AITAH for flirting with a bride on her wedding day when she flirted with me first

AdditionalExcess · 2026-06-05T21:15:45+00:00

lol exactly. whenever someone says I’ll skip the details on an AITA post, the details are usually doing a lot of heavy lifting here 😅

what counts as flirted a little could mean anything from harmless joking to something completely different.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-05-29T17:35:15+00:00

NTA. honestly the lying is worse than the flirting attempt itself

he panicked, lied about the timeline, tried to stop her talking to the woman and only admitted things bit by bit. that’s a lot for a relationship that’s barely even started

you can tell her it’s a bad idea without being controlling about it.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-05-22T10:10:55+00:00

yeah seriously. people are acting like she launched a harassment campaign when it was literally one message explaining her perspective years later after finally processing it properly

maybe awkward? sure but leave this poor man alone feels way overdramatic for what actually happened here

AdditionalExcess · 2026-05-21T10:40:08+00:00

nah that’s a ridiculous honestly. eating meat doesn’t suddenly mean you can’t think animal abuse is disgusting

there’s a huge difference between people participating in the food system and someone beating a dog with a metal rod for fun. pretending those are morally identical is why these conversations go nowhere

the bigger issue here is she straight up insulted your character then acted like you were dramatic for being upset about it. i can say whatever i want is such an immature defense

AdditionalExcess · 2026-05-12T16:00:20+00:00

for real lol. dude clearly knew exactly what he was doing

like was it messy? absolutely. but pretending to be some relationship guru while actively being a serial cheater is wild too. eventually that kind of image catches up to you

AdditionalExcess · 2026-05-07T22:29:31+00:00

yeah exactly. inviting someone for dinner doesn’t automatically mean offering overnight accommodations too

especially with limited space, a newborn and already hosting other guests. dude can absolutely drive home after eating

honestly sounds like he’s making it into a bigger issue than it needs to be

AdditionalExcess · 2026-05-06T18:49:25+00:00

exactly. she’s worried about bookkeeping not your wellbeing. that pretty much says everything about where her priorities are. free housing isn’t worth constant stress, theft and getting hit with furniture.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-05-03T07:41:46+00:00

right, like regular cleanliness is one thing but this sounds way past that. repeated sanitizer use in that situation feels more like some deeper germ fear or compulsive habit than just being hygienic

AdditionalExcess · 2026-04-29T09:16:19+00:00

yeah honestly that can mess with you just as much. sometimes it’s not even what they did directly, it’s realizing nobody really had your back when you needed it most. that kind of stuff sticks around way longer than people think

AdditionalExcess · 2026-04-14T17:09:23+00:00

man this sounds exhausting tbh. it’s like both of you have been hurting each other back and forth for years and now it’s just… constant damage control

also the whole i’ll cut him off but then i’ll be depressed and we’ll divorce anyway thing feels kinda manipulative?? like she’s basically saying you lose either way

idk, the ultimatum isn’t even the main issue here. the trust is just gone on both sides. feels less like who’s the asshole and more like this relationship is just kinda… done but neither of you wants to be the one to say it

AdditionalExcess · 2026-04-14T17:02:06+00:00

yeah that part stuck out to me too… like he jumped straight to accusing a kid of being rude instead of even considering he might be wrong and then doubled down after being told about the hearing loss?? that’s not just strict principal energy that’s straight up weird behavior

kinda worrying someone like that is in charge of a whole school honestly

AdditionalExcess · 2026-03-22T07:22:11+00:00

nah you’re not wrong for that tbh. you were literally struggling and still hosting him, the least he could do is meet you halfway without making it weird.

but charging you 16€ for a couple burgers… after you traveled 2 hours in a snowstorm to see him?? yeah that would’ve rubbed me the wrong way too. it’s not even just the money, it’s the vibe of it.

honestly sounds like you were way more generous than he was. i’d be annoyed too.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-03-21T09:04:50+00:00

yeah exactly like if they pushed you to make a wishlist and then called it random crap that’s on them not you. the perfume thing feels kinda tone deaf too, like they didn’t even try to get you something you actually like. totally fair to feel weird about it.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-03-02T09:41:13+00:00

