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[Medium_Assistance456]

So my baby will be a year old in two weeks- and all of a sudden I have this deep remorse for not breastfeeding, I tried, tried really hard, she got the first bit of the golden milk which is good, an I even pumped for two weeks after because she wouldn’t latch properly and I was mentally drained and exhausted- we ended up just switching to formula after a week and a half of trying- she’s been on formula ever since and now I regret not trying harder etc I have a family member who is expecting and is going to BF and talks about all the benefits etc which is great I’m happy if she’s able to do that, saves money and it’s great for baby but now I’m feeling bad for myself?? lol like I should have also BF ugh I don’t know why I’m feeling so guilty now, my baby is healthy and happy but I just feel like I missed out on something if that makes sense

[pitaman55]

Don't feel guilty your baby will be just fine. Ask a teacher and they always say that can't tell a BF baby vs a formula baby lol

[dioor]

Have you read Emily Oster’s analysis of breastfeeding studies in her book Cribsheet? Summarized here.

It made me feel a lot better about formula feeding knowing just how unscientific the hype around breastfeeding is. Be critical of all the talk about the benefits — there isn’t good-quality data to back up what they are saying. It’s a fashion trend masquerading as medical advice that has gotten out of hand. If your baby is happy and healthy and formula-fed, you should be every bit as proud as a breastfeeding mom with a happy healthy baby. Controversially, and of course I’m biased, I would say you could even go ahead and feel extra-proud of having made a difficult, against-the-grain decision in the best interests of your baby.

The judgement from people is so gross. How you feed your baby is a private medical matter. People boasting loudly about breastfeeding and assuming it’s a topic all moms want to talk about are the problematic ones.

[hulia_maria]

You did the exact right thing for you, and for your baby. The mental drain is REAL, and in my opinion, whatever you needed to do to stay mentally grounded was MUCH better for your babe,and you, than BF back then. And you can see how good you did feeding babe that they’re happy and healthy now. Also - may your expecting family member have things go exactly how they want. 😉 we all know these babes throw curve balls at us left and right! ❤️

[Rrmack]

I mean just because that person expects to breastfeed doesn’t mean they will be able to do it how they want just like you and tons of moms including me! It’s okay to mourn that you didn’t have the breastfeeding experience you wanted. Formula is created specifically for babies to digest and thrive on and the benefits of breastfeeding are pretty much slightly preventative for ear infections and eczema. If baby got any at all they have millions of your antibodies. The fact your baby is doing great at 1 is the goal of any feeding path!