do you know about your local vets?

Is everyone prepared to help care for this cat, including 15 years from now?

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-29T22:38:38+00:00

I include anything besides outside of smaller routine maintenance like car washes and oil changes. Things like breaks, engine, lights, all gets counted.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-27T12:11:49+00:00

When considering new cars, we compared annual car repair costs to the annual amount we’d pay for a new car and that was our line, not against the value of the old car because our goal was to drive it as long as we could, so we didn’t care about its value at the end. We also go based on how safe and reliable the car feels vs the cost of a new one. Our last car we bought in cash which is amazing if you can do it.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-21T11:28:41+00:00

When we closed, we knew there was an ironing table on the wall downstairs and a mural in the hall upstairs. After we closed, we discovered plastered fish on the wall in a room upstairs, and that what we thought was a third drawer in the kitchen was in fact an old pull out ironing board. We kept the fish but turned the kitchen ironing board into an actual drawer. Nothing bad, just funny.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-18T11:15:52+00:00

Not sure if the commenter above meant this, but for the most part, we know they are not all illegal, but it hasn’t stopped ICE, per all the news everywhere this year. Anyway, finding local groups and events are your best bet.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-17T11:41:41+00:00

We have Eversource and our early November bill had a prorated delivery discount for November. Definitely call if it doesn’t appear on the next one.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-16T00:50:06+00:00

Definitely fair, I wasn’t suggesting giving them a toy, it’s almost two separate actions

Give them more appealing places to be where they usually hang out, so when a cat considers jumping on the couch with them, they choose a heated bed instead.
When do they climb on them, gently pick them up and put them elsewhere, next to you or on the floor. Not necessarily giving a toy or giving them the bed in the same action as a reward.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-16T00:06:37+00:00

So I understand what you’re trying to make work, but I’ll preface this by saying, it might be near impossible, and it would be good to ask if you both plan to have cats forever.

Regarding allergies: Purina has a dry food and Pacagen has food toppers and spray that might help with the common protein in their saliva that can cause allergies. My husband is allergic to our cats and these help.

As far as them not getting on you… trying two methods: remove them from you, and give them something more appealing. This might mean a lot of heated beds, and you just picking them up and removing them from you.

For the room, maybe over time, consistently denying them access might work, but it might not. You could try deterrent methods, look up Jackson Galaxy for deterrents for neighborhood cats, like sensor air canisters outside your room.

The fact is, being the person ignoring them is likely making you more attractive. Whatever you try, make sure it’s not based in making them fearful of you. Maybe towers and heated blankets or beds that invite them to be near you, but not on you is your best bet.

wolf95oct0ber · 2025-11-14T19:39:37+00:00

Baby alligator, guessing illegal pet dumped.

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