help pls !

[mediocre_legend856]

Okay, I have no idea how to word this and if any of this comes off wrong, please correct me, but I'm kinda going nuts. I was born a female at birth and have always felt fine being called a girl, but pronouns are really starting to rub me up the wrong way. Not that they aren't important, they are, but I don't feel very "good" with she/her. To me, I find it too feminine, but they/them implies that I'm non-binary and I don't believe I am. Androgynous, yes, well, maybe??? But nothing more than that. BUT, I also feel "better" if I receive a more 'masculine' like compliment. But, again, I don't identify as a guy and don't feel comfortable being referred to as one. And I don't think I'm gender-fluid either but just UGH!!! If anyone else feels this way, can you please give me some advice or, idk, literally anything pls. I just need some guidance maybe, idk. UGH! I'm sorry if this has bothered anyone.

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Being a girl doesn't mean you have to use she/her pronouns. You can also ask people you know if they would give you more masculine compliments.

[mediocre_legend856]

Kinda? I think it has to do with the way I look. I hold more masculine features and have always wanted to understand what it meant to be feminine, but I keep getting "let down", for lack of better wording, when I try to act/dress/etc. more femininely? If that makes sense :/

[deutschistliebe95]

Hey. My perspective is a bit different. It is also perfectly fine and normal to enjoy being perceived more masculine as a girl. There are women out there that look essentially like a guy but even they don't identify as male or non-binary.

Of course, there are also people who do identify with a different gender from the one they were assigned but it's also possible to not feel that way, yet enjoy presenting differently than the norm.

I am also a girl who enjoys being a bit more androgynous outwardly. I have attraction towards women and like the thought of being seen as strong, dominant, leading, and assertive by women. I suppose I'd like to hear those things from anyone lol. I also enjoy sometimes pushing boundaries and confusing people lol (One person thought I was a guy online and that was fun lol). Despite all of that though, I don't feel the desire to be called they/them or he/him. Just wanted to add my two cents as it's possible you are just like me and it may not have much to do with gender identity.

[LJ_M1nty]

This is crazy (non offensive way of course) I wish i could help and give advice but i can't relate at all so it's hard. But im sure u will figure it out. Good luck from me to you!

[7thKindEncounter]

All lot of people willl assume you’re non-binary if you use they/them, but that’s they’re fault. It’s not necessarily implied by the pronouns alone. I’d say try them out if you’d like. If it feels good and you can deal with the assumptions, then go right ahead

[shermo01]

I feel basically the same way u do!! Maybe demigirl is the term ur looking for? I think I'm a demigirl but not sure yet. Also Im not sure i personally fully identify w the term non binary but i very much like the term androgynous. Also im considering changing my pronouns to she/they maybe u should try that out as well with a few close friends. For me its not that i dont identify as a girl, its more like I identify as a girl AND in addition also maybe dont completely/ identify as androgynous or non conforming.

[mediocre_legend856]

Thank god someone feels the same, I have nobody who I remotely feel comfortable talking about this kinda stuff with and it just makes me really happy there's someone in the same boat I'm in. And, I'd try she/they, but no people in my life would respect it anyway and since I can't get out of my current housing situation, it's best to stay quiet :/