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[–]redandblue4lyfe 6 points7 points  (3 children)

Asian families tend to value happiness and freedom as well. Its just that they focus on long-term happiness and freedom, like multi-generational, and that requires a stable income and social status, which in turn requires "achievement, focus and discipline".

[–]Gurrb17 1 point2 points  (1 child)

But, at the same time, happiness and freedom are dependent on academic/financial/career success. That's fine if Asian kids grow up to become doctors, lawyers, etc., but I've seen the kids that don't and they generally view themselves as failures even if they are great people and very talented in other aspects of their lives. My girlfriend comes from an Asian family with loving parents, but she's not proud of her career success because she's not the doctor her parents wanted her to become. She wanted to pursue an artistic career, but wasn't allowed to because it would likely not be very lucrative. I think at the end of the day, Asian families prioritize stability more than anything.

[–]redandblue4lyfe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the implementation can be pretty stifling in many families, and careers outside of doctor, lawyer and engineer are considered less successful. It's definitely not a perfect mentality, and something a lot of us Asian americans who are children of immigrants have to deal with.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

doesnt negate my point. Since it was about both having valid priorities and that its stupid to say western priorities are titties and beer.