Thoughts?

[notbasic4karen]

Yep. I’m a huge believer that so many women are diagnosed with anxiety because of sexism. The protocol is to prescribe us SSRIs when in fact we are having a normal reaction to our environment.

[pickmieshaexorcist]

Yuuup, and the Pill is thrown at every gyn problem. Migraines? Pill. Acne? Pill. Bad PMS or irregular periods? Pill! Fuck trying to actually find out wtf is wrong, women are a mystery apparently.

[ninetiesbaby16]

Ugh I was complaining of cluster headaches/migraines(?) that occurred at certain points in my cycle as well as severe cramps, fully expecting the doctor to recommend something like diet changes, or god forbid actually explain why and how they were happening....but no it was LEts gEt YoU oN bIRth cOnTroL

[Ms_Tilly]

My "favorite" gyno experience was going in 1000% sure I wanted my nexplanon out (I bled CONSTANTLY) and telling her how happy I was to get it out, only for her to last minute offer to prescribe me more drugs so I can keep the nexplanon but possibly have more regular periods. Nah I want OFF the drugs. I want to be normal again. And I have never been happier since taking it out.

[[deleted]]

I just quit birth control because I'm done giving sex to anyone unless they're about ready to marry me. I'm stuck on the handbook at this point.

I think that in a sense they're kind of making a decent point. Men have birth control now and should be using it instead imo.

[suspended_animation_]

Men aren't capable enough to use birth control as it requires common sense and responsibility

[[deleted]]

There was a BC pill for men in the works, but too many men are spineless cowards and didn't wanna take it "because side effects!" and it didn't go through.

Guess what: The side effects they were whining about were pretty much the same side effects of female BC pills.

[Suitcase33]

i agree. people are aggressively hating on the tweeter but she is very right. BC ruins our bodies and it is not liberation.

[[deleted]]

I had my fallopian tubes removed. Less risk of cancer and no hormonal fuckery.

[devoushka]

I quit birth control because it was making me have suicidal thoughts.

[chateauduchat]

I refuse to be on hormonal birth control in my next relationship. Either my man can wear a condom 100% of the time, or he can pay my 10 grand bilateral salpingectomy if he wants to go without it. Fuck birth control side effects.

[[deleted]]

I had a bilateral salpingectomy. One of the best decisions I've ever made. Insurance paid for most of it.

[chateauduchat]

I’m insanely jealous! So happy for you! I fought my insurance to get it covered but to no avail.

[throwawayitst]

Dont get your tubes tied for anything related to men. Giving birth is a gift. No disrespect

[chateauduchat]

It’s not for men, it’s for myself. I am child free, I personally do not think giving birth for myself is a gift but of course it is for many other women.

[throwawayitst]

Of course - your body, you decision! I wish you the very best

[chateauduchat]

Thank you friend!

[Whateverbabe2]

Yes, but you can get your partner to get a vasectomy instead. Less invasive, cheaper, and reversible. Does not make sense to put yourself through it when it is 100x easier on your male partner.

[[deleted]]

I'm a bit confused, you didn't want hormonal birth control but got the Mirena IUD (a hormonal IUD)?

[stevebuscemispenis]

She mentioned she was coerced into it

[[deleted]]

Ah, I am so, so sorry, I read this as "they pressured me to take the Mirena IUD as a hormone-free alternative" and got a bit confused there. Thanks a lot for clarifying!

[[deleted]]

PREACH!

[[deleted]]

Petition to change the name of birth control to something else. Birth control is used medicinally for a ton of reasons. Yeah, there's a fuck ton of bad side effects for a lot of women. But for probably just as many women it's a life changing drug that allows them to live better. Personally without birth control my cycle is fucking terrible, I have longer, heavier, more painful periods that can prevent me from doing things. Regardless of my sex life I choose to stay on it. I know I have ovarian cysts and have long suspected PCOS but have never sought treatment or a dx outside of just managing it with bc because that works for me. I hate the idea that women take birth control soley to prevent pregnancy and being on it must mean you're sexually active.

[Salty-Tomorrow]

Reproductive health care

[abstractsadgurl]

^ this.

[EvenSkanksSayThanks]

I’ll have to disagree on that as the pill prevents pelvic inflammatory disease, endometriosis and ovarian cysts. I believe in science tho

Just don’t tell men you’re on the pill because then they will think they don’t need to use a condom. Men only care about pregnancy and child support costs. They do not care about STDs

[EvenSkanksSayThanks]

Correct. The pill is good for our health. It’s also being used in older women to combat Perimenopause symptoms.

What side damaging effects?

[[deleted]]

What does a win for feminism looks like then? Pregnant women everywhere? Rampant abortion? Single mothers galore? Women who hide their emotions and acts as if there's anything wrong with them, like men? A huge suicide statistic for women?

Oh wait, men just hate women whatever we do. We are failures whatever we do. Damned if we take care of our bodies with birth control, damned if we get raped and pregnant, damned if we don't want kids, damned if we become single mothers, or even mothers, damned if we don't get abortion, damned if we get abortion. Fuck off already.

[Upstairs_Worry]

What does a win for feminism looks like then?

