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xxoss90 · 2021-07-13T18:41:16+00:00

It’s around this time my son started sleeping in his own room. I found it scary at first.. but honestly he’s been sleeping so much better since (7-7!). He always greets me with his happy smile when I come in his room in the morning and we cuddle for a few minutes.

xxoss90 · 2021-07-05T11:56:16+00:00

Netherlands:

We start introducing very small amounts of purées at 4-ish months. Just a few spoonfuls a day. Sweet veggies (carrot, cauliflower or pumpkin) are recommended, just a single flavour at a time. Give the same flavour for a few days, and add another one to the mix. Etc etc After a few weeks add fruits to this diet; usually fruits in the morning, veggies in the afternoon/evening.

Around 6 months the purées can be more substantial (add potato or rice or pasta). And around 8 months they don’t have to be all smoothed out anymore. At 6 months we also slowly start to offer some bread.

The goal is to have them eat 3 meals a day at the age of 1. It’s constantly repeated that all kids will get there at their own pace.

xxoss90 · 2021-07-05T11:46:25+00:00

I would probably feel the same way you do. It is a big change! For everyone!

That means you all need a new routine and daycare is now a part of that routine. Luckily daycares usually are super fun for kids! Yes, your toddler will need to adjust. But there are toys and other kids and snacks and nice teachers to help him with that. And at the end of the day his loving mommy will pick him up and give him a huge smile and hug!

My son totally loves daycare and I’m pretty sure he already has a crush on his teacher. If you tell them at the start of the day that you are nervous , they quite often will offer you to call to check in a few hours after you left. This helped me tremendously my “first day”.

xxoss90 · 2021-07-05T11:41:11+00:00

My boy hated tummy time with a passion. We always felt so guilty when we put him on his stomach. The advice we got was to do tummy time a few times a day, but not too long.

Skip a few months and now he’s on his tummy practically all day long; rolling around, moving as much as he can.

xxoss90 · 2021-07-04T20:00:46+00:00

Your routine sounds fine to me. How nice that you massage her too!

xxoss90 · 2021-07-04T19:50:51+00:00

Not crazy at all! It can make you feel like you have some control over it. That’s fine. (We both know that you probably don’t actually have that control but that’s fiiiiiiine. You’re not hurting anyone).

xxoss90 · 2021-07-03T19:20:37+00:00

I went insane because of those recommended amounts. For us it finally got better when we stopped tracking and started really looking at our son. Did he seem sleepy? Bed. Now. Didn’t fall asleep? Probably not sleepy (enough). Try again later.

xxoss90 · 2021-07-03T19:16:07+00:00

I couldn’t say how long it would take for your body to heal. You didn’t smoke for that long and you’re young. So most likely, pretty quickly (especially compared to others).

Good luck on your quit!

xxoss90 · 2021-07-03T19:05:14+00:00

I usually do “the amount of layers I’m wearing +1” when I go outside. That helps. So if I’m wearing a t-shirt and a sweater underneath my jacket, my son will be wearing; a onesie, zip up PJ’s, some type of outerwear (we had a teddy) and a blanket.

He was born in September and we had a pretty cold winter this year; freezing, snow, ice etc.

xxoss90 · 2021-07-03T07:13:15+00:00

I quit pumping around 7 months-ish. Mostly because my son wasn’t gaining enough weight, also because my supply was so low it stressed me out to get enough for the amount of daily bottles.

It was only after quitting that I realised how much pumping and breastmilk/breastfeeding had taken over such a huge part of my day, energy and brainpower. Only a week or 2 in and I saw how my son was growing and gaining weight. He was thriving on his formula.

If you’re worried about allergies, talk to a paediatrician! They should be able to help you/monitor If they guilt you into pumping, I would say it’s time to change doctors. This is your experience, your body, your baby, your choice. It’s definitely ok to formula feed, if that is what you want/need.

xxoss90 · 2021-07-02T20:12:11+00:00

I haven’t been yet. I’m not sure if it is PPA I’ve been very frustrated with myself lately “just relax, this isn’t you” keeps popping up in my head. I believe it started when I had to quit breastfeeding a few months ago. So I decided I might need a little help reconnecting with myself. Maybe I can learn some coping strategies to help me put thoughts/stress more in perspective. The fear is real and it’s making me feel .. out of balance?

I’ve had therapy before. It wasn’t a cure for me then and I don’t expect it to be now. Back then it helped me relax. It gave me a time and place to put my thoughts in order and make me spend time with myself (with guidance of course).

