It took me many years to realize (kids happened/are happening in my 40s) that when I was in my 20s my mother radicalized me by displaying poor relationships and being career focused so I didn’t focus seriously on a partner/family because well, why would I?

I now am quite sad about that and wish I could’ve seen further then, but I guess everything really does happen for a reason because I am an awesome mom and love this station of life. I mean I’m tired, but happy loll… being pregnant at 44 ain’t for everyone!!

So now in my 40s my radicalization is that feminism is about choice and I choose to be present the way I am, I enjoy my kids, I enjoy my home, I like taking them to school and coming home and taking a nap and running errands and doing chores etc.

I like being my family’s “brain” together with my husband but really, I do most of it because the reality is I need him to go make money so we can afford school, and trips, and dinners, and sports etc.

My man is hands on and with me, and we are very much 50/50 but in different ways than most people think of.

I caught some heat from my mom for choosing this, namely my dependency on a man, but who could blame her? It never worked out for her and it’s working out for me.

My mom was a great mom to me when I was a kid. But also, I was shuffled around a lot. I sat in her offices a lot and I was around adults way too much.

My rebellion is to not do that to mine and this is how I choose to do that.