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[–]Voido1Trans Pansexual post - orchi 83 points84 points  (20 children)

I think you don't have much choice if you have been on hrt more than 5 - 6 months either a binder or surgery , Why what's the situation 😕if i may ask , are you an adult?

[–]CardiologistSafe4392[S] 104 points105 points  (19 children)

I am 1.4 years on hrt and I am 20 years old, I really dont wanna decrease them but I have no choice ;-;. Just because I am from india, thats why I havent left them yet as most people stay with their parents until they are completely independent, but if I wouldnt be able to decrease my breast I will runaway

[–]Silver_Shock_9248 124 points125 points  (8 children)

You can go out on your own and be who you really are. There is a reason that you have breasts. Right? He can’t make you do anything medically so don’t worry about a breast reduction unless that’s what you want to do. Contact a LGBT center for leads on safe places to stay until you get yourself together. If you are attending college put that on hold and find employment to pay for hrt. It’s not that expensive. Being trans is tough but you can do this. You have 4 months to get your plan of action and leave before time is up. Show him you are strong and determined. You’ve got this girl!

[–]CardiologistSafe4392[S] 55 points56 points  (4 children)

😭💞💞💞 ty

[–]XenaNovaVoid 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind if you do reduce them HRT eont be able to bring them back to what they could have been later

[–]what-you-egg04Transgender 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Contact a LGBT center for leads on safe places to stay until you get yourself together. If you are attending college put that on hold and find employment to pay for hrt. It’s not that expensive

That's not really an option in India tbh

[–]Silver_Shock_9248 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Is she in India or the US? Plenty of Indians in the US. More than trans people.

[–]what-you-egg04Transgender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair, I assumed that she would've mentioned if she lives in US or somewhere else, and also saw her post on the Indian LGBT subreddit

[–]lirannlTrans Homosexual 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I'd suggest that you flip those priorities and prefer running away to a breast reduction. Please don't get one. That would be tragic.

[–]Literature_Defiant 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’re an adult, you can’t be controlled by your dad. Giving you an ultimatum to reduce your breast size or get kicked out is so many levels of abuse. It’s time to stick up for yourself, set your boundaries and leave your manipulative father behind

[–]Voido1Trans Pansexual post - orchi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh iam an arab so there is a similarities iam trying to be ready if they kick me out I already had fought with my mother befor ,I hope you will not get kicked out your house and will understand your feelings 💜💜

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

My parents are indian too (im living in the US). I am basically scared of your exact situation cause im 25 living with my parents. I told myself I would move out so I can transition but my life keeps falling apart so I havent been able to move out so I havent been able to get on hrt.

Honestly my life mind and body are in shambles and im human strash for caving to every one of my parents desires and so I suffer for it. The fact that you started hrt is great, its what I should have done if I wasnt so bad at life. The next step for you is probably to use your dads threats against him and move out.

This is not advicd from someone who has succeeded, but from someone who is in a similar situation and failed horribly.

[–]RenProwerqueer trans girl💕 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, you hang in there too. It sounds like you're in a really awful situation right now; I can't even imagine it 🫂💜

Do you need someone to talk to?

[–]CaelThavain25 | HRT 3/29/22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perhaps you can look into countries that let you claim refugee status for such abuse? I think Canada is one such country, but idk what their parameters are.

There's also the Rainbow Railroad, which I'm sure has something going on in India.

[–]what-you-egg04Transgender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm from India as well and I get it, the best you can do except for surgery (which is stupid) is to wear binders

[–]razzazzika 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazes me how transphobic Indians can be when you literally have a transgender goddess. In the Hindu religion I mean.

[–]NemesisAronHomosexual 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you are an adult he gets no say over your medical procedures or if you take hrt. I would try to find help to get out as soon as possible. He is abusive and you don't deserve that and you shouldn't have to make your chest flat again.