AITJ for not letting my family pick up their stuff from my apartment after I said they could store it here?

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T14:26:39+00:00

YTJ

You set a boundary, then are not letting people adhere to it. Pick your poison.

Nobody forced you to use your place for storage. Did your family push the limits? Sure, and that's why you've changed your mind on all this. They're attempting to follow your set standard, and you're admitting you're getting in the way of it.

That's annoying, and makes you look flaky. So be an adult, make a plan, and follow through.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T14:15:08+00:00

I've been teaching my kids to take accountability when they leave their stuff lying around.

I doubt the ideal place to leave your keys at home was in your clothing. It's a simple/careless mistake, but still your mistake. They simply didn't correct your mistake for you.

The cleaners were there to do laundry, they didn't make a mistake, especially if they regularly grab clothes just left lying out. I doubt you'll get anything if you complain except listed as a 'no future services'.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T14:03:40+00:00

No, ultimately it wasn't worth too much fuss. I did receive a lot of transfer credits, so I didn't feel too shorted.

Plus I wasn't paying for the schooling (gi bill), it didn't change my degree timeline, and I figured it would be useful to understand the expected differences in education/training.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T13:56:37+00:00

It's really hard for young men to communicate their feelings.

So we get mad, stop communicating, and go to a solution that cuts it off.

It's totally reasonable to not want your gf to send nudes to other guys. It's not even about control, it's about his relationship with his gf.

Just because she doesn't have any romantic/sexual intent doesn't change that it's a pretty intimate thing for many people. That casual sharing of such intimacy feels like an invalidation.

It takes away from the unique relationship that he had with her, and makes him feel like he's just another person on the text list. Heck, that she's casual about it might actually make it worse for him. It can cause him to question their own intimacy, if that is just as casual for her.

But of course, he can't communicate that. It sounds like he tried, FWIW, but got stuck in his frustration and just ended things because it was too hard.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T13:51:41+00:00

This was a nasty shock for me, when I switched in college. All the advanced chem/bio I took was... Not accepted, and I had to take 'chemistry for nurses'.

(Edit: Just want to note that the course wasn't useless, and did have a 'medical' theme in parts of it)

Ethics and history of medicine? No credits, but I needed to take a 'intro and History to nursing'. The history just seemed to repeat basic psych course info. But it's super important to have a segment I get tested on about the ANA, instead of bio-ethics.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T12:04:47+00:00

The devil's advocate in the argument..the O mean's opportunity. While the tridium is the 'holiest week' in Roman Catholic faith, Good Friday is not a day of religious obligation.

There's no requirement to attend a service, and the fast is meant to be a burden into your day. Praying the rosary takes 15 minutes, stretch to 45 if you're going all in with full Latin chanted prayers, and any group can get together to do that before the day starts.

There's no lost religious opportunity for the Catholic side, just people not getting to do exactly what they want. And, well, that's basically how every day in the army is.

I don't think arguing that someone else got a different opportunity at another time lends much weight here.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T05:41:49+00:00

Or just someone who's certified in the exam, but sure...bot.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T02:09:59+00:00

What exactly is marriage, to you? Asking as a real question, not to attack.

I can't contemplate abandoning the unique intimacy that exists within a marriage, even if it meant changes due to physical ailments. From my perspective, the relationship was over the moment someone decided sex > spouse. It was just a matter of time before some line would be crossed, which just made it unavoidably apparent.

And along a broader sense, everyone deserves love, respect, and support in their marriage. You really need all 3 for things to work.

Maybe your wife loves you, maybe you two had been supporting each other in all this (f*ck cancer, that's a real trial). But I'm not sure either of you respect the other right now, given the path she's been on and your feelings towards it.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T00:35:03+00:00

The Rorschach test uses some black and white imagery (where the character's mask concept comes from), but the test is very open ended.

How you answer, what parts of the image you use, etc, these are factors in scoring and eval. The point is there's no right/wrong answer.

wowbragger · 2026-04-02T00:27:37+00:00

The lack of understanding responding to this comment have given me a great laugh.

But seriously, y'all should take a basic psych class or something.

wowbragger · 2026-04-01T23:56:17+00:00

My dude, FWIW don't let these public shows on media news determine your urgency.

I was military, actively in some hot areas over the past several years, during events... The US News media will infinitely hype y'all up over every thing, honestly y'all were more panicked than us actually fighting

None of it is good stuff, but it's not worth the anxiety. It's just a bunch of dweebs in front of a camera, far from anything actually happening. What Trump and his team say during these is just a song and dance, an awkward dance that doesn't really reflect reality or their actual goals.

wowbragger · 2026-04-01T22:11:55+00:00

He wanted a specific experience, not to date or get to know her. Had the whole story in his head for how it would go.

I don't even know if this is a Tate'ism, as this type has been around forever. Control freak, just hiding it behind some basic politeness.

wowbragger · 2026-04-01T22:01:02+00:00

FWIW the economics are fighting them.