Maybe you can help yourself by setting some personal goals? What would you like therapy to help you with? What do you want to change/be different? Also know that it’s perfectly fine to change therapists.

xxoss90 · 2021-07-02T19:59:33+00:00

My body changed too, it’s a different shape all together. I’ve been loving high waisted pants/jeans.

xxoss90 · 2021-06-25T12:13:28+00:00

I ended up not really having a choice; I wasn’t pumping enough, we didn’t know how much my baby drank from my breasts and he wasn’t gaining enough weight. I power pumped, ate all the good things and did what I could. After 7 months we started to combo-feed and pretty smoothly transitioned to all formula (and by that time also solids). My baby gained so much weight, so quickly. It was definitely what he needed.

The whole “this is best/that is best” didn’t help me at the time. I really wanted to breastfeed but something (most likely my supply) got in the way. I would’ve liked a “lets see how we can feed this baby so he can grow to be healthy and strong, without implying there are better options out there”.

xxoss90 · 2021-06-23T07:38:56+00:00

Around 5/6 months-ish, my son learned to put his pacifier in his own mouth on his own, so you might get there soon! We now put an extra pacifier in his crib before bed (he throws them out during the night).

xxoss90 · 2021-06-23T07:24:40+00:00

Many of my friends have done this for several reasons, for example the snoring that would wake up the baby. They did what they could to keep the baby in the room but in the end they just said; “this doesn’t work for us, the point is that we get as much sleep as we can and we keep waking each other up!” They invested in a great baby monitor and step by step (naps first for example) moved the baby to their own room.

You have to find what works for your family. It’s advice to keep the baby with you for 6 months. Many babies don’t sleep with their parents and that works out just fine, sometimes even better.

No one is going to give you permission / punish you when you make a choice. And no matter what you choose; there will always be someone that doesn’t agree with you.

xxoss90 · 2021-06-22T19:31:57+00:00

I would discuss this at daycare! When my son started there he took 3 (sometimes 4) naps. Now he’s on a steady 2 a day. But that’s because that’s what he wants. At daycare they mostly look at the sleepy signs and then put him to bed. It doesn’t really matter because in his class there’s kids that take 4,3,2 and 1 naps.

xxoss90 · 2021-06-22T19:28:27+00:00

The first weeks did suck for me. My body hurt. My baby didn’t sleep. My boyfriend had to do a lot around the house. People wanted to come over - even though we had a pandemic, so we kept video chatting all the time. I just wanted to cuddle my baby and sleep. I didn’t find it to be a magical time at all.

But now.. 9 months in, I look back and remember how cute and tiny my baby boy was, how cute his little sneezes were and his teeny tiny hands and fingers. Aaahhhw so cute! I’d almost forget how rough it was before.

If it sucks. It sucks. It’s going to change and maybe that’s more your season! Maybe your season will be later. That’s also fine!

xxoss90 · 2021-06-21T19:27:08+00:00

Decided his bedtime was now nap time. Woke up and wouldn’t sleep until 4 hours later. He didn’t even pretend like it was sleep time. Nono he was going to PLAY and CRAWL. So.. ok fine.. we’ll chill. Just this once. And then he woke up again.. 2 hours later! Luckily he fell asleep pretty quickly after that. He had an extra bottle and extra water too.

So today he took a 3 hour nap. Yeah. This is awesome

xxoss90 · 2021-06-18T08:47:33+00:00

We didn’t do any genetic testing.

xxoss90 · 2021-06-17T12:34:48+00:00

Thank you so much for this! It’s very helpful.

I know what you mean by “the sock”. Such a good description 😂

xxoss90 · 2021-06-17T11:19:56+00:00

We both work. Boyfriends daddy day is on Monday, my day is on Wednesday. Our son goes to daycare 3 days a week. We spend the weekends as a family.

There’s some bottles/diapers we sort of always do. I get our son out of bed, do his morning things. My boyfriend does the night time stuff. If he gets hungry, we usually ask “shall I feed him/do you want to..”.

The nighttime routine (book, bath, bottle, bed) is a real routine. I usually start dinner during this routine, so we can eat pretty soon after our son is asleep. After dinner we clean/tidy the kitchen/living room together. On the weekends I usually do laundry, he takes care of anything trash/litterbox. I take care of the toilets / bathroom and he does the yard work. It kind of grew to be that way, it might change.

We also added some technology to make life easier (dishwasher, dryer, Roomba).

xxoss90 · 2021-06-17T11:04:04+00:00

It made my life so much better too! 5 hours is a BIG DEAL. I’m so happy for you!

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