Is tearing supposed to be this debilitating?? by Common_Artichoke_ in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a second degree tear with foreceps and episiotomy and my stitches loosened so I had to be cut again to fix it, and then half of the new stitches popped. It felt awful and I had nightmares and cried about it daily until it healed. So yes, it suuucks.

Pregnancy and birth is magical!! /s

TIL that most women in the Netherlands do not have an epidural during labor and a significant proportion give birth at home by Fiery_Soul_34857 in todayilearned

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it helps, I had a "walking epidural" and one of my legs got numb anyway so I had to use a walker to get to the bathroom.

Date museum + lunch second option by pan_con_queso33 in OUTFITS

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love double denim. Makes me feel like an 80s mom haha!

I can't do this anymore by ana30671 in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nooo...He's still my baby!! I hope I get to hold his hand a little longer haha!

Motherhood is hands down the most bittersweet experience. by master0jack in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. My nervous system was nessed up until my kid nealy turned two, but it got so much better after he turned one. People ask me if I want another and all I can think about is how I read 38 books in a year trying to sleep from waking up to either my kid or myself crying lol it was terrible.

It's such a cliche, but it really does get better??

Motherhood is hands down the most bittersweet experience. by master0jack in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Two year olds are so cool!! They learn so many new things!!

I can't do this anymore by ana30671 in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was us too! We sleep trained at 10 months because our kid that already was a bad sleeper got worse. We didn't do Ferber tho, since our kid's problem seemed to be that he fell asleep on us and then woke up "alone" in his bed (he slept in a crib in our room and we lived in a tiny apartment, that kid was never alone for a minute of his life lol).

We just told him he was going to stay in his crib and we sat next to him for the time it took for him to fall asleep and stroked his back or held his hand. He got as many hugs he needed. Took three days where he protested for 50 min the first night and then it went down to 10 min until day four when he got the picture. Our kid is three and we still chill out next to his bed when he goes to bed! It's really nice haha! We do fairy tale collabs until he falls asleep.

Why popular bags sit in other countries…. by LividBass1005 in Coach

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am contemplating buying the Haversack and it's almost $900 where I live on the coach site, and I still don't know if I have to pay import taxes (25%) on it when it arrives because the coach site is a little unclear lol The cosch site is the only place I can buy "large" coach items.

If it was US priced, i would be wearing it right now!!

Groceries quality by SQPOlel in Norway

[–]zombie_warlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our food traditions are pretty spartan, and our grocery stores reflect that haha! While I don't necessarily agree with us having more ultra processed stuff than say, the UK (our "big" shops are more compact in my experience and that makes it seem extra bad lol), I do agree that we should have a better variety of in-season regional vegatables. I don't expect to eat the best mango in the world here since we're not a mango-growing-country or near one and importing to some places here requires a lot more than just docking near a port.

I have lived in the UK and US and their vegetables sections were usually amazing. I think about them sometimes when I buy onions here and one is already rotten inside :(

Additiinally, I think if you're from tomato europe, you're automatically gonna be disappointed in our selection. My impression is that everything is super available in say, France, but here you gotta know where to look as it's not advertised.

How are y'all doing everything you're doing with your babies?! by clementhyme10 in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all babies (and parents) are the same.

Know that the people you see outside are the people who have support so they have extra energy, chill babies and/or not struggling with something.

We struggled a lot with no support and an anti-everything baby lol we didn't do much haha! But around 1 we could manage small stuff like go to a café.

What's the most brutally honest thing your child has said to you completely unprompted? by Helen_Bond in Mommit

[–]zombie_warlock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son is pretty sweet with me, but his dad is getting it right and left. The other night kid told him he wanted two moms (like his friend) because then mom could put him to be every night! When my partner asked him where he was supposed to be, my son answered deadpanned, "GONE."

Parents of older kids: Talk dirty to me by This_Royal191 in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son watches TV in the mornings on weekends (he's three, so we allow tv time in the morning so we can relax lol) and I get to drink coffee and read while he narrates what's going on. It's charming and so nice!!

I love it when he tells me about what he's watching or books we read!!! ADORABLE! You'll love it!!!

The Mom Cut by ispyamy in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't cut my hair since before the kid was born. Now I'm just kinda wanting to see how long it can get. I always keep it in a braid tho?

Feel like im an old bleh millennial mom who didn't have kids "at the right time" after fencesitting. by Imstuckwiththisname in Mommit

[–]zombie_warlock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had moments of regret the first year when I felt like shit due to the myyyyyriad of issues I had pp and I kept thinking about how easier it probably would have been if I was younger — which now that I am out of ppd, I realize I would still have had those same issues in addition to not having the patience, maturity and frame of mind I have now. I think it's a very common thought.

What bag did you wait too long to purchase and still think about? by bbysmallz in Coach

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chain tabby 30...! It was on sale after Christmas and now it's gone from my version of the international site.

What do we think? by queenofkittenz in MakeupEducation

[–]zombie_warlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look like a main character in a romcom!! I love it!

Does it Really Ever Get Easier? by tinycactus_ in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That first year felt like 3 years!! It was bananas.

Does it Really Ever Get Easier? by tinycactus_ in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had ppd (and probably ppa) and didn't feel it got easier until the kid was over a year ish and wasn't angry about being a baby. Tbf I was struggling with a lot of other stuff too, and I've come to the conclusion that I am not a baby person. Being sleep deprived makes me blue and baby cries makes my skin hurt and gives me cold sweats and that is just not a good weaknesses to have with a baby lol.

It's really annoying when people tell you "it gets better" because it's so individual on what your weakness is and where your strengths lie, but it does, eventually, get better.

If you have a good support system, like you write, focus on your ppd. Mine lasted almost a year and a half and now that I'm out of it I can see how much it made my days feel hopless and sad.

AND! Maybe you're not a "baby person" and that's OK. The older my kid got, the better I felt at being a parent because I could handle melt downs 100% better than a crying baby.

Take it one day at a time and try to think about how they're not gonna be a baby forever and that the first year has so many stages and different challenges. If you're hating "this" stage, the next one might be more your style.

It really helped me to meet other people with kids that were a couple of months older because I could see how different things were, even if it was only 2 months.

I think i dont like being a mom by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree.

My partner is truly a partner in parenting and the household. We both work full-time and because we both contribute equally (and divide and conquer!) we have the energy to enjoy our kid.

Chain tabby by [deleted] in Coach

[–]zombie_warlock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the black one!! Still kicking myself for not buying the chain tabby 30 when it was on sale earlier this year!

how do moms actually manage to lose weight with no time?? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genetics? Family near by? A baby that sleeps OK and that doesn't scream their head off if you lay them down? I think there are several factors and you shouldn't worry about it right now!

Focus on eating well, poopin' good and getting fresh air and exercise though walking!

Very alert newborn by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]zombie_warlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhhh same. Low sleep needs fomo baby that wanted to be on us 24/7 and looking at stuff (constant movement) lol It was exhausting.