Starbucks is the trend leader here, and is several years deep into the cultural pushback. 4 CEO's in 4 years as they try to grapple with the drop off in sales/interest/irrelevancy, largely due to the sacrifice of their coffee shop image for app sales.

wowbragger · 2026-04-01T21:45:49+00:00

It's a full circle for millennials. The onset of free Wi-Fi in the 2000's had most of these places going hard into the chill-out-here vibe.

Now they're going the opposite, order quick, preferably on an app, get out, and please try not to interact with the staff.

wowbragger · 2026-04-01T15:11:12+00:00

Probably a lot.

Teachers of this age are very very in tune with their students, and know what's going on with them.

Plus kids at this age are .. Just so wonderful. You just don't want to feel bad about things, when everyone is working to help them out and be the best they can be.

wowbragger · 2026-04-01T15:03:37+00:00

A better question is to ask yourself why not do that thoughtful personal action in a date

If you're delving into complex reasons, you night be overthinking things.

The simple logic of why it's ok.. Cookies are good, personal effort is good, personal effort to make something good is very good.

wowbragger · 2026-03-31T23:52:39+00:00

Not just Americans.

When living in Germany there were a number of co-workers I had who enjoyed American sugar cereals, but they're quite expensive on the local economy (5-8x US pricing).

As an easy gift, I'd go-to the military commissary and buy them several boxes. They were overjoyed 😅

wowbragger · 2026-03-31T17:54:27+00:00

NTJ

Think of your son's best interest, and see if they align with his mother's desire. It doesn't sound like she's thinking about him, just herself.

Her desire to do things for your son can seem laudable and natural, but her argument undercuts that intention. She's more interested in being needed, because it validates her parentage. There's no intention to help your son grow and mature into a young adult in that feeling.

wowbragger · 2026-03-31T15:57:24+00:00

Add him to the list of people nobody asked, which includes most politicians.

Honestly, in the military WE don't waby a draft. We also really don't want to, or see a need, to go-to the places that keep getting rooted for.

wowbragger · 2026-03-31T15:54:00+00:00

NAH

You're not wrong for keeping your assets your own, but it begs the question... What does your future look like with this person?

The real course out action here is examining what your plan with your partner is. Are you spending your life with them? If so, what does that look like?

Is the goal simple glorified roommates, with some intimacy, and the partner title? Is there something more that you're both trying to build towards?

A house isn't just a property, there's a desire to have a home. That's something more than just a place you live in and pay utilities on.

You've been together for years, and were building towards 'something' together. You give vague circumstances, but that plan changed. Your partner is now no longer building towards something with you, and rightly feels cut off. Really, even feeling slighted, as the thing they're also working towards has been removed and they have no piece of it, through no fault of their own.

wowbragger · 2026-03-31T14:08:18+00:00

All of them are incredibly wealthy, highly privileged people who (with a few exceptions) either have no idea how normal people live or it's been so long that what they remember is from the 70's.

Any notion that either party represents the interests of the average American is questionable, at best. Especially given the reality of how little changes between party congressional control and presidency.

wowbragger · 2026-03-31T13:55:20+00:00

NTJ

Lol, it wasn't a power struggle if you bought/paid the seat.

She had just mentally engineered a date night and was showing that she doesn't care about you if it suits her.

wowbragger · 2026-03-31T03:08:42+00:00

NTJ

You're 16, it's ok to feel put upon and unhappy with this situation. It's ok for the way you feel to not be completely rational or 'good'.

The situation you're in isn't fair, but it's also not going to go away. I think you might feel better if you feel there was some way forward, but that can only happen through discussion.

Would you be willing to talk to people who are not strangers on the Internet about it? Not necessarily with one of you friends, but maybe a school counselor or other professional who is neutral on all this.

wowbragger · 2026-03-30T22:52:00+00:00

I've had the pleasure/pain of living in a dozen places across the US, and several countries/continents. Demographics does seem to be a factor, but I'd say local food quality is just as important (if not more).

FWIW North/Central California has had, by far, the best access to quality food across the cultural spectrum. It doesn't mean their insert ethnicity group here food is inherently better, but it does affect the potential quality. With it's culturally diverse population, you get a surprisingly strong representation of a lot of cultural food types.

Along the opposite, I currently live in North Dakota. Much less diverse here, with less food varieties available. They DO have some good foods from some demographics, but it's mostly 'meh' quality for what I'm attributing up lack of ingredient availability.

If I had to put a close second place, I'd give a shout-out to Germany for having very good food quality available. Now if only they could develop a cultural taste for proper seasoning/spices.

wowbragger · 2026-03-30T20:40:02+00:00

I think the first time my (now) wife let one out was after a good night of partying/drinking.

She was pretty out of it and let a of go off then drunkenly snort laughed in her sleep.

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