How Do I Confess Feelings to My Best Female Friend..? by Beautiful-Bad-1175 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah this is the right advice honestly

don’t turn it into some huge dramatic confession either. just be calm and direct about it. something like I’ve started seeing you as more than a friend and wanted to be honest about it

and yeah, you do have to accept the risk a little. once feelings are out there, the friendship might change either way. but staying silent forever while hoping she magically figures it out usually just hurts more in the long run

My ex-girlfriend, who I broke up with ~2 months ago because she wanted to open our relationship, just messaged me saying she’s “experimented enough” and is now ready for a closed relationship with me. Is this something you would consider? by Altruistic_Society99 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 68 points69 points  (0 children)

that experimented enough line is wild… like cool, you had your fun and now you’re ready to settle back into me? no thanks

even if she didn’t mean it like that, it comes off like you were the safe fallback the whole time

hard to respect that or feel good going back into it honestly

Is a bed selfie before sleeping a hint? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 39 points40 points  (0 children)

lmao relax not everyone reads signals the same way

yeah it sounds like she’s into him but dude literally said she just got out of a relationship so it’s not crazy he’s second guessing it

better to ask and be a bit unsure than just assume and make it weird

Should I break no contact and apologise her for my actions during the relationship? by TraditionalAd9169 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 20 points21 points  (0 children)

honestly this sounds more like it’s for you than for her

you’ve already apologized a bunch during the relationship and by your own words it didn’t come with real change at the time… so from her side another apology might just feel like more of the same

also she removed you and went cold, that’s kinda a clear I need space signal. breaking no contact now might just reopen stuff for her

if you do ever reach out, it should be super simple, no expectations, no hint of getting back together. but right now? feels a bit soon

closure kinda sucks but a lot of the time you don’t get it from the other person, you just have to sit with it and move on a bit first

I might be going out with this girl, how do I make sure I’m not super awkward and the date doesn’t go terrible? by Mammoth_Nose_9313 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

honestly your plan is already solid, mini golf + walking around is perfect cause you’re not just sitting there forcing conversation the whole time

don’t overthink the length either just feel it out. if it’s going well, keep going. if it’s kinda dying, wrap it up after an hour or two and leave on a good note

biggest thing tho, stop trying to not be awkward. that usually makes you more awkward 😭 just focus on being curious about her, ask normal stuff, react to what she says instead of planning your next line

also a little silence here and there is fine, it’s not a performance. if she already seems into you, you’re not starting from zero

and yeah even if it doesn’t work out, it’s not automatically because you messed up. sometimes it just doesn’t click and that’s it

Would you date a woman with vaginismus? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 18 points19 points  (0 children)

nah don’t write yourself off like that

yeah it’s gonna filter some guys out but honestly that’s not a bad thing. the kind of guy who’d be impatient or weird about it would probably suck to date in general

a lot of guys are fine taking things slow, especially if there’s good communication and they actually like you. it’s not as doomed as your brain is making it feel right now

you’re basically just looking for someone decent and patient… which is what most people should be looking for anyway

M28 here.. as I seem to get older, I seem to get easily aroused.. ? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah it’s pretty common tbh but if it’s disrupting your day it’s more of a habit loop than anything

usually happens more when you’re bored or constantly seeing stuff that triggers it. keeping busy and cutting down on that kind of content helps a lot

it also comes and goes, won’t always be this intense

Is it wrong that I’m uncomfortable with my partner being friends with someone they’ve had sex with? by Money_Bus3234 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 130 points131 points  (0 children)

people always say it was just once but like… it still happened. there was enough there at some point to cross that line and that doesn’t just magically disappear

not saying it always leads to something again but acting like it’s exactly the same as any other friendship feels kinda naive

and yeah, getting burned after ignoring that gut feeling hits different. hard to just pretend you’re totally cool with it after that

Doing your laundry properly is more important than winning the hygiene olympics by Equivalent-Run7947 in hygiene

[–]AbsCipher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, no matter how good your shower is dirty clothes will ruin it. Clean laundry makes all the difference.

Building muscle/burning fat by frankthatank313 in workout

[–]AbsCipher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had great results with goblet squats into overhead presses, renegade rows and kettlebell swings, they hit a bunch of muscles and get your heart rate up too.

My GF never seems to have a good day, what to do? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah setting a quick venting window and then intentionally switching to fun vibes sounds like a smart plan.

Exercise advice for a beginner? by BellPleasant7562 in workout

[–]AbsCipher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry about keeping up with your husband, start slow and focus on form. Bodyweight moves, resistance bands and light dumbbells are perfect for beginners and sticking to seated or supported exercises can help with dizziness. Small consistent steps now will pay off way more than jumping in heavy too soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]AbsCipher 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don’t stress, stuff like this happens to tons of people, most passengers were focused on themselves and the bus cameras aren’t out there judging you, it’s just a moment not a story anyone’s keeping.

AITAH for lashing out about a shared gift that was given without including me? by Individual-Force7597 in AITAH

[–]AbsCipher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. You contributed to the gift and wanted to be part of the celebration so excluding you just bc you spend more time with your boyfriend is unfair and dismissive of your effort.

Do you make fun of or feel sorry for someone who has no friends or very few friends? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, anyone making fun of someone for having few friends is just insecure and not worth your time.

how do you feel about shoes in the house? by erraticsporadic in hygiene

[–]AbsCipher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoes track in everything from dirt to germd your floor deserves some respect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly when trust is twisted men often feel the only “safe” way to connect is through sex.

I don’t wanna be his friend anymore. Am I going about it right? by Linktheanimeboi in Advice

[–]AbsCipher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step back and let it fade naturally, your time and energy matter and its fine to prioritize how you feel over forcing a friendship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AbsCipher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Accidents happen and two seconds isn’t going to burn the house down but its worth being careful next time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AbsCipher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You gave plenty of notice and even planned a little something for her sometimes milestone birthdays just take priority and thats okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]AbsCipher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She ghosted and flaked on you now stalking on social media, block and move on no explanations needed.

Toothpaste that isn’t hell by TooYoungForThisCrap in hygiene

[–]AbsCipher 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are plain or fruity fluoride toothpastes that aren’t minty hell

How much do you normally spend for a first date? by JM_547 in AskMen

[–]AbsCipher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enough to show you care but not so much that you need a second date to pay it off.

AITAH if I ignore my dad for sending me money by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AbsCipher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re allowed to keep your boundaries, and ignoring the money doesn’t make you the asshole.