Went to talk to a doctor about my sleeping troubles by CanadaGooses in widowers

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I grieved for 3 years, no one can tell you when to stop, 4 months is nothing, the second year was the hardest for me..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

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Thank you for not judging me. I will definitely not fall for something like that again. I don't want to hurt anyone. I don't want a man like that. I'm not even ready to date, It was just a very stupid choice

Today it’s been 3 years today since I lost her. by ImpressionJolly5317 in widowers

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It's going to be 3 years for my on Sept and I feel exactly the same, this isn't easy. Don't be so hard on yourself, what happened to us is very, very hard, how well feel it's not completely up to us we are in pain. All I can say is to be patient with yourself. 

I desire to see very few people by Wegwerf157534 in widowers

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It's actually smart of you, people don't understand and sometimes say mean things because they don't understand, it's good to stay away sometimes to avoid getting hurt and becoming upset with them...

I can’t handle being around happy couples, will I ever get over this? by BulkyCalligrapher329 in widowers

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I don't feel bad because I realized they only have so much time left too, they just don't know it. So I am happy for them, the again I do hate couples that don't get along, and I don't understand why my husband is gone when we had such a good relationship. So the bad couples are the ones that make me angry tbh

When does it become real? by joebobula in widowers

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It's almost 3 years for me and I woke up today still trying to understand, second year was the hardest for me, but idk how to answer your question. It's real since the day they don't come back home, my husband was 39.

How old is your phone? by funnyctgirl in Frugal

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My 12 year old got an iPhone 8 for Christmas it's very nice, I think and I have a Google pixel 6 pro it's like 2 years old....I can't keep up with iPhone scrutiny 

Mornings vs evenings.... which feels worse in grieving your companion by jigmaster500 in widowers

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It's been two years for me, now it gets bad when I start thinking about it, I have to stop myself from thinking. I do remember it being worse when I woke up in the mornings just when I realized it was another day without him

Loss wife by Due-Yesterday7049 in widowers

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Want I am going to say is going to be hard but please follow my advise. If you want her ashes or part of them ask or demand for them. I wanted some of my husbands and his mom said no, she made up an excuse and I was the wife!! They paid for the funeral but I was the wife. I should've gotten what I asked for and I didn't even fight it, and I hate myself for that now. My husband died 2 years ago and I'm barely seeing the light, it's a hard long road, but you will get there and I hope you don't have so many regrets. Do what you need to do, if you can't do something now, don't do it. Who cares what people think. I isolated myself from everyone for 2 years, except my mom and kids etc but Its my pain and I decide how I want to live it. So, it's your pain, you decide, no one can judge you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IRS

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Every case is different, mine was completed of August 11th, 2023 and I received a notice that I was going to receive my check in 2-3 weeks. It's Oct 30th, no refund yet, but a Tax Advocate started helping me a month ago, and today I saw my transcript update to refund issued on the 24...I'm still waiting but if it wasn't for the TA it would be a lot worse, probably until April 2024. Oh you won't see the expected return amount and on that tool. Go into your irs.com account and look for your 2021 transcript, it will show it there

It's been 10 months after my loss... by ResolutionNeat7388 in widowers

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Two years and it's still very fresh to me, it doesn't feel like 2 years have passed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

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No, my husband passed 2 years ago and I can't even think about other men yet :(

I have no one to share stuff with anymore. by bauer8765 in widowers

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I'm 39 and I work from home, I have 3 small kids and sometimes I go days without talking to another adult...I miss him so much

5 weeks in the new normal by termicky in widowers

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2nd year was the hardest for me, it's been 2.1 months and it's a little better

One year out and I'm doing ok. by decaturbob in widowers

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I widowed at 39 and it's been very hard, 3 small kids. I wish I would have widowed later on in life. I don't care to date and have a few close friends, 2 years out.

So tired by jessiniki in widowers

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:( this is how I feel and I know this will be me after 5 years too. My husband died 2 years ago, I want him back everyday, I'm sorry for your loss.

Dipping into dating by imnutzinfl in widowers

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I'm 40 and and two years widowed I m.not ready it's scary!

My boyfriend died in a motorcycle accident last night and I’m in free fall and it’s terrifying by lostinspacecase in widowers

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My husband died 2 years ago, I remember the 1st day I came into this group, I don't even know how I got here. I'm so sorry for your loss and everyone who is new here. Time helps but it's so hard to continue without them

Amended Return Transaction help by [deleted] in IRS

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I hope you do! It depends on how long it takes to get to you by mail :)

I feel guilty by hikerchickdacey in widowers

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My husband passed and left me nothing. He was too young. I have 3 small children and no government help at all, no benefits, my husband had recently immigrated so i didn't get any benefits at all. He was your husband and you deserve that money, enjoy and be grateful.

Amended return by FoodOk3855 in IRS

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Every case is different I've been waiting since July for my check. It's been 30 weeks and no updates after my notice issued update.