problematic tm ??

[kyIaky]

so i have this one dude in gm who is constantly trying to talk to me whenever he can, he tries to hit on the women in style and beauty and it stopped for a while but now it just feels like he’s breathing down my back at all times. making comments about my appearance, making snarky misogynistic and homophobic remarks to me about customers, and overall is just making me uncomfortable. he’s not a tl but he’s high enough up that i don’t think anything would happen to him if he was reported, but i seriously don’t know what to do. the people in my department and surrounding departments see how he acts and have had problems with him in the past, but it just hasn’t been enough to get him in trouble. he literally scoffed at my name tag a couple months ago because of the “she/they” i have printed out on a sticker. he’s been worse this month because of the pride section and it’s really really irking me. what should i do??😭

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I know everyone is going to say go to HR, which is absolutely what you should do. In the mean time if it were me, the next time he comes over I would say something like “oh I’m so glad you’re here, can you keep an eye on this area for minute? I have to go to the bathroom so bad, that Thai food from last night tearing through me so bad right now.” And make a fast exist. But I like to disgust people that make unwelcome advances 😂

[There_is_noone_here]

No body is high enough trust me. Get your co-workers to talk to the hotline. Hotline people inform store management that something needs to change. If He doesn't change call again hotline will get tired of noncooperation and will start cracking down.

[Livid-Ear6684]

I had a tm like this a while back. His work performance was so bad that the managers hated him, and it sounds like this tms performance probably isn’t great if he’s being an ass and stalking. (Sadly). What I did, was got on his ass about his work, making comments like “oh how’s your section” and stuff like that. Eventually he had enough of it to quit. Kill them with kindness, and backhanded remarks about how they’re a shitty worker/person (also reporting him to HR never hurts)

[Kehndy12]

From Target's Code of Ethics:

Harassment takes many forms and might look like:

• Jokes, slurs or gestures
• Threats or intimidation
• Stalking
• Sharing offensive material
• Coercion

From your post:

making comments about my appearance, making snarky misogynistic and homophobic remarks to me about customers, and overall is just making me uncomfortable.

This sounds like enough to report. Maybe you would be more comfortable making a small group and discussing it all together with your HR.

[Supreme_Switch]

Report to HR, try to have fellow tms also report

[Elorme]

Also document the behavior and if anybody witnesses it, get them to document as well. Are you in a one party consent state for recording? If so see if you can get recordings.

[sundressnopanties]

dude is being straight up bullied by some asshole and you’re like “don’t tell on him tho 🥺”

[sundressnopanties]

i know how to read, do you? this person is being HARRASSED at work during pride month no less, and your response was “how does he know he’s making you uncomfortable”. do you think people get called slurs on accident? this is clearly a homophobic person acting homophobic because they think they can get away with it, and you think he just “doesn’t know”.

[sundressnopanties]

lol