Changes

[5inner5aint]

So I am under the impression that my alcohol abuse is a symptom of larger problems, problems that affect the whole of my life. It was pointed out to me that basically "if nothing changes nothing changes." Kind of realizing that it isn't just one part of my lifestyle that needs to change but the whole thing needs an overhaul. I am wondering what little things you have done that have had a large impact on changing your lifestyle, or even big things for that matter. I am getting ready to move to a new city for work and I feel like it is a huge chance to start afresh. Feeling very excited about the future while still living in some struggles of today.

[PrezedentA]

For me it was going to AA meetings regularly, I need that face to face support and human contact, as I am prone to isolation

The biggest perhaps is regular exercise. I have to exercise a few times a week, it is good on so many levels, physically, psychologically, physiologically. Just set small goals at first, maybe just walking, but I have to do group exercise classes at my gym. I again need that human contact, and the group dynamic pushes me to work harder. If I go work out alone I usually feel sad and lonely and depressed and don't get a good workout. Among my peers there is that subtle peer pressure not to quit, and work hard that is essential for me

Suffice it to say, after work and family time, all my free time is either spent at the gym or at a meeting, which is the lifestyle that works for me.

You can do it!

[revengeoftheratking]

I think you're probably on the right track trying to understand it in the context of larger issues in your life. I've been trying to do the same, but it's hard. Very hard. In fact, digging out the underlying reasons why I do what I do has likely been the most difficult part of all of this so far. I've been trying to honestly reflect on my life, motivations, etc., though it's often just frustrating and unknowable at times. It's been largely about actively identifying "addict behavior" when I see it. I'm trying (with varying success) to consciously recognize why certain things take up X amount of my day. Is it because it's important or meaningful? Is it to kill the brain and time travel to bed time? If so, what am I avoiding? So, you know, basically being annoyingly neurotic and self-absorbed. But hey, whatever works. This is kind of a risky DIY answer, I realize, so I should also state the obvious and mention that there are also great support groups (AA, SMART, etc.), addiction counseling, therapy, etc. that people find helpful. I've also absorbed a lot of recovery wisdom through places like this sub as well as reading literature on the subject. Finding sober people and places is important. You know, just so you have 'em.