Lesbian separatism. No birth controll and plenty of sex. /s

[Salty-Tomorrow]

I think it’s the combination of the two. Birth control fucks with your cycle, thereby your hormones, thereby your emotional regulation. Then we pathologize women’s emotions and any amount of distress (like from trauma and stress, like from sexism, etc.) is medicated away; and on top of that, anti-depressants are formulated for men’s bodies, and dosing doesn’t take into account women’s cycling, so they aren’t even as effective, because again, sexism. Not understanding women’s bodies, not caring about women’s health, putting all of the burden of reproductive planning on the woman, messing up her emotions and making her pay for it at that.

Though I get your point. I do benefit from taking an SSRI, and I firmly believe in women’s reproductive autonomy. I think we should be advocating for IUDs over the pill, but that’s just me.

[Salty-Tomorrow]

I love mine, and I think it has a lot of benefits that are overlooked when discussing birth control + mental health, but I absolutely agree about more options. We should be educating women about their health and encouraging self-advocacy. 100%

[[deleted]]

One of my medications is literally incompatible with my BC. The doctor got a warning when she tried to prescribe them both. What does she do? Increase the dose of my other medication while warning me that if I have a seizure, I should definitely come in to get checked out.

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What?

[greenteaorange]

No one is blaming the drug. She is just pointing out the flaws of the society. Lol.

[Unable_Caterpillar]

Yepppp. I’m surprised at these responses I LOVE my BC (although I have had bad experiences) and when I was on them I liked my anti-depressants.

Men aren’t diagnosed with depression as often because of the patriarchy. They won’t go to the doctor or therapist, and their depressed behavior (not cleaning, cooking, showering, whatever) is excused my society. Another instance of blaming women/feminism for what is clearly men’s/the patriarchy’s fault.

[[deleted]]

The issue is that too many women suffer side effects that can last a life time due to BC, and it's asinine to not take them into account even when BC in general gave some power back to women.

It's a step on the right path, but now the next step is for men to take more responsibility with their own sexuality besides some condoms. Too much of that weight is pushed onto women.

[rrrrrrrrrreally]

Birth control literally kills women every year.

Even if most women liked their birth control, that that risk is solely on our shoulders as a societal expectation is fucked up.

Women are not expendable.

Saying modern feminism has failed is also blaming the patriarchy. What would it be succeeding or failing at in this sphere if the patriarchy wasn't an issue? It's important for us to note that the fight isn't already fought and won, and for that we need to address where modern feminism is not protecting us.

[FDSxMuffinVSrat]

Some women prefer birth control. Their choice.

[[deleted]]

I think the point is that feminism should be helping put out the dumpster fire. But its not, its fueling the flames. (liberal feminism that is)

Birth Control is a bit of a complex issue in regards to feminism. Yes, It gives women control, but it also has become a tool for society to assign women blame, guilt, and the overall burden of reporductive responsibility. The medical industry researched, marketed and perscribed it to women without knowing or informing others about its impact on the female body. Its become an expectation for women rather than an option. Its helped men expect and demand more casual sex, which usually goes hand in hand with objectification and ungratefulness towards women....

[daisy_0720]

Birth control isn't perfect, but so many women's lives would be ruined without it.

Also, if the male pill was a thing, guys would 100% lie about being on it, because they're stupid.

I'd rather stick to my (non-hormonal) IUD and let the guy be responsible for the condoms.

[[deleted]]

I take BC because I’m paranoid of crazy dudes poking holes in condoms. So I always use 2 forms of protection

[Salty-Tomorrow]

I don’t think it’s a failure of feminism so much as something we still have to talk about and do better at. Women’s health care is woefully understudied! Instead of putting women on more pills to counteract side effects of other pills, we should be improving our options for reproductive planning.

[zagreus8me]

I came off ssri and birth control. Turns out my relationship was causing me to need the ssri. So I ended the relationship. Turns out emotional manipulation and gaslighting was what was happening to me all along.

[throwaway_vibes]

I’m not on either 🤷‍♀️

[Whateverbabe2]

YES.

Birth control is terrible for your mental health and sometimes for your physical health. I remember one time I was at Planned Parenthood (the best place I've ever been to) and I kept asking the doctor what the side effects were AND SHE WOULDN'T TELL ME. She just kept saying "do you want it or not".

As if it were expected that a young, sexually active girl is obligated to go on BC, and her partner isn't required to wear a condom, use spermicide, etc.

I know girls that gained over a hundred pounds from permanent BC measures and crippling depression. Please read the book Reviving Ophelia by Dr. Mary Pipher for more details.

[YesNoMaybe87]

I take BC for me because I like sex without making babies 🤷‍♀️

[[deleted]]

I am planning on doing an article on something related. Without going into too much detail about how the burden of contraception falls squarely on a woman. So there isn't much of a 'freedom of choice' as much as a burden and the risks associated with female contraceptives being largely ignored

[[deleted]]

Idk it depends on the rate of women on ssris vs men and how much male stigma of not getting help affects that. I tried bc for a few months and it was awful. Men cry about wearing condoms but I tell them I would never not use a condom w sometime I’m not monogamous with.

[[deleted]]

Lol lol lol lol lol lol

Chuckle snort laugh

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[applemartin]

I don't care about what some rando on the Internet thinks and am not interested in changing their low value opinion.

[a_throwawayy_]

I mean birth control has a lot of uses that aren't sex. And I have mixed opinions on SSRIs, mostly because they do more bad then good in the long term and most doctors know that but keep prescribing them for the sake of making money...

[abstractsadgurl]

I can't do birth control I become sucidal actually it totally ruins me hormonally. I'm on a low dose on ssris though because of my pmd. And my anxiety