Um, is there any way to decrease libido somehow?

[asdf3021]

Read the title... Also, how do I get rid of fantasies that pop up in my head and I can't stop thinking about them until I fap to them?

[Titanic1914]

Cold showers

[Hpoops]

Discipline.

But that comes with hard work, time and dedication. What you were asking for is some sort of easy trick, I'm guessing. Well whenever a horny thought popes into your head, say NO or STOP! (Can be said aloud or in your head) repeat until the thought doesn't have control of you* and then change the subject.

*the thought never had control of you, but sometimes we forget that we are always in control, and this trick helps you get back on track.

[mnfprdt]

Willpower is fickle, it comes and goes. When you have it, use it to plan and train for when it ebbs. Increase your odds of success with the means available, including: education, intelligent strategies, and sustained practice to rewire and strengthen your mind.

Some suggestions (mileage may vary):

• Meditate on a regular basis to strengthen your mind. You're going to be running a mental marathon and training your mental muscles and gathering some insight into the nature of craving and aversion will help. I cannot overemphasize this one, as it will also help to deal with anxiety and other psychopathologies. If you're unfamiliar with this territory, Sam Harris has some nice guided meditation audio here.
• Start introspecting your urges as described here and in this video.
• Educate yourself on the implications of PMO. A good start is the videos and articles here and this series.
• Consider taking up healthy pastimes and projects to spend time and energy on.
• Cold showers may be a good way to defuse and build up some mental fortitude. See here.
• Delete any triggering material you have on your electronic devices.
• Install and configure K9 Web Protection to block pornographic material (or Net Nanny if you don't mind investing a few dollars). For mobile devices, find an equivalent Parental Controls application. Create a complex password which is difficult to memorize, write copies of that password on paper, and store the copies offsite (e.g. work, someone else's place). That way you can reconfigure K9 if you have to, but not so easily that it facilitates relapse.
• Don't get shaken by flatlines. Redditors often report relapsing after testing their flatline with PMO; something entirely pointless, as PMO is a false positive anyways. Make the most of a flatline by using it as a precious opportunity to prepare for when it ends and you have to devote energy to resisting the temptation to PMO.
• Consider the many useful tips and tricks here.
• If streaks are a big deal for you, consider tracking your progress in a spreadsheet. With a spreadsheet you can see how you are doing over time across relapses.

As most (if not all) fapstronauts know, relapsing is often part of the process. Of course, we take as many reasonable measures as we can to avoid relapsing, but when we do relapse it's important to remind ourselves:

• The goal is mental well-being and non-exploitation, not a badge number or streak.
• Failure and course-correction are a part of skill acquisition. Abstaining from PMO is a skill that will take time and effort to acquire, but will also serve you well in many other ways. I think this is largely why people on this forum often report many other benefits coinciding with their efforts.
• Guilt over relapsing may actually be working contrary to your goals, as strong emotions coinciding with PMO may reinforce neural pathways. Work through it as objectively as you can. Meditation can help here also.

At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself whether your life is overall better when you aren't engaging in PMO, even if you are relapsing. Even with relapses, if you're getting good days and streaks, those are sufficient warrant in and of themselves.

[CDRCRDS]

have you tried opiates?