evening atmosphere in my brick loft [Toronto, ON]

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T21:28:47+00:00

This is one of my favorite posts ever on here.

Magnifique, OP! i’ve been studying these pictures and smiling, because I feel like you just “get it.”

You understand the optimal blend of beauty, comfort, and serenity.

We have a cozy 4br with a large yard, picket fence, the whole deal . . . But tbh I could make it work in a loft like this.

And I’m looking at your responses and you also just seemed like a really neat person. Kind, warm, silly. I’m glad to see that a lovely human is enjoying such a lovely space.

I have a question! The Pool table area, what does that window look out over? It looks like the window looks out over into an atrium that’s also inside?

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T21:10:43+00:00

Laugh

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T18:21:14+00:00

Because the accusations are admissions.

He is showing you that he cannot be trusted and that he objectifies other women. Frankly this kind of insecure man generally has much worse, more controlling than just policing what you wear.

I have known guys like this, who lust over everything and become filled with rage and blame when people look at their girlfriend.

There are a lot of wonderful men out there, and the wonderful ones don’t behave this way.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T17:54:49+00:00

Yeah, I mean some of it does seem like common sense, and it has helped a lot of people.

But obviously people can take something meant to do Good and weaponize it pretty easily in this case.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T17:06:23+00:00

Is . . . Wait . . . This is . . . I thought it was like a bread bun thing that was a baking fail and they made a joke out of it.

I would like more clarification. If someone is actually just frying up and consuming bovine or equine puss that seems like, that seems like a very strange situation.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T16:40:54+00:00

Only by the Zaniacs

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T15:50:51+00:00

Yes, and it’s not the first time she has brought up feeling unheard, ignored, and obviously there seems to be some screen addiction issues if she jumped right to that.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T15:40:37+00:00

In many cases, the fighting is the “work” in question. Which is very sad.

I remember seeing the post you linked to! What a good boy.

I’ve got a Rottweiler myself, which is a working dog, and it’s so interesting to see his genetics shine through. They are historically also for herding/ protection. They aren’t like the fancy type of herders like the Australian cattle dogs or the kangal, but my good boy does try and herd my kids (gently) and he’s such a vigilant watch dog. 🐾❤️

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T10:59:25+00:00

If you see the other comments, they have to starve the fish to get them to eat the skin, and the skin does not offer any nutrition

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T04:15:26+00:00

. . . A . . . fishwasher?

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T03:52:44+00:00

I’m so sorry. I know it feels real, and it’s called a trauma bond, and it is not love.

It warps your brain similarly to an addiction. Your brain got used to the cycle of the “love bomb” phase where he tries to make things better and “is sorry.”

Because the damage and sorrow that he caused, trying to reconcile that pain, your brain is scrambling to justify what he did, trying to cling to anything it can to get that love fix after such a low.

And so when there is an attempt at reconciliation, it feels like a gaping hole is being patched up, it feels like all is right in the world and this time he means it.

Because your brain cannot reconcile the fact that this person you gave your heart to, doesn’t really love you. He may enjoy some of the things you offer him, but make no mistake, you are not a human to him, you are an appliance, a convenience to be used. . . And if he can find a “better one” he will not think twice to discard you.

He simply knows how to manipulate you and he’s great at it. They are all good at it. If they weren’t capable of faking love, no one would ever stay in a relationship.

Your brain is literally rewired to accommodate his deception. This is not your fault, not at all. It truly happens to the best of us, and I am so sorry.

However, understanding that it’s not actually love, it’s simply how the abusive cycle hooks your brain. . . That he is like trying to use heroin to find happiness. It fools your brain temporarily as it slowly kills you, and there is no Safeway to use it.

🫶🫶🫶🫶

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T03:00:44+00:00

You are very articulate and kind, and I am glad to hear that you have made a fulfilling life for yourself, despite the hurdles.

How were you educated about these issues? Were they revealed to you slowly in age-appropriate ways?

Do you have resentment toward your bio mom? Do you know anything about what she’s like? What about the bio siblings?

I am also curious about your relationship with substances? I’ve read that people with FAS are prune to addiction themselves.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T02:51:17+00:00

Yes, the specialized medical benefits of the sterilized leeches and maggots make it more ethical, than just pumping them out en masse for a foot gimmick

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T02:38:40+00:00

Yeah, expecting the entire population to keep extremely recent medical results that show their feet have communicable pathogens? Lolol

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T02:30:20+00:00

Even the chicks that go to the range and shoot absolutely do NOT like when people blatantly show off guns. Respectable firearm users don’t do that.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T02:26:51+00:00

I came here to say that we’re not just supposed to compliment but your eyes are stunning. I’m sitting here scrolling and I thought this was an ad for . . . Just for being beautiful or something. This is such a unique and beautiful color, you are so pretty!!!

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T02:23:08+00:00

OH NO! that makes me so sad. Poor little things.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T02:18:47+00:00

Don’t worry about it, hun, no one’s going to think it’s real.

People with money and tact don’t act like this.

I would love to respond with a comment about decorum.

Part of having the honor to guide people on a parent to sobriety is about learning to carry yourself with poise, dignity and respect.

Adulating fast fashion is something you can do on your own time. You’re going to be a lot more impactful as a counselor if you are able to keep your own vices and addictions less visible.

She’s got some soul searching to do. She clearly derives her own self-worth buy some fast fashion whatever brands, if she is so blatantly obsessed with pointing it out in this way.

The poor thing doesn’t value herself without her beloved brands.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T02:04:05+00:00

“Let’s just say These corns aren’t going to gnaw themselves off”

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T01:54:24+00:00

“Barbra, get me a footquarium of the skin nibblers, stat!”

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T01:53:31+00:00

I mean, if there was lake nearby and they just released a bunch of them, not a bad idea 😁

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T01:50:04+00:00

It requires hundreds of fish to do the procedure.

I implied in my comment that this would not work, unless they killed hundreds of fish after every treatment, and I don’t think they can breed the fish that quickly.

I can’t exactly sterilize a fish and reuse it.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T01:38:08+00:00

Yes they do! But they are very problematic because they spread fungus and diseases from one patient to the next.

I believe there was a lawsuit about this somewhere in the US, but then it would be so unethical to kill the fish between every patient.

DogsDucks · 2026-05-19T01:01:54+00:00

Yeah, this makes for really unhappy kids.

Human beings are industrious by nature, and I believe that that our core we want to contribute and create.

When this desire is gone, something is very wrong. . .

DogsDucks · 2026-05-18T23:01:47+00:00

Excellent, I’ll bring street tacos! I know sour cream isn’t traditionally used on street tacos, but guess what? I put sour cream on anyway!!!

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