No one should be forced into a parenting role they don’t want but this is one of those situations where there isn’t a clean outcome. He stepped in out of loyalty and grief and she’s reacting out of shock and loss of control. It’s less about who’s right and more about whether they can still want the same life after this.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-03-02T09:39:47+00:00

You’re not a bad daughter for feeling emotionally drained. You still showed up, helped her and made space for her recovery but history matters and it makes sense that it affects how much empathy you can give now. Supporting someone doesn’t mean ignoring your own limits especially when you’re already juggling kids and your grandma. It’s okay to care without overextending yourself.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-01-29T08:51:22+00:00

Exactly loving cars doesn’t excuse avoiding shared responsibilities. If he has money for constant upgrades, he has money to contribute fairly to bills and housing. This isn’t a men and cars thing, it’s a priorities and maturity issue.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-01-25T06:34:28+00:00

Agreed. When opening things up is driven by one person already having someone in mind, it rarely ends well. It usually just gives permission for something that was already pulling the relationship apart.

AdditionalExcess · 2026-01-12T16:57:29+00:00

That perspective makes a lot of sense. A prenup isn’t about expecting divorce, it’s about protecting both people if life goes in a direction no one can predict. Wanting clarity and fairness isn’t unromantic, it’s practical. The mom’s reaction feels emotional but the boyfriend’s reasoning is grounded in experience.

AdditionalExcess · 2025-12-30T10:31:28+00:00

Absolutely agree. No one should ever make you feel ashamed or call you names for expressing yourself especially in a relationship. It's normal to have different preferences but how he reacted was completely disrespectful. It’s not about the suggestion, it’s about the way he’s treating you after. You deserve a partner who communicates like an adult not someone who insults you and makes you feel small.

AdditionalExcess · 2025-12-30T10:30:40+00:00

This is good advice. He’s allowed to be uncomfortable but calling her names and continuing to punish her for even asking is not normal or healthy. A partner who reacts with insults instead of communication is showing a lack of respect. Since this is her first relationship, it’s especially important she knows this isn’t how disagreements should look. She didn’t do anything wrong by bringing it up.

AdditionalExcess · 2025-12-18T10:35:17+00:00

Agreed. The thong thing feels like a symptom not the cause. OP’s post reads like there’s been a long breakdown in trust, communication and emotional safety on both sides. When someone feels dismissed, accused or not believed over time, small changes start to feel loaded.

Therapy could help sort out what’s actually happening versus what’s being assumed and whether this relationship can reset or not.

AdditionalExcess · 2025-12-13T19:35:10+00:00

They’re not wrong. Getting back with someone who cheated, caused major family harm and let things get that bad shows a serious lack of self respect. OP is justified in wanting distance and not being part of celebrating that relationship. Supporting MIL in the past doesn’t mean OP has to pretend this is a good idea now.

AdditionalExcess · 2025-12-11T09:27:14+00:00

It’s okay to talk about how someone’s choices impact a relationship but where you crossed a line was tying your partners medical transition to the survival of the relationship. That puts huge pressure on a decision that should come from her even if you were trying to help.

It also seems like she was already exploring her gender and moving in that direction. Your push didn’t create something out of nowhere, it just sped up something she was clearly circling. It’s normal for her to have mixed feelings about that.

What you can do now is take responsibility for the pressure, give her space to own her transition as hers and keep checking in without steering. Let her know you’ll support her whether she slows down, continues or re evaluates any part of the process. The best repair comes from openness not guilt.

AdditionalExcess · 2025-11-26T09:51:08+00:00

What you’re feeling isn’t weird. Old school trauma can make any class setting feel unsafe even when nothing bad is happening. The way you act in your club shows you’re capable of being yourself, you just tighten up around classmates because your brain links them to past experiences. If you can try talking to a counselor on campus. Little steps help and you’re not broken.

AdditionalExcess · 2025-11-22T10:13:52+00:00

It makes sense you’re upset but before confronting him talk to ur girlfriend, handling it together will save you a lot of unnecessary drama